In Touch & In Tune Counselling

In Touch & In Tune Counselling Be in touch with yourself and in tune with the world around you.

Happy 2 week TS/TK engagement anniversary to all who observe ❤️💍🏈
09/09/2025

Happy 2 week TS/TK engagement anniversary to all who observe ❤️💍🏈

09/09/2025

As part of In Touch and In Tune Counselling, I offer group sessions grounded in psychodynamic principles to help faith-based communities deepen their understanding of their people, culture, and spiritual dynamics. I am committed to supporting both individuals and groups, fostering emotional and spiritual growth, healing, and connection within the body of faith. 🧠 ✨

09/05/2025

Even when your marketing homie goes on vacation, the show must go on.✨

Mantras aren’t just words, they’re anchors.In therapy, they help ground us, create space between thought and reaction, a...
08/28/2025

Mantras aren’t just words, they’re anchors.

In therapy, they help ground us, create space between thought and reaction, and gently guide the mind back to the body.

A simple phrase, repeated with intention, can shift how we feel, how we move, and how we show up.

These small phrases are invitations to be more present with yourself. Try one out—and let me know how it feels. 💬

08/23/2025

Religious and spiritual trauma hurts deeply.
It’s a pain that lingers — Because what once gave you identity, comfort, and strength can now feel like a trigger. The songs, the prayers, the community... All reminders of wounds you didn’t ask for. If you’ve walked away, questioned everything, or felt like your faith shattered — you’re not alone.

🕊️ There is space for healing.
🛤️ There is room for transformation.
🌱 New paths can grow, even from the most broken places.

If you’re processing spiritual or religious trauma and are in need of support, know this:
Healing is possible. You don’t have to carry it alone.

I asked one of my clients about his experience as a man in therapy.It’s 2025 - but there’s still a stigma about men seek...
08/21/2025

I asked one of my clients about his experience as a man in therapy.

It’s 2025 - but there’s still a stigma about men seeking help through counselling and therapy.

You may have grown up being told to “put on a brave face” or to “man up” when faced with hard times, difficult emotions, or mental health challenges.

Seeking help is brave. Taking care of yourself is “man-ing up.”

Counselling provides a space and time that is completely yours, where you can share your thoughts and feelings, add new tools to your wellness toolbox, or simply sit with someone who is there to listen.

I’m proud of you, I believe in you, and I’m here for you.

08/16/2025

You are whole, you are worthy, and you are enough exactly as you are. Even if you are a lizard.

08/10/2025

From Proverbs to Prozac Part 7: What Healing Looks Like — Beyond the Cult Narrative

Healing After Religious Trauma Often Looks Like:

Grieving what you were never allowed to name. The loss of childhood safety. The loss of autonomy. The years spent chasing approval instead of authenticity.

Feeling “lost” or “rebellious” when you begin questioning. That’s not rebellion. That’s the brain untangling itself from spiritual fawning and survival.

Learning to sit with anger. Without fear that it means you’re sinful. Anger is a protest of harm. It’s often the first step toward reclaiming boundaries.

Reconnecting to your body. The one you were taught to fear, deny, or silence. The body is not the enemy. It’s where your truth lives.
Rediscovering community and connection. outside of performance-based belonging. You were never meant to carry this alone.

Many of us were taught that asking questions, saying no, or feeling anger meant we were “backsliding.”

But here’s the truth:
- Asking questions is sacred.
- Saying no is wise.
- Feeling anger is a step toward freedom.
- And healing is not betrayal — it’s returning to yourself.

If you haven’t seen it yet, this season may have stirred up something in you, know this:
You are not alone.
You’re not behind.
You’re not faithless for healing.

Healing is slow. Messy. Brave. And deeply personal.

You don’t have to rebuild your beliefs. You get to rebuild your sense of safety first.

And from there — whatever you choose to reclaim is entirely up to you.

Thank you for coming along with me through this series exploring season 2 of Shiny Happy People: A Teenage Holy War.

08/09/2025

From Proverbs to Prozac Part 6: Healing through Auditing

As a therapist who specializes in spiritual and religious trauma, I watched this season of Shiny Happy People with a heavy heart — and a clinical lens.

The themes? Control disguised as faith, silence normalized as obedience, and trauma hidden under the weight of “purity.”

If you’ve ever felt gaslit by your own religious community, know this:
You are not alone.
What you experienced was real.
And it makes sense if you’re still healing.

What if the trauma wasn’t in your lack of faith — but in the structure that demanded your silence?

If you’re untangling from these beliefs, be gentle with yourself. What you’re doing takes so much courage.

What if healing from religious trauma isn’t about burning it all down — but slowly rebuilding your relationship with trust, body, and voice?

Final part coming tomorrow!

08/08/2025

From Proverbs to Prozac Part 5: The Impacts of Spiritual Bypassing

If you grew up hearing:
“You’re not depressed — you need more joy.”
“You’re not traumatized — you’re just under attack.”
“Don’t speak badly of the church — that’s gossip.”

You may have experienced spiritual bypassing where your pain was invalidated and your healing was blocked.

Spiritual bypassing encourages emotional suppression and learned helplessness by turning suffering into a spiritual virtue.

These teachings may have trained your body to:
🥶 Freeze when asked to speak up
🙈 Fawn when in conflict with authority
😳 Feel guilt or terror when setting boundaries
🙏 Suppress emotion to stay “”spiritual””

You weren’t just “serving God” if you grew up in the system — you were serving THE system.

Parts 6 and 7 coming soon!

08/07/2025

From Proverbs to Prozac Part 4: The Soldier for Christ Narrative - When Devotion Becomes Disempowerment

You weren’t weak. You were just taught that suffering made you holy — and silence made you faithful.
“Soldier for Christ” sounds empowering… until you realize it demanded obedience, denial of pain, and complete self-sacrifice.

This trains the fawn response, where survival means pleasing, submitting, and enduring silently.

It often leads to chronic dissociation, self-neglect, and identity confusion (especially for teens in purity culture and youth ministry roles).

You may have been told you were “called,” “chosen,” “anointed,” - but only if you conformed.

If you showed doubt? You were “lukewarm.”

If you set boundaries? You were “in rebellion.”

If you left? You were a “backslider.”

This creates conditional belonging, where worth depends on performance.

It deepens shame cycles and reinforces a belief that questioning = failure.

Parts 5-7 coming this week!

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