06/10/2024
Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD) is characterized by an overwhelming and persistent need to be cared for, leading to submissive and clingy behaviors, as well as a deep fear of separation. This pattern typically begins in early adulthood and is evident in various aspects of life. Individuals with DPD have a profound difficulty in making everyday decisions without excessive advice and reassurance from others. They tend to be passive, allowing others, often one specific person, to take the initiative and assume responsibility for major areas of their lives. This reliance on others extends beyond what is appropriate for their age and situation. They often refrain from expressing disagreement due to fear of losing support or approval, leading them to agree with things they may believe are wrong rather than risk the loss of essential relationships.
The disorder also makes it hard for individuals to start projects or do things independently, as they lack self-confidence and feel they need help to carry out tasks. They may avoid situations that require independent action, preferring others to take the lead, which perpetuates their dependency. In extreme cases, they might go to great lengths to obtain care and support, even if it means volunteering for unpleasant tasks or enduring abuse. Their exaggerated fears of being unable to care for themselves make them feel uncomfortable and helpless when alone, causing them to seek constant companionship.
When a significant relationship ends, individuals with DPD urgently seek another relationship to provide the needed care and support. They are often preoccupied with fears of being abandoned, even when there is no substantial reason for such concerns. This excessive and unrealistic fear highlights their deep-seated dependency. People with DPD frequently exhibit pessimism, self-doubt, and a tendency to belittle their abilities, often viewing themselves as inadequate or "stupid." They interpret criticism as proof of their worthlessness and seek overprotection and dominance from others.
Socially, their interactions are limited to a few people on whom they depend heavily. This disorder often coexists with other personality disorders, such as borderline, avoidant, and histrionic personality disorders, and there is an increased risk of depressive, anxiety, and adjustment disorders. Chronic physical illnesses or a history of separation anxiety during childhood or adolescence may predispose individuals to developing DPD. Their occupational functioning may suffer, particularly in roles requiring independent initiative, and they tend to avoid positions of responsibility due to their anxiety over making decisions. Overall, DPD significantly impacts various life domains, making self-sufficiency and independent functioning challenging for those affected.