03/03/2026
UPDATE
My Mom is home.
Finally got everything set up for my Mom in Alberta, the Oncology team, family Doctor, nurses, blood transfusions, bone marrow test, therapy, and LTC waiting list. Everything flowed, it’s all in alignment here!
Transferring her from Ontario to Ab. was a challenge. But we got it done.
Started in September-Flying back and forth to ontario, moving my Mom from her home, to LTC, setting up rides for her chemo ( they moved her out of the city, away from the hospital) with no transportation and she is visually impaired, this did not sit well with me.
They promise it was short term.
They promise to care for her. I trusted them, I had to, I fought for her safety and well being. I fought to get her into LTC so she can be safe.I made a promise,Mom I’ll get you to AB. You are not going to be alone.
My poor Mom being moved many times and fighting cancer was heartbreaking. She was a trooper!
The experience of homecare in Ontario, is flawed, the help was not enough, lots of no show, so I had to transition her to Ontario LTC. My Mom was not ready, she resisted.
I had to humble myself, and begged for help, call her gp, seniors advocate, oncologist team and had to prove she was in crisis.
This experience was the hardest thing I had to undertake, and I knew the most healing work was at play for all of us.
LTC home, care was not there, many non compliance, no nutritional meals,
bill of rights not followed, administering improper medication, or missed medications.
Our seniors are suffering in many LTC homes. It’s a disgrace how this has not been rectified. We should be honouring our elders. Shame on the government and all involved.
So, I had to, I wanted, I needed to advocate for them all.
I stepped into the unknown, calling, writing, ministry of care, ministry of health, the MP, MLA, family council, and human rights for disability, many times. I was determined to help.
They were found non compliance, they listened, they agreed, but this still continues!
I was lied to, I was told I was untruthful, I was threatened, manipulated, stonewalled, and gaslight. This was another world that I never knew existed.
Another level of toxicity and dysfunction. Seeing the staff,psw and nurses all in fear, rushing their work because of no staff, or untrained staff. Being bullied by management,skipping showers, peri care, unkept rooms, and so much more.
I started questioning myself, was I in judgment, comparing, expectating,were my standards to high or was I stating facts and standing in my truth.
Was I doubting what I thought needed to be done. I had to examine to step aside. This was huge. I had to get out of my own way.
I tried to see and believe they were there to care for my Mom and others, I really believed everyone was love and light, especially caring for our most vulnerable. This is what I wanted to see. But they always proved me wrong. I kept giving them grace.
I couldn’t understand how this was happening. I had to accept that evil lives among us.
Trying to wrap my head around all the abuse, depleted me, this energy was so dense, seniors wandering, locked in, minimal activity, cold, bored, and all their choices taken away.
I see why they give up. They are invisible, and being silenced.
I had to find my faith, and trust.
I had to surrender. I had to accept, I had to change my focus on getting my Mom close to me. This is done.
So thank you to everyone, who support us, and who are waiting patiently for our business to reopen.
Thank you for understanding how important this was. Thank you Tim for believing in me and standing by my side always.
Thank you for all your prayers.
This path has a purpose, it has awakened me to many things. It also has shown me how powerful I am with the help of our guides, angels and God. We are not alone.
This was resilience, taking action, searching, fighting, and fostering emotional regulation to another level, and all along turning tragedy into triumph.
This journey, felt like I was in a time warp. Almost like I had to clear some karma, or was it my Moms karma?
We will know after this chapter is over.
ACCEPTANCE and TRUST was my big lesson. Accepting that not everyone has our best interest, or is trustworthy. Trusting ourself and our higher power. Trusting ourself is the ultimate super power. Let yourself fall back into your own arms.
Remember those gut driven desicions leads to growth.
Trusting yourself is more important than any external validation.
Sometimes we just need to make sacrifices and trust the process.
Nothing stays the same.
Do it with love.
Love you all!
