Ross Tayler - Life Coaching

Ross Tayler - Life Coaching Ross Tayler
Life Coaching
for Empaths & Sensitive Souls

12/23/2025

When we face a decision, we often think in opposites: yes or no, go or stay. But there’s another way. Imagine three chairs—one for “yes,” one for “no,” and a third in the middle. That middle chair represents a space where both perspectives come together. When we sit there, something new can emerge, a third awareness we may not have considered.

This isn’t about forcing an answer but allowing stillness so the body can speak. From that place, decisions rise from the bottom up. The clarity that comes is often deeper, more aligned, and surprising in the best way.

Counseling and coaching for empaths and sensitive souls who want to break free from lifelong conditioning www.rosstayler.com

Enjoyed a forest walk in the rain this morning. Only a couple mushroom sightings.
12/20/2025

Enjoyed a forest walk in the rain this morning. Only a couple mushroom sightings.

12/20/2025

It can hurt when someone sets a boundary with us. That sting of separation can stay in the body—and it’s one of the reasons we avoid setting boundaries ourselves.

We need connection.
As kids, our survival depended on it.
And so a deep story forms:
“If I speak up or say no, I might lose love.”

This fear sticks with us. Especially if we’re prone to rejection or have wounds around abandonment.

But avoiding boundaries to stay connected is a painful trade.

We end up abandoning ourselves just to keep someone else close.

And that’s often the very dynamic we’re here to shift.

Counseling and coaching for empaths and sensitive souls who want to break free from lifelong conditioning www.rosstayler.com

12/18/2025

If someone walks away because you set a boundary, that’s often a sign. Something deeper in the relationship needed to surface. Something was already off.

Yes, setting boundaries can cost you relationships.
But the payoff is integrity.
It’s alignment.
It’s peace with yourself.

Boundaries aren’t always quick or easy.
But they’re a long-term investment in living honestly.
And every time you say no from that place, you’re also saying yes—yes to your truth, your energy, your values.

Boundaries aren’t just about protection.
They’re about clarity.
They help you come home to yourself.

Counseling and coaching for empaths and sensitive souls who want to break free from lifelong conditioning www.rosstayler.com

Making the best of a sunny morning after the storms have passed. So nice to feel the sun on my face.
12/17/2025

Making the best of a sunny morning after the storms have passed. So nice to feel the sun on my face.

12/16/2025

One way to make boundaries easier is to think ahead. What will you say when someone asks you for something you don’t want to give?

Let’s say someone asks, “Can you take my shift?”
My go-to is:
“Right now it’s a no. But if that changes, I’ll get back to you.”

Simple. Direct. No over-explaining.
When I worked in treatment centers, we used this same approach with clients—especially around things like being offered a drink. We’d say: Script it ahead of time. If you don’t, you’re on the spot. And when you’re on the spot, you’re more likely to say yes when you mean no.

So find your words in advance.
What’s true for you?
What’s simple and clear?

Your script doesn’t make you rigid.
It makes you ready.

Counseling and coaching for empaths and sensitive souls who want to break free from lifelong conditioning www.rosstayler.com

12/13/2025

The first thing we need when moving through uncertainty is trust. And for many, trust is deeply spiritual, trusting we’re being guided, that we’re not alone, that we’re on the right path. It’s closely tied to surrender. Like the wisdom in the serenity prayer and the foundation of AA, it reminds us that we can’t do it all ourselves. We’re invited to hand it over to something greater, whatever that may mean for each of us.

Alongside trust, we need commitment. A full yes. When we step into the process with both feet, something shifts. We stop resisting and start moving with the experience instead of against it. Trust and commitment don’t remove the discomfort, but they give us the inner posture to move through it.

Counseling and coaching for empaths and sensitive souls who want to break free from lifelong conditioning www.rosstayler.com

12/11/2025

The hero’s journey has three core phases: separation, initiation, and return. We move through these cycles again and again. I’ve been reflecting on the middle phase: initiation. It’s often the hardest because it brings us face to face with uncertainty.

Uncertainty can feel unbearable, especially for those of us with emotional trauma. In those early experiences, there was little to hold onto, little that felt safe or reliable. That lack of stability conditions us to crave certainty. But every time we move through the unknown, through the fog of initiation, we’re slowly reshaping our relationship with uncertainty, learning that we can move through it and come out the other side.

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12/09/2025

Working in addiction treatment, I witnessed the bravery it takes for someone to walk through the door. That moment of arrival, choosing to come, crossing the threshold marks a point of no return. From there, the time they spend in the program becomes an initiation. It's uncertain, uncomfortable, and filled with unknowns. There are no guarantees. Just a hope that on the other side, they’ll be stronger, more rooted, and less likely to return to the old patterns.

That middle space, where they don’t know what’s coming is often the hardest. And yet it’s essential. Growth happens there, not because it’s easy, but because they stay.

Counseling and coaching for empaths and sensitive souls who want to break free from lifelong conditioning www.rosstayler.com

12/06/2025

There was a time when my anger was coming out sideways. I didn’t always know it was there until it leaked out, sharp comments, frustration at the wrong people, or just shutting down. It took time, attention, and some deep work to become more conscious of when anger was present. Over time, it became something I could recognize and manage. It still shows up now and then, sometimes unexpectedly, but it’s no longer as intense or overwhelming as it once was.

I share this because it’s easy to judge ourselves when we want quick progress. But the process of healing and learning to express anger in healthy ways takes time. A helpful place to begin is simply asking: Why am I angry? That single question can begin to open everything.

Counseling and coaching for empaths and sensitive souls who want to break free from lifelong conditioning www.rosstayler.com

12/04/2025

To truly work with anger, we have to get curious: What am I actually angry about? That kind of clarity takes time. Sometimes it’s rooted in something happening right now. Other times, it traces back to older pain that hasn’t been resolved. Without understanding where the anger comes from, we might act on the surface. Take space, journal, say the right things, but still carry it deep inside.

This is where reflection is key. Look at your history and ask what still feels unresolved. At the same time, begin to discharge the energy. Anger is powerful, and it needs to move. It’s literally energy in motion. But in this culture, we’re often taught to suppress it. So we have to actively find safe, intentional ways to let it move.

Counseling and coaching for empaths and sensitive souls who want to break free from lifelong conditioning www.rosstayler.com

12/02/2025

One of the most important shifts is simply naming it: “I’m angry right now.” You don’t have to explain everything in the moment. You can say, “I’m not okay with what just happened. I need to take some space, and then I’d like to come back and talk about it.” That simple naming can break the pattern of suppression.

Often, we don’t let others know we’re angry, even when they can clearly sense it. When we hold it in, we end up carrying it, and the tension lingers. Then, the next time something happens, it explodes. Letting someone know you're angry is a powerful place to start.

Working with anger also means getting clear on what matters to you. Boundaries and values. What you need and what you care about, are often at the root of the anger. Clarifying those helps transform reactivity into clarity.

Counseling and coaching for empaths and sensitive souls who want to break free from lifelong conditioning www.rosstayler.com

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