05/05/2025
Going along with dementia creates harmony for the senior.
Caring for a loved one with dementia, Alzheimer’s, or another similar condition can be emotionally and physically challenging. As the disease progresses, individuals may experience confusion, memory loss, and delusions. While these symptoms can be distressing for both the person affected and their caregivers, there is an important strategy that can make a significant difference: going along with their delusions.
When someone with dementia or Alzheimer’s expresses a delusion—such as believing they are at a different place in time or looking for a long-departed loved one—there can be a natural instinct to correct them. However, trying to convince them that their perceptions are inaccurate can lead to confusion, frustration, and emotional distress. This is where the concept of “therapeutic fibbing” or simply "going along with it" can be beneficial.
Why is this approach important?
Reduces Anxiety and Agitation: People with dementia may feel threatened or confused when their reality is challenged. By going along with their delusion, caregivers can help reduce the person's anxiety, offering comfort rather than conflict. For instance, if someone believes they need to go to work, agreeing with them and gently redirecting them to an activity may help them feel calmer.
Maintains Dignity and Self-Esteem: A key aspect of caregiving is preserving the dignity of the person with dementia. Constantly correcting or arguing can lead to embarrassment and a sense of loss. By validating their feelings and joining them in their reality, caregivers show respect for their emotions, even if those feelings don't align with reality.
Promotes Better Communication: As dementia progresses, verbal communication may become more difficult. Going along with the delusion allows for continued connection. It might also create moments of joy, as the person may feel understood or experience a sense of fulfillment. These small moments can improve the quality of life for both the person with dementia and the caregiver.
Reduces Caregiver Stress: Caregiving can be a stressful and exhausting role. By accepting and adapting to the person’s delusions, caregivers can avoid the emotional drain of constant confrontation. This approach fosters a calmer, more peaceful environment that benefits both the caregiver and the person with dementia.
Conclusion
Going along with delusions in dementia care is not about dishonesty; it's about compassion and connection. It can provide emotional relief, preserve dignity, and improve the overall well-being of both the person with dementia and their caregivers. While every situation is unique, this approach can be a valuable tool in navigating the complexities of dementia care.
We Can Help
Unfortunately, there are times when “just going with it” is exhausting. It takes more from you than you can give. But your loved one’s mental wellbeing is still important to you. Vernon Seniors Care can help. Our professionally skilled Companionship Therapists are trained to diligently provide the highest possible level of care. And that included “just going with it”.
For outstanding assisted living care, call Vernon Seniors Care. Our evaluations are always free and come with no obligations. Ask for Teri…
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