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12/19/2025

These questions aren’t just for parents and teens — they’re for any relationship you want to care for.

I use this 4-question check-in with friends, partners, coworkers, teens, and even as a self-reflection practice:

• What feels good and you want me to keep doing?
• What were the hiccups?
• What are you avoiding telling me?
• What’s coming up on the calendar?

Sometimes the check-in is quick.
Sometimes it brings up repair.
That’s not a failure — that’s the work of being in relationship.

Connection isn’t about getting it right.
It’s about checking in often enough that repair feels possible.

I Wish I Had Known: relationship check-ins are useful for all types of connectionsPartners, friends, siblings, parents, ...
12/17/2025

I Wish I Had Known: relationship check-ins are useful for all types of connections

Partners, friends, siblings, parents, co-workers, and anyone else! Check-ins can be as simple as 4 questions:
What's going well?
What needs work?
What have you been avoiding?
What's coming up on the calendar?

It's up to you/each connection how often these happen. It can feel clunky and awkward at the beginning, but if both parties do well with a structure like this it can be super helpful. I've seen it make a monumental difference for clients and in my own life.

12/16/2025

Slowing down to enjoy my breakfast with a book is surprising me. I read more, I pause, and I love my bookmark. 9/10

Have you ever finally gotten the kids to bed, sat down…and still felt like your insides were buzzing?That’s because the ...
12/12/2025

Have you ever finally gotten the kids to bed, sat down…and still felt like your insides were buzzing?

That’s because the stressful moment ended — but your body didn’t get the memo.

Stress doesn’t leave your body automatically. It needs help completing the stress cycle, and until you do, you stay tense, irritable, or emotionally flooded.

Here are 9 science-backed ways to help your body finish what it started (with my Auntie Julia prioritization):

THE TOP 3 (your nervous system’s favourite tools):

Move your body. Walk, dance, do three squats while glaring at the dishwasher — it all counts. 20 minutes of movement is *chef's kiss*

Cry. Yes, crying in the shower absolutely counts. The stress is gone when you shudder and have a huge exhale.

Laughter. The kind where you lose your breath and can’t finish the sentence.

OTHER HIGHLY EFFECTIVE TOOLS:
4. Small social moments — tiny interactions that remind your brain the world is safe.
5. The primal scream — pillow, car, nature, laundry room. Honestly? A game-changer.

GENTLE NERVOUS SYSTEM RESET:
6. Deep breathing — box breathing (4-4-4-4).
7. Affection — hugs, pets, kisses, snuggles.

BONUS BOOSTERS:
8. Creative expression — colouring, singing, painting, baking.
9. Muscle clench + release — clench everything for 10 seconds, release slowly, repeat.

TL;DR:
Stress lives in your body.
Let’s help it move through.
Try 1–2 of these each day — especially on the days you feel like you’re running on fumes.

If you want more tools that make parenting calmer and connection easier, visit askauntiejulia.com 💜
Share this with someone who needs a nervous system reset.

I Wish I Had Known: moving my body to music shifts my brain and my body This works differently for people, I've noticed....
12/10/2025

I Wish I Had Known: moving my body to music shifts my brain and my body

This works differently for people, I've noticed. Some of us want to listen to something to encourage us to feel differently, while others want music that helps us feel more deeply. I have a dear friend who loves sad music to help them cry, and another who appreciates really angry music because it helps calm the rage they feel because they know they're not the only one experiencing it.

This movement could be dancing, or walking, or stretching, or really any kind of movement.

12/09/2025

Episode 8: Loom Knitting 10/10
Easy, fun, I feel productive and create a gift for someone. Love that I can watch the quick progression

Get  •  Happy Pans*xual & Panromantic Pride Day!Today is a wonderful reminder of the vast spectrum of s*xuality and roma...
12/08/2025

Get • Happy Pans*xual & Panromantic Pride Day!

Today is a wonderful reminder of the vast spectrum of s*xuality and romantic love!

What do pans*xual and panromantic mean?

Pans*xuality and panromanticism are about being attracted to people regardless of their s*x or gender identity – emotionally, romantically or s*xually.

It does not mean an attraction to anyone and everyone! It generally means gender is not a determining factor for attraction to others.

Share this post and show your pride and support! 🩷💛🩵

Get  •  It's been more than 35 years since the murder of 14 women at Polytechnique Montréal (December 6, 1989). This act...
12/06/2025

Get • It's been more than 35 years since the murder of 14 women at Polytechnique Montréal (December 6, 1989). This act of violent misogyny shook our country and led Parliament to designate December 6 as The National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women.

On December 6, we remember:

Geneviève Bergeron
Hélène Colgan
Nathalie Croteau
Barbara Daigneault
Anne-Marie Edward
Maud Haviernick
Barbara Klucznik-Widajewicz
Maryse Laganière
Maryse Leclair
Anne-Marie Lemay
Sonia Pelletier
Michèle Richard
Annie St-Arneault
Annie Turcotte

As we mourn their loss and remember their lives, we reaffirm our commitment to fight the hatred that led to this tragedy, and the misogyny that still exists today. In Canada and around the world, women, girls and 2SLGBTQI+ individuals face unacceptable violence and discrimination. The National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence Against Women is about remembering those who have experienced gender-based violence and those who we have lost to it.

16days

12/05/2025

Encouragement to have FUN! Find what feels good

I Wish I Had Known: doing things just for fun is really good for my well-being Kids are really good at this, and I'm so ...
12/03/2025

I Wish I Had Known: doing things just for fun is really good for my well-being

Kids are really good at this, and I'm so glad I get to hang out with them on a regular basis. Part of the joy of life is that we are creatures who create and participate in things that are FUN! Maybe that's spicy times, or jumping on a trampoline, or making a snow angel (did that yesterday), or eating something delightful. Maybe it's a solo hike, or crochet, or playing video games, or seeing a movie in theatres.

We have so much capacity for fun, and as adults we often need reminders that it's okay to laugh and enjoy the frivolity of being alive.
Have you got a Wish I Had Known? Reach out! You could be featured!

12/01/2025

Episode 7: Rest & Rejuvenation
Holiday Card Exchange 10/10

I participate in a community bolstering annual holiday card exchange. I love it! Plus, I get to use a calligraphy set I got a few years ago but never tried.

Next is to paint the envelopes and get stamps. I love snail mail, plus finding where to put 40 cards around the house is fun.

Slowly shifting into the winter spirit. How do you like to get involved with community at this time of year?

11/30/2025

How we show up in every relationship matters!

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