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Life can be hard — and sometimes, it helps to have someone walk alongside you.

With over 20 years in healthcare, I support individuals of all ages navigating anxiety, depression, grief, trauma, ADHD, and life transitions. When a person is struggling and is going through something really difficult , it is not easy to see beyond those intense emotions. Each persons emotional experience is unique to them and it is my role to meet you here. In order to support each individual person’s wellness journey it is vital for me to understand what I can do to help you RISE ABOVE whatever it is that is holding you back from living your best life. Working alongside of you during this empowering time is what helps me life my best life. We are all deserving of experiencing this and sometimes a bit of therapeutic guidance and support is necessary when we just don’t know how to start the healing process.

08/10/2025

“Have the courage to be disliked.”

Setting healthy boundaries often means someone won’t like it — and that’s okay.

Boundaries aren’t about controlling others; they’re about protecting your own well-being. When you say no, take space, or speak your truth, you may disrupt someone’s comfort — especially if they’ve benefited from your lack of boundaries in the past.

Remember:

• You are not responsible for managing other people’s feelings.

• Discomfort is not danger — it’s a sign of growth.

• Respecting yourself sometimes means being misunderstood.

In therapy, we call this tolerating relational discomfort — the ability to stand firm in your values even if others disapprove.

Your worth is not measured by how many people like you. It’s measured by how well you honor yourself.

07/21/2025

Turning Grief into Growth – You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

Grief can feel heavy, isolating, and overwhelming. But like the image shows, when we face it, nurture it, and allow ourselves to process it, something new can grow from the pain.

I’m Vanessa Butler, MSW, BSW, RSW – a Master’s-level social worker with over 20 years of experience in healthcare and mental health. Through my private practice, Time to Shine Therapy, I support individuals and families navigating grief, loss, anxiety, and life transitions.

With a trauma-informed, compassionate approach, I help my clients:

• Process grief without feeling “stuck” in it.

• Learn tools to cope with emotional waves.

• Find meaning and healing after loss.

• Rebuild a sense of hope and purpose.

I offer individual therapy sessions so you don’t have to navigate this journey alone.

If you or someone you love is carrying grief and needs a safe, professional space to process it, reach out. Healing doesn’t erase the loss, but together we can help you grow through it.

📧 vanessa@timetoshinetherapy.ca

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07/19/2025

Sometimes standing up for yourself feels like it might burn bridges.

But protecting your peace and setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.

I help clients learn to:

• Build confidence and self-worth
• Set boundaries without guilt
• Break free from toxic dynamics
• Navigate relationships while staying true to themselves

If you’re ready to prioritize yourself and create a life that feels healthy and balanced, therapy can help.

Vanessa Butler, MSW, RSW

07/16/2025

Have you been in a relationship where you were constantly made to feel like the problem?
Where your words were twisted, your memories questioned, and your confidence chipped away—until you weren’t even sure what was real anymore?

Whether you’re still in it, trying to get out, or healing from it, narcissistic abuse is real. It’s subtle. It’s manipulative. And it can leave deep scars—emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually.

I’m Vanessa, a therapist and registered social worker. I’ve supported many individuals—women, men, and non-binary folks—through the painful, confusing, and often invisible aftermath of emotionally abusive relationships. And I’ve walked that path myself.

Here’s what I want you to know: You’re not weak. You’re not imagining it. And you’re not alone.

In therapy, we can work together to:

• Rebuild your trust in yourself

• Learn to set boundaries that protect your peace

• Untangle the shame that was never yours to carry

• Understand the impact of emotional manipulation and gaslighting

• Start making choices from a place of strength—not survival

This isn’t one-size-fits-all therapy. My work is trauma-informed and rooted in lived experience and over 20 years of supporting people in the real world. I offer compassionate, nonjudgmental support—regardless of where you’re at in the process.

If any of this resonates, reach out. Let’s talk. A 15-minute consultation could be the beginning of something different.

You don’t have to keep managing this alone. Help is here. And healing is possible.

—Vanessa Butler, MSW, RSW
Time to Shine Therapy
www.timetoshinetherapy.ca

07/15/2025

“It never hurts to keep looking for sunshine.”

But let’s be honest — sometimes life feels more like wandering through a foggy forest with no flashlight.
Sunshine stealers? We’ve all met them: burnout, anxiety, ADHD brain, impossible parenting guilt, generational trauma, toxic exes, perfectionism dressed up as “just trying my best,” and that relentless inner critic who just won’t zip it.

That’s where I come in.

I’m a registered social worker (MSW, BSW, RSW) with over 20 years in healthcare, and I help people find their footing again — or maybe for the first time. Therapy with me isn’t all tissues and trauma dumps (though we do that too). It’s real, it’s reflective, and yes — we laugh. A lot.

I work with women, neurodivergent adults, trauma survivors, and anyone who’s tired of shrinking themselves to make others comfortable. You don’t have to fake the sunshine. We’ll find it together — and make it real.

Offering virtual sessions across BC and in-person therapy soon in downtown Victoria.

Reach out if you’re ready to clear some clouds.

07/09/2025

Let them misunderstand you. Let them judge you. Let them twist your truth.

There is a radical kind of peace that comes when you stop explaining yourself to people committed to misunderstanding you. When you realize their version of you is not your responsibility to correct.

Let them lie.
Let them play the victim.
Let them tell the story their way.

Because here’s the thing—your peace is not up for debate.
Your integrity doesn’t require their validation.
And your growth? That speaks louder than any gossip ever could.

Letting go of the need to be understood by everyone is freedom.
Letting them judge is power reclaimed.

Protect your energy. Stand tall in your truth.
And let them talk.

07/01/2025

🌟 Learning to Be Okay With Who You Are: A Path to Healing 🌟

So many of us learn to cope by numbing or distracting — whether through endless scrolling, working too much, overeating, alcohol, or gambling — all in an effort to quiet the pain within. While these patterns may feel protective, they often keep us disconnected from our true selves and from what we value most.

Healing begins when we find the courage to turn toward our struggles, with honesty and compassion, instead of running away from them. It takes strength to face the parts of yourself you have hidden — but this is where true growth and freedom can begin.

I’m Vanessa Butler, MSW, BSW, RSW, a social work therapist with over 20 years of experience in healthcare and mental health. My practice, Time to Shine Therapy, is rooted in evidence-based, trauma-informed, and client-centered approaches. I support individuals dealing with a wide range of challenges, including anxiety, trauma, depression, life transitions, self-worth struggles, and ADHD.

In therapy, I will work alongside you to:

✅ Unpack painful patterns that keep you stuck
✅ Build self-compassion and acceptance
✅ Heal from trauma and difficult past experiences
✅ Navigate challenges related to ADHD or other neurodiversity
✅ Develop healthier ways to cope and connect
✅ Reconnect with your authentic self

You do not have to face this alone. You deserve a space where you can feel safe, seen, and valued — a space to explore who you are and to learn that you are enough, exactly as you are.

✨ Your healing is worth it. ✨
If you are ready to take that first step, I would be honoured to support you.

💻 www.timetoshinetherapy.ca
📧 vanessa@timetoshinetherapy.ca

06/28/2025

🌺 Let Joy Take Root 🌺

Allowing joy to take root in your heart isn’t just a feel-good sentiment — it’s a vital act of self-care and resilience. When we give ourselves permission to feel joy, even in small ways, we strengthen our inner resources. Joy helps us build hope, expand our perspective, and reconnect to what matters most. It becomes a buffer against stress, softening life’s harsh edges and reminding us that beauty and possibility still exist.

When joy takes root, it creates space for dreams to grow, for laughter to flourish, and for light to break through the darkest days. It helps us remember who we are beyond our struggles, empowering us to move through life with courage and grace.

So let your heart welcome joy — allow it to bloom, to dream, to smile, to shine. You deserve a life where joy is not just an occasional visitor, but a steady companion. 🌟

06/24/2025

Therapist confession:
Sometimes I look at a client and think, “How are you still standing with all that you’ve been carrying?”

And then I remember — humans are wildly resilient (and also a little stubborn).

This image? It hit me in the soul.
Because yes, some days it feels like the weight will never lift…
But other days, you start to realize: that same weight taught you patience, built your empathy muscle, and gave you a sixth sense for spotting red flags from a mile away 👀🚩

“May all the heavy things you’ve been carrying…
one day carry you.”

Until then? Let’s unpack the boulders, name them, maybe give them a little sarcastic nickname (looking at you, ‘Perfectionism Patty’), and gently place them down.

You don’t have to carry it all alone.
That’s what I’m here for.

’tHaveToLiftItAlone

06/21/2025

✨ Self-Worth Isn’t Earned — It’s Remembered ✨

So often we hope for beautiful things — love, peace, success, healing.

But when they finally arrive, we pause. We question. We wonder if we’re truly worthy of receiving them.

Let me say this clearly, as both a therapist and a fellow human navigating the messy magic of life:

🌟 You don’t have to prove your worth.
🌟 You don’t have to shrink when joy knocks on your door.
🌟 You are allowed to receive — fully and unapologetically.

May the next beautiful thing that happens to you be something you don’t sabotage because you think you haven’t “earned it.” May you welcome it with open arms, knowing that healing and happiness belong to you, too.

And if you’re still struggling to believe that?
That’s okay. That’s human.
That’s why I’m here.

Let’s rebuild that belief together — one breath, one boundary, one brave choice at a time. 💛

06/19/2025

🌿 Your simplicity makes you beautiful. 🌿

In a world that constantly asks us to be more, do more, prove more—
there is quiet magic in simply being you.

Not polished. Not perfect. Just real.
✨ Wholehearted. Honest. Human.

You don’t need to twist yourself into shapes that don’t fit.
You don’t have to shrink, strive, or apologize for softness.

🌸 Your heart, just as it is, is more than enough.
🌱 Your simplicity is strength.
🌼 Your truth is power.
🌺 Your presence is beautiful.

If you’ve been feeling lost in the noise,
let this be your gentle nudge back to yourself.

💛 I see you. I honour your journey.
And I’m here when you’re ready to bloom.

06/12/2025

🌟 At Time to Shine Therapy, I believe in a balanced life:

Compassion without compromise. Kindness with clear boundaries.

This simple image says it best:

Do no harm. Take no sh*t. (Yes, I said it—because sometimes healing needs bold truth.)

As a therapist, I help clients navigate the space between people-pleasing and self-protection.

💬 “Do no harm” means leading with empathy and intention.

🚫 “Take no sh*t” means knowing your worth and standing firm in it.

You don’t have to choose between being kind and being strong.

You can set boundaries and still be a good human.

You can speak up for yourself without guilt.

✨ Healing is not about becoming someone else—it’s about coming home to who you are, with both heart and backbone.

If this resonates, therapy might be the next step in your journey to reclaim peace, power, and presence.
Let’s find your balance together.

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