08/04/2022
The man who changed our job description...
Over the past couple of weeks, you have likely heard about the guy in Exeter who decided to have his funeral and visitation before he died. While we generally avoid singling out individuals that we are tasked to care for, our recent experience with Ron Rader and his family have been unique and we asked them if we could share.
When Ron reached out a few weeks back and shared his unfavourable health prognosis, I was not surprised he wanted to get together to discuss his final wishes. I was however incredibly surprised to hear that the celebration he had mapped out in his head was one he also planned to attend himself. As Ron said, "If my friends and family are all going to be getting together for a celebration, I am going to be there too." As Ron began to describe the "Great Life Celebration" he envisioned, he acknowledged there were many people in his life that would be willing to assist him in organizing and pulling off such an event, but as Ron said "I want my friends to be the attendees, not the workers; Hasketts can do that.
This year our family business will celebrate 140 years of serving families in our communities, like the Rader family. However, this is the first time in our history that we have had an event where the guest of honour was able to step up to the microphone and thank all in attendance for coming. The celebration at the Rader residence brought lots of tears but also lots of laughter. Those who were able to attend truly made an impact on Ron's final days and will most certainly be grateful to have had the chance to say their goodbyes.
A living funeral will not be an option for all of us. We won't all have the luxury of time to say our goodbyes. Most of us will not have the peace in our hearts to accept our fate and to truly embrace our final days. Only a select few of us will be blessed with Ron's ability to provide comfort to those he was leaving behind through his humour and big smile. Not for everyone, but perfect for Ron.
Ron passed away at his home on Monday evening with his family gathered by his side. These incredible people have supported him through some very challenging times in the past few months and were incredibly generous to share their husband and dad with the entire community during one of his final days.
I will be forever grateful to Ron for allowing our team to assist him in checking one more thing off of his "bucket list" and for allowing us to show our willingness to assist any and all with the event they want. Funerals, memorials, celebrations of life will continue to morph and change over time, but our commitment to the families we serve, and our goal of sharing their story will remain constant.
Remember to live life like Ronnie Rader did – with patience, kindness, hard work, lots of fun, and finding good in every situation. And don’t forget to whistle along the way.
Colin