03/20/2023
Imago Parenting Principle #4
Understanding your child's perspective is vital.
Parent validation supports the child's development of a strong sense of self. When parents validate their child's perspective, the child believes that what they think, feel, and experience makes sense and is important.
On the other hand, when a parent dismisses, argues, or minimizes their child, (which a lot of us are not realizing our impact) the potential wounding is the child feels crazy, insecure, and/or alone.
A strong sense of self is especially important when the child's perspective is different from someone else's. A parent's consistent validation helps the child maintain their sense of self with other people, where they don't get easily thrown off, feel diminished, or give up who they are.
A strong sense of self helps children to trust their internal experience when something happens or in making decisions. Trusting their internal experience and feeling confident to make their own decisions will greatly benefit them throughout their life. They will be more likely to listen to themselves about what they want to do, how they want to respond, and what decision is in their best interest. They will also be better able to validate themselves without needing external validation. A child's ability to self-validate helps them in making decisions that lead to their own happiness, purpose, and well-being. It also helps them in situations that are dangerous, unhealthy, and dealing with peer pressure.
You will learn how to provide consistent validation to your child at my parenting workshop! Register now, link in bio.