Tyne Buchy Counselling Collective

12/11/2025

Learning boundaries can feel unfamiliar, but they don’t have to be complicated. Sometimes it starts with simple, accessible phrases like:
• “This is what feels okay for me right now.”
• “This is what I have the capacity for today.”
• “This is how I can stay grounded in this relationship.”

These gentle check-ins help you honour your needs while staying connected to others.
If you’re wanting support in building boundaries that feel safe and sustainable, you’re welcome to explore our services — the link in our bio has more information whenever you’re ready. ✨

12/04/2025

Holiday season can bring about a lot of stress for some people- especially anyone who has a high conflict personality (HCP) in their family. Here are some easy go-to tips to help manage interactions with HCP's throughout this holiday season.

1) Plan your boundaries- before you head over to your family's house, think about, write down, and plan out what boundaries you want to have. This is the time to think about what needs to be in place to make the interactions as smooth and peaceful as possible.

2) Think about the consequences for if your boundaries are trespassed on or violated. This may include having an exit strategy and may include informing other members of your family of the plan.

3) Practice or rehearse setting your boundaries. Role-playing with your therapist or a trusted family member/friend, can help you work out how to voice your boundaries and what changes you want to make before hand.

4) Know that it is okay to have boundaries, to enforce them and you are within your right to leave the space if you feel unsafe. Disengagement is okay, and sometimes it is necessary. You do not need to stay and endure abusive behavior out of obligation for the holiday's.

5) Engage in self-care, self-compassion and self-nurturing. When we have to engage in these relationships, it can be emotionally and physically draining. Find ways to be compassionate and extra caring to yourself before, during and after the engagements. Managing HCP's can take a lot from us, especially when we are boundary setting, find extra ways to nurture yourself throughout the holiday's.

12/03/2025

Winter can bring softer, slower emotions to the surface. If you’ve been feeling more tender, tired, or reflective lately, you’re not alone. 💙
Meeting yourself with warmth instead of pressure can make this season feel more manageable and supportive.

If you’re needing a space to explore these feelings with care, counseling is here to support you. You can find more information through the link in our bio.

11/27/2025

Does it sound strange? Sure. But its legit. There are many different things that can regulate our nervous system, including whistling and humming. Want to know more about how this works, why it works? Watch my good colleagues video on whistling and nervous system regulation.

11/27/2025

Healing isn’t about moving in a straight line—it’s about showing up for yourself, even when it feels messy.
Every step, small or large, matters.

If you’re looking for guidance through the ups and downs of your healing journey, gentle support is always available. 💛 Click the link in our bio to learn more.

11/20/2025

Rebuilding yourself after a harmful relationship isn’t about forgetting what happened—it’s about learning to trust your own voice again. Healing takes time, safety, and support, and it often begins with small steps that remind you of your worth and your boundaries. You deserve relationships that feel steady, mutual, and respectful.

If you want to explore these steps more deeply or get support on your healing journey, you can find resources through the link in our bio.

11/12/2025

Control often hides behind words like “I just care about you” or “I’m only doing this because I love you.”
But real care never leaves you feeling small, anxious, or monitored — it helps you feel seen, supported, and safe in your own choices.

Healthy love respects your boundaries. It celebrates your independence. It wants what’s best for you — even when that means giving you space to grow.

If you’ve ever questioned whether someone’s “care” feels more like control, that feeling matters. You deserve relationships where safety and freedom coexist.

💜 Learn more about building healthy, empowering relationships — visit the link in bio for resources and support.

11/07/2025

New video by my good colleague and friend Cameron Ferreira-Grunbaum on adult ADHD

New video on Youtube. If you have or suspect you have adult ADHD and struggle with the hyperactivity/inner restlessness symptoms, watch this video to understand the roots of these experiences to begin to understand how to work with them in a way that supports your needs. Link: https://youtu.be/x9FXgWPtNZE

11/05/2025

Emotional or psychological abuse can be hard to recognize because it often leaves no visible scars. It can look like manipulation, constant criticism, isolation, or subtle control that slowly wears down your confidence and sense of self.

You deserve relationships built on empathy, care, and respect — not fear or confusion. Healing begins with awareness and support.

If you’re noticing some of these signs or simply want a safe space to talk, we’re here for you. You don’t have to go through it alone — click the link in our bio to connect and take that first step toward support. 💜

10/31/2025

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Doing "the work" in a relationship doesn't mean fixing your partner or managing their emotions. And it definitely doesn't mean losing yourself in the process. ⬇️

We're told relationships take effort. And they do…the kind that starts with your own self-awareness and emotional responsibility.

Real growth in a relationship begins with personal accountability. It looks like regulating your own nervous system, communicating your needs clearly, and taking responsibility for your own happiness and healing.

What it doesn't mean is becoming your partner's therapist. Or suppressing your needs to avoid conflict. Or taking on their unresolved trauma as your project to solve.

When you focus on your own growth instead of trying to change someone else, you stop waiting for permission to feel secure in your own relationship. ❤️

10/30/2025

Mindfulness isn’t just a calming practice — it’s a powerful way to reshape your brain. ✨
Our latest blog post dives into how mindfulness changes your nervous system, rewires your brain, and supports healing from within.

Read the full blog: “Calm by Design: How Mindfulness Rewires the Brain” — click the link in our bio to learn more.

10/26/2025

Explore how mindfulness transforms your brain and heals your soul. Discover the simple daily strategies that can change your life. Read more: https://wix.to/5AGyW7Y

Exploring how mindfulness changes your nervous system, rewires your brain, helps you heal, and the simple daily strategies you can do Have you ever wondered why so many people seem to be on the train of mindfulness? Why does almost every mental health professional talk about mindfulness and how can....