Dayley Harper Health

01/26/2022

Love isn't hard. 
Love isn't painful;
Fear is. 
 
Your heart aches, you feel restless and insecure, and you're starting to armour up to protect yourself. You think, love is so hard! 
 
But it's not Love that makes you burn with jealousy or feel like your chest is being squeezed and you want to run away or lash out from the pain; it's fear. 
 
Fear of not being good enough. 
Fear that your man doesn't think you're beautiful. 
Fear that you're not interesting or fun or special enough.  
 
THIS is the source of your pain. 
 
And even though it somehow feels safer to close off, or become passive aggressive in the face of those fears (anyone else be like, 'I'm not mad 😠. I'm perfectly happy, just doing my thing over here😡"?) closing yourself off feeds the fear and shuts out the Love. 
 
So next time fear comes knocking, and it's telling you to play small, to close off your heart, and to make your life hard; resist it. 
 
Stay soft and expansive inside. 
 
It feels vulnerable AF. But the courage to ignore the fear and to stay open instead, is what takes away the pain, and grows your relationship deeper in Love.

01/18/2022

It is rare to find true love because most people are looking for it outside of themselves.

01/12/2022

Can you name your shame?  
  
Can you call it out of the shadows?  
 
Take a breath and surrender all control, all attempt at hiding, and let the fear come crawling into the light. 
  
I'll go first. 'I see you there. I know you by a few different names. 'Failed writer' and 'selfish mother' come to mind first.   
  
Can you hold space for these stories, the blame, the guilt, and the pain? Can you be with them, without suppressing or indulging them?   
  
Can you forgive them? Forgive yourself? Can you surrender into the stillness of observation of the inner chaos?  
  
Can you let go with gratitude for the awareness you now have; and the courage you mustered in order for the awareness to rise?  
  
You are a warrior.  
This is the path of yoga.

01/10/2022

I've been afraid to fully surrender into the wisdom of life. I spend my time dancing on the edge but never allowing myself to take the plunge over. 
 
I've been afraid to go to the next level of exploration - and to express myself in the world. 
 
I'm afraid of being misunderstood; and being ridiculed, rejected, or written off as foolish because of my yogi loving ways. 
 
But the scales have tipped - and a deep desire inside me has become bigger fear than my fear; 
 
a desire to fully realize my Self; to live in connection with life force, with presence, and with the magic of life beyond the box that our minds put it in. 
 
It's going to be an adventure. 
 
You coming?

11/29/2021

This changed my existence.  
  
The allure of having 'a lot' is an idea you've been sold by a consumption based culture. Your subconscious is always wanting more - more friends, more food, more money, more clothes - because you've been taught that 'more stuff' is synonymous with 'more value'. Ha! Oh man, this is so far from the Truth.   
  
You end up obtaining more and more but do you experience exponential joy? No. You actually start to suffocate yourself under the weight of it all. 
 
When you start valuing quality over quantity you cleanse your life of all the excess stuff that isn't serving you. And you make room for only people and things that nourish you.  
  
So what's 1 thing you've been hanging onto out of habit or an empty desire to have 'stuff', that isn't adding any true value to your life?  
  
Do you have the courage to let it go?  
  
(The answer is yes, yes you do).

11/26/2021

It's so easy to sit around wishing away your existence. 
 
Wishing you had more hair, 
Wishing your belly was a little more toned, 
Wishing you were somewhere else or with someone else, 
 
How much of your life is spent standing at the wishing well? 
 
This energy is wasted, I'm telling ya! The moment you're in, is key to everything you desire ✨ 
 
If you're at home reading, be fully at home reading. 
If you're sitting on your couch with your dog, be fully sitting at home with your dog. 
If you're swimming in the ocean, feel the water gliding across your skin. 
 
When you discover the here & now, everything in you comes alive.  
 
And no matter where you are, who you're with, or what you're doing, each moment becomes the most fulfilling experience ever.

10/28/2021

Have you ever held a blade made of ceramic? I was gifted one a long time ago & I used to use it when I went wild crafting.  
  
The blade was so weightless. It wasn't dense like steel. When I held it, the blade seemed like it was invisible.   
  
I used to call it my ghost knife.  
  
There is something different about harvesting & cutting plant medicine using a blade that is so light, so gentle; yet razor sharp. It's like the plant isn't being cut from it's roots - it's being cradled into oneness by the blade that removes it from the separation of being a 'yarrow plant', and brings it into wholeness with life.  
  
I've never said this to anyone and it sounds bit strange now that I have written it out.  
  
Strange, but magical.  
  
Anyway, it reminds me, that when life feels heavy; when the depression gets dense and the stress feels like it's weighing me down, separating me from others, that I can awaken the oneness by embodying what it feels like to be the ceramic blade.  
  
The light, weightless, flowing, soft yet sharp energy of my ghost knife.  
  
Moral is: go be like a knife today. A ceramic one friends.  
  
👻🙏

10/27/2021

"Meditation doesn't work". 
  
I hear this a lot!
  
When you say this, there are 2 things going on: 
 
1) what the person is describing themself doing, is often NOT meditation. It's "expectation-mindedness". You sit down and expect the act of you sitting & breathing to produce a stress-free state of *being*.   
  
But the intention of doing something and expecting a specific result, is the opposite of being in being! It is another form of doing*. And the peace you're looking for is NOT a doingness.
  
Hahah clear as mud right?  
  
2) you think that if meditation was "working", you would be feeling calm and stress-free. Again, see point #1 - you are in expectation mode, not meditation mode! 
  
Meditation is a practice of surrendering the mind. It's about releasing yourself of any expectations to feel or be anything at all, and it's about showing up with curiosity and allowing everything to just be. 
 
So the next time you sit, release yourself of all expectations and follow your breath out of doing and into being.

10/12/2021

I'm allergic to my own inauthenticity. 
 
Like anaphylactically allergic. 
 
My nerves become rattled and I develop an inner tremor. 
My throat starts to swell shut. And my breathing becomes shallow & weak. 
 
I used to have habits - behaviours - that kept these symptoms at bay. I developed a deep addiction that effectively allowed me to ignore these symptoms of self abandonment in order to please the crowd. 
 
My very own stab of epinephrine. 
 
The side effects of my addictions felt minimal compared to the idea of being rejected by the crowd - ostracized, disliked, or ridiculed for my authenticity. 
 
But a few years ago my behaviors of self medication stopped working. My addictions fell short and my anaphylactic response to self rejection started getting stronger and stronger. 
 
The pain was intense. But that's the only way it could have been. 
 
For if it wasn't, I might have chosen to continue along medicating my way into silence. 
 
The only way through was to choose to make Truth more valuable than reputation; to sacrifice temporary comfort for long-term peace. 
 
This choice is less common than you might think. 
 
And on some days when my authenticity shines and I'm left standing alone in my light, the discomfort I feel quickly fades into a sense of deep calm. 
Breath steady. 
Nerves smooth. 
And in a deep connection with all of life.

10/05/2021

The TO-DO list is crushing your happiness mojo yo.  
  
Seriously.   
  
I am a list QUEEN. I love me a good list that I can check off throughout the day.  
  
But when I make my TO-DO list my primary focus when I wake up, I've started the day by putting myself in cuffs.  
  
And guess who gets the key?  
 
Anyone or anything I've put on that TO-DO list.  
  
Lemme explain... 
 
We've been so conditioned to believe that our actions and results in the world create our inner experiences 👉 ie. "When I just write this post - or when I run those errands - I will feel calm & free". 
  
So under the guise of this belief, what do you do?   
  
You hold onto tension, stress, and anxiety as you spend your day doing life. And only when you've checked something off your list do you get a break from the stress & allow yourself a glimpse of being content or happy.  
  
This means 85% of your day or so is spent in stress & frustration waiting to accomplish stuff.  
  
THIS IS INSANITY.  
  
So stop - PUT DOWN YOUR TO-DO's - and before you move another inch in the external world, check-in with your inner one.  
  
Establish your list of "TO-BE's".  
  
She looks like this✍️:  
  
🌻 connected to inner spaciousness  
✨ curious & playful  
🦋 in touch with the natural ebb & flow of stillness at all times  
  
When you make your TO-BE list primary, and your TO-DO list secondary you have started a reclamation.   
  
A reclamation of your power.  
  
Your mood - aka inner experience - is no longer dependent on anything that does or doesn't get done.   
✨You are no longer a victim to the world or your ability to perform in it✨  
  
And your experience of joy, calm, and clarity of mind become untouchable.  
  
That's power babes 🌻

10/05/2021