Working Toward Guilt-Free Motherhood

10/01/2018

Amazing how guilt follows mothers around, no matter what choices we make. As the author notes, it is likely that "mothers who don’t work feel guilty for not contributing to the finances (or perhaps inferior to mothers who do)," while "[working mothers] have to be everything to everyone—mothers who are loving and available to their children; professionally competent .... ; and don’t forget being supportive partners, friends, and daughters."
Her solution? Quite in line with what we believe in our group: "I wish there were a magic pill, but I think it’s going to take us women finding our value, believing that we are good and loved without having to excel in all areas .... by accepting ourselves, .... and extending that type of unconditional acceptance to others around us. We can talk about the times we weren’t able to make the deadline or the baked goods with self-compassion instead of criticism. And then we can spread this wisdom all over the place."
Come join us on Wednesday mornings where we all meet to bring ourselves closer to this honesty, self-compassion, and collective support.

Recent research explores mothers' guilt about the impact of a career on kids.

09/13/2018

Part of a recent kind (and unsolicited) message from a participant in last year's group who moved away. Shared with permission: "I can't tell you how much I value the insights and caring I received while participating in the previous group. Being able to connect with everyone once a week was such a wonderful experience. I'm genuinely sad to be missing out on the opportunity to participate again even though I'm in a generally happier state of mind now."

09/05/2018

Matrescence is such an important concept. Motherhood is replete with ambivalence. This arises often in our group, where we acknowledge both the wonders and joys AND the frustrations, on the parenting journey.

When a baby is born, so is a mother -- but the natural (and sometimes unsteady) process of transition to motherhood is often silenced by shame or misdiagnosed as postpartum depression. In this quick, informative talk, reproductive psychiatrist Alexandra Sacks breaks down the emotional tug-of-war of....