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10/31/2025

THIS!!!! Thank you, Dr Raquel!!

10/29/2025

I Wish I Had Known: I MUST take care of my mind, body, and soul in order to show up for others well

Many of us are really good at showing up for others but not for ourselves. I care deeply about so many people and causes, often to my own detriment.
Right now, my capacity is lower (energy, time, focus) - and I think that's true for so many. Here's to trying new ways to care for ourselves, and remembering to pour from a full cup.

How do you like to show up for yourself? I need to work on listening to my body, and saying yes to myself while saying no to what is not within my capacity.

10/28/2025

The onesie crew danced in the public square! When hate is loud, we gather and find joy

10/26/2025

Get • 💛🟣💛 It’s Inters*x Awareness Day. Let’s Bust Some Myths!

Our bodies are not binary! Inters*x refers to a person whose chromosomal, hormonal or anatomical s*x characteristics fall outside the binary classifications of male or female.

Myth 1: Everybody is born either male or female.
Fact: The idea that all bodies fit into “male” or “female” categories is not true.

Myth 2: Being Inters*x is very rare.
Fact: According to experts, abound 1.7% of the population is born with inters*x traits – about the number of people born with red hair.

Myth 3: Being Inters*x is something that needs to be corrected.
Fact: Many inters*x children are subjected to surgery - often invasive and irreversible - just to conform to society’s idea of what a girl or a boy ‘should’ look like. Research by Amnesty International has highlighted how this is a violation of human rights.

Let’s break down these myths and celebrate the amazing diversity of being human!

Source: www.amnesty.org/en/latest/news/2018/10/its-inters*x-awareness-day-here-are-5-myths-we-need-to-shatter/

10/22/2025

I Wish I Had Known: zero spicy interest does not necessarily impact other kinds of attraction

Some ace people want several kinds of intimacy that simply don't include spice. I know lots of ace pals in various relationships and they figure out what works for them.

Ace is a spectrum and an umbrella. If the label feels right, use it.

10/21/2025

How do we build self-confidence?
We ask for help, we practice, and we gain experience.

I have a 6-week program focused on developing self-confidence. Reach out to learn more! This bow is by

10/19/2025

Posted • *xeducation Happy Ace Week!
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As*xual describes people who experience little to no s*xual attraction.
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As*xual people may never experience s*xual attraction, or rarely experience it, or only under certain circumstances.
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As*xual people may have no lib!do, or low lib!do, or typical lib!do, or high lib!do.
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As*xual people may be favorable towards having s*x, indifferent towards having s*x, averse towards having s*x, or repulsed towards having s*x.
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As*xual people may differentiate forms of attraction such as Romantic Attraction, Aesthetic Attraction, Sensual Attraction, Emotional Attraction, Intellectual Attraction, Platonic Attraction, S*xual Attraction, Spiritual Attraction, and more. And they may experience some of these rarely or not at all too.
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Include As*xuality in all conversations around S*xual Orientation and S*xual Desire.
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As*xuality is a spectrum, an umbrella, and a shield. If the label feels right, use it.
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10/15/2025

I Wish I Had Known: confidence comes with self-trust and experience

As a teen, I was dripping in confidence because of the self-trust that I didn't even know I possessed. As an adult, I have to work on the confidence. Experience with feelings, situations, and knowing myself helps immensely.

I have a 6-week program that's all about building self-confidence. DM me for more info or check out https://vist.ly/4ajia

10/10/2025

October 10 is World Mental Health Day!

Mental health magic for World Mental Health Day! 🎃

10/09/2025

“I didn’t want to say no… but I also didn’t want to say yes.”
Here’s how I said no nicely when my friend asked me to cat-sit..
Sometimes boundaries aren’t about saying no, they’re about saying this works for me.
Take my Boundaries Quiz 👇
www.askauntiejulia.com/boundary-quiz

10/08/2025

I Wish I Had Known: bodies may have similarities but are not the same, so talking is super helpful

What feels good for me may not feel good for you. The way for us to know is to ask, and be open to trying new options. Maybe it's a pillow or a playlist or waiting 60 minutes after eating. Or something else!

One of the reasons so many people appreciate sounds of appreciation or enjoyment is because we love to know when something feels good. It encourages us to continue!

Have you got a Wish I Had Known? Send me a message and let's chat about it!

10/07/2025

Yesterday, I turned 37! I took the day off and felt all the love coming my way. Finished a really slow and easy day with cake, presents, a tarot reading, a simmer pot, and moonlit forest walk.

Friendly reminder to take time to do what feels good and celebrate YOU!