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10/27/2025

I tell clients that love is one piece of the pie of about 50+ pieces required to make a relationship work.

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10/04/2025

At a conference for work today put on by an organization Help Fathers Foundation. This topic is near and dear to my heart as I have helped many dads over the years. Many struggle when going through a divorce and for many years after.

Today's presentations showed a lot of stats about how what we think is happening inside relationships and intimate partner violence is not actually the truth of the matter. I took pictures of the presentation slides of 3 presenters that show a very different picture than main stream society thinks. Men and fathers are suffering in ways that go often go unseen or unacknowledged. I will put up some pictures in another post.

09/25/2025

Good book to read if you are raising boys:

Raising Cain by Dan Kindlon and Michael Thompson

We often look at boys and see strength, bravado, and resilience. Raising Cain gently, yet powerfully, reminds us that beneath that armor, boys often carry unspoken wounds. This book isn’t just about parenting—it’s about understanding the silent emotional battles that shape young men’s lives.

Kindlon and Thompson guide us through a reality that society rarely acknowledges: boys are taught to hide their feelings, to treat vulnerability as weakness. From playgrounds to locker rooms, they learn that silence earns approval while honesty risks ridicule. The tragedy is not just in the hurt—it’s in how this quiet pain can grow into anger, isolation, and broken adult relationships.

One profound lesson is that emotional literacy is as vital as any academic skill. The authors show that when boys have the freedom to express fear, sadness, or confusion, they don’t become weaker—they become whole.

Another truth woven throughout the book is the role of connection. Boys thrive not under rigid toughness but under authentic bonds—with parents, mentors, and friends who model openness and empathy. Kindlon and Thompson remind us that guidance isn’t about control; it’s about creating safe spaces where a boy’s true self is welcomed.

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09/25/2025

Start to believe in yourself.

09/19/2025

We look for the love we didn’t get as a child.

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09/08/2025

Worth the short read:

08/09/2025

is the therapeutic approach I have been specializing in for 20 years. It’s truly an amazing way to do therapy. The results are incredible.

EMDR What is EMDR? Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a therapeutic approach that primarily treats trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Developed by psychologist Francine Shapiro in the late 1980s, EMDR aims to help individuals process traumatic memories, reduce dis...

07/25/2025

My governing body recently hit 10,000 members! 🎉

/CNW/ - Memberships to the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors (BCACC) have crossed 10,000, marking a significant step towards addressing the growing demand...

07/16/2025

Clients sometimes send me funny memes:

05/30/2025

Choose wisely.

05/22/2025

05/10/2025

Great article with a lot of grounding strategies that are good tools for calming a worried mind:

Grounding techniques can help you manage distressing thoughts and flashbacks in the moment. Learn 30 techniques to add to your emotional toolbox.