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True Peace Counselling counsellors use somatic and body-based approaches to break patterns and rewrite the beliefs that no longer serve you.

New on the blog this week - Blame vs. Responsibility: Empower Yourself Through a New Mindset. You have recognized that t...
04/27/2026

New on the blog this week - Blame vs. Responsibility: Empower Yourself Through a New Mindset.

You have recognized that the blame mindset feels safe, but it ultimately leads to loneliness. It is time to shift into the responsibility mindset. A part of you may feel excited at the prospect of a stronger sense of self and healthier relationships. Another part may feel disheartened at the prospect of more personal work. It is okay to feel tired, but remember: recognizing the need for change doesn't mean that you are broken. It means that you are growing, and that is admirable.

Shifting your mindset requires effort upfront, and that effort is often what stops people. Instead of trying to change everything at once, make the change little by little. Start by envisioning what a responsibility mindset will feel like, and the rest will follow.

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I remember my first encounter with counselling. I was 18, in my first year of university, and putting way too much press...
04/24/2026

I remember my first encounter with counselling. I was 18, in my first year of university, and putting way too much pressure on myself.

The counsellor asked what brought me to therapy, and I told him that I needed to know how to handle my emotions so that they didn't ruin my life.

Fast-forward a decade or two, and here I am, running my own counselling practice. What I have learned is that therapy is about so much more than learning to handle emotions. It's about learning to relate to yourself.

What actually happens in therapy? You get to know yourself. And when you get to know yourself, you choose how to treat yourself.

No one deserves to be degraded, criticized, constantly judged. So why do you live with a judgmental and critical inner voice?

In therapy, you don't just learn that it is important to be kind to yourself - you learn how to get past the inner narrative that says "I'm not allowed to be kind to myself"; to recognize the fear that comes from believing that being kind to yourself will make you weak.

We all want to feel strong. We want to know that we are valuable and loved for who we are. Therapy helps you genuinely connect with yourself, so that you don't just know how to handle your emotions; you feel confident handling life.

If you're ready to go from inner critic to inner strength, we are ready to help. Book a free consultation with one of our counsellors at True Peace Counselling — link in bio.

I know that when I feel overwhelmed and stuck, it seems like I am all out of choices. The truth is that if I am feeling ...
04/22/2026

I know that when I feel overwhelmed and stuck, it seems like I am all out of choices.

The truth is that if I am feeling that way, it means that I need to pause.

I have a tendency to push forward in an attempt to ignore what I don't want to see. That doesn't get me unstuck; instead, it overwhelms me further.

Things change when I stop, take a breath, and ask myself...

What are my choices?

Overwhelm can make it seem like our choices have disappeared. Everything feels busy, intense, and the only thing that seems to make sense is to keep going blindly with the hope that it eventually lifts.

Pausing seems counterintuitive. How can you stop when you have so much going on?

When you feel blinded by overwhelm, pausing helps you see again. That pause allows you to ground yourself, and to refocus on what is most important.

If this feels familiar, we would love to help.

Book a free consultation with one of the counsellors at True Peace Counselling. We can help you find your choices again.

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When I became a mom, I quickly learned that I wasn't as patient of a person as I had always thought I was. Exhaustion, h...
04/20/2026

When I became a mom, I quickly learned that I wasn't as patient of a person as I had always thought I was. Exhaustion, hormones, stress... they all contributed to me feeling overwhelmed, and losing my temper.

This is a true story about losing my temper with my husband. It was a silly fight, like so many fights are, and it would be so easy for me to sink into shame when I recall how I acted.

Instead of letting shame overcome me, I choose to reflect on the growth that came from this experience.

I apologized, and in my apology, I stated "You don't deserve to be treated like that."

This statement was vulnerable. I was admitting that I had treated my partner in a way that he didn't deserve to be treated, and that, in doing so, I had hurt him.

In the past I would have worried that if I admitted wrongdoing, I was admitting that I was "less than." If I messed up, it meant that *I* was messed up.

My own counselling, and working as a counsellor, has helped me learn that just because I mess up, it doesn't mean that I am worthless.

In fact, I can own up to my mistakes because I am confident in my self-worth.

That confidence has changed my life. I look at the world differently now, and my relationships are much healthier because of it.

You can be confident in your self-worth too, and a True Peace Counselling counsellor can help.

If you know me personally, one of my associates may be the right fit.

Book a consultation, and find out how counselling helps you go from losing your temper to genuine repair. Take it from me, it is a journey worth taking.

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Being afraid to make mistakes can feel like an elephant sitting on your chest. The pressure to do better, to be better, ...
04/17/2026

Being afraid to make mistakes can feel like an elephant sitting on your chest.

The pressure to do better, to be better, to never mess up, makes it hard to breathe.

You might not realize that you are so focused on not screwing up because you are defining your worth by your accomplishments.

If I do well, I am worth much.

If I fail, I am worthless.

That's a gut punch feeling.

Let me tell you right now: You are allowed to make mistakes. You are human, and mistakes are a part of this messy life we live.

I used to do the same thing. I would put so much pressure on myself to be perfect that I would break down crying from anxiety. It was paralyzing, and I was so lost in my own self-demanding narrative that I couldn't see that I was causing the problem.

When I couldn't handle the pressure anymore, I went to counselling. My counsellor helped me realize that I am defined by so much more than my mistakes.

Now I am inviting you to do the same. If you relate to this post, book a free consultation with a counsellor at True Peace Counselling, and find out how you can redefine your worth.

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Most people picture counselling as sitting across from someone and talking through what's bothering them. That’s a part ...
04/15/2026

Most people picture counselling as sitting across from someone and talking through what's bothering them. That’s a part of it, but not the whole picture.

Top-down processing works through the mind: reframing thoughts, making meaning, and putting words to what you're feeling.

Bottom-up processing works through the body: noticing sensations, listening to your nervous system, and bringing healing to the parts of you that escape words.
If you want to identify and heal patterns that keep you feeling stuck, then bottom-up processing is essential.

Most of us have never learned how to do bottom-up work.

At True Peace Counselling, we work with both bottom-up and top-down processing.
If you're curious what that looks like in practice, we would love to connect.

Book a free consultation at truepeacecounselling.janeapp.com, or learn more about our team at www.truepeacecounselling.com/team

“It’s not my fault!” I don’t know what “it” is, but I do know that most of us at some point in our lives have had this t...
04/13/2026

“It’s not my fault!” I don’t know what “it” is, but I do know that most of us at some point in our lives have had this thought. Generally speaking, the question of blame and fault arises when we are in conflict with someone we care about.

Getting stuck in a blame mindset feels awful. You feel angry at the other for letting you down, and at the same time you may be questioning whether the fault is with you instead. “Am I wrong?” you might text a friend, after a lengthy explanation of the conflict. At the same time, you are inwardly fuming about how you have been wronged. It is confusing, exhausting, and worst of all, with a blame mindset, the conflict never gets resolved; it just gets swept under the rug (eventually).

The longer this pattern continues, the more connection erodes.

New on the blog this week - Blame vs. Responsibility: Why Fault is Never the Point

Explore how a blame mindset keeps you locked in conflict, and what you can do instead.

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Do you take everything that other people say to heart? Or maybe you do the opposite - you wall yourself off so that no m...
04/10/2026

Do you take everything that other people say to heart? Or maybe you do the opposite - you wall yourself off so that no matter what someone else says or does, you are not emotionally affected.

This is where emotional boundaries come in. An emotional boundary is the filter through which we decide what to take to heart, and what to dismiss.

Imagine you have a bubble around you. When someone says something to you - maybe it is feedback on your behaviours, or perhaps a comment on your skill level - you get to decide when you allow to enter the bubble. That bubble is your filter.

The key question is - what should you let in?

If emotional boundaries are too rigid, you forgo connection and intimacy.

If emotional boundaries are too porous, you are not emotionally protected. You allow yourself to get hurt.

A healthy emotional boundary filters out anything that is disrespectful, unkind, untrue, or unnecessary.

In other words, you can let in words that are kind, respectful, true AND necessary.

Not sure how to create a healthy emotional boundary? You're not alone. We aren't taught these skills in high school, are we?

Book a free consultation with a True Peace Counselling counsellor today. We can help.

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PS: I want to give credit to the wonderful work of the Relational Life Institute, which is where I learned this information.

You've done the work: read all the self-help books, listened to the podcasts, watched YouTube videos. And none of it is ...
04/08/2026

You've done the work: read all the self-help books, listened to the podcasts, watched YouTube videos.

And none of it is working.

You know what to do, but in the heat of the moment, you fall back to the old way of doing things.

You yell when you lose your temper.

You can't speak up when it is time to challenge conflict.

You lie when telling the truth is uncomfortable.

And you're frustrated. You are working so hard to be better, and you keep messing up. Why?

At True Peace Counselling, we know how to help. You have fixed the knowledge problem, but you haven't touched the emotions problem. When emotions take over, all the knowledge in the world won't help you.

Let us help. We will help you get in touch with your emotions so that you can put to use the knowledge that you have worked so hard to learn.

Want to learn more? Book a free consultation today.

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The most important part of boundary setting is often the part that people get wrong. When you communicate boundaries, it...
04/06/2026

The most important part of boundary setting is often the part that people get wrong. When you communicate boundaries, it is essential to keep the focus on YOU.

Why? Because you cannot control another person, but you can control yourself.

We've all been there. We tell someone "Stop doing that thing. I'm setting a boundary." ... and then they do that thing anyways. Now what?

When you set a boundary from the "I," you empower yourself. You say "If you continue to do that thing, I am going to leave the room."

The other person doesn't have to stop, and you have communicated your action plan. If they want you to stay, they know what they have to do. Simple.

What's not simple? Working through the fear of "What if they don't stop doing the thing?"

The knowledge of how to set a boundary is simple, but the emotional work it takes to follow through on boundary setting is not.

At True Peace Counselling, we focus on the emotional work. We empower clients by helping them listen to their feelings, get in touch with their bodies, and replace old beliefs that aren't serving them anymore.

Does this sound like a good fit for you? Book a free consultation today.

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Happy Valentines Day, everyone! This month's blog theme is Strengthening Relationships, and here are two posts for you t...
02/14/2025

Happy Valentines Day, everyone! This month's blog theme is Strengthening Relationships, and here are two posts for you to read on the blog (www.truepeacecounselling.com)

The Power of Assertive Communication: Strengthening Relationships with Clear and Confident Conversations

Apologizing with Confidence: Strengthening Relationships and Self-Worth Through Accountability

Did you know that strengthening your communication skills not only improves your relationships, but also boosts your self-esteem and self-confidence? Check out my blog to learn more.

If you like what you read, please like, follow, and share this post with a friend.

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Being a cycle breaker doesn't just change your life - it impacts generations to come.
02/05/2025

Being a cycle breaker doesn't just change your life - it impacts generations to come.

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