Ebb and Flow Counselling

08/29/2025

We are taking a little vacation!
Online booking with availability for September is available at https://ebbandflowcounselling.janeapp.com/ for those wanting to book ahead, or new clients wishing to book a consultation.
See you soon!

08/13/2025

08/06/2025

More on boundaries 🤓

08/05/2025

Awareness is the first step of change

9. Breaking promises to yourself.

08/04/2025

Do you struggle with setting boundaries?

02/09/2025

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Shift from shame to self-compassion. Believe it or not, coming from a place of self-compassion is a better motivator for change than is shame. Shame might create a quick fix, but self-compassion will improve your life in the long-game. ❤️

01/14/2025

Relationship Hack——-Increase the odds you’ll successfully work through triggers and disagreements by using good timing.
From an attachment style perspective…..to minimize impulsive reactivity, anxious and disorganized partners feel safe knowing there will be a predictable time when a problem is addressed; avoidant partners feel safe knowing they won’t always have to drop everything right then and there to deal with a problem. Of course there will also be times when it does make sense to face a problem right then and there, and there will be times when it makes sense to wait….this is where partners need to be flexible with each other, which is also a version of good timing….the time for flexibility when there aren’t clear cut answers. ❤️

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10/17/2024

Vulnerability can feel frightening, but in the safety of a trusting relationship, the rewards make it all worthwhile.

10/11/2024

This Thanksgiving weekend, why not take a moment to practice gratitude? Reflecting on what we’re thankful for can have wonderful effects on our mental health, helping to reduce stress and increase our overall happiness.

As you gather with friends and family, consider sharing your gratitude out loud or jotting it down. Wishing you all a warm and reflective holiday!

09/17/2024

Really enjoying the book "How to do the work" by Dr. Nicole LePera, The Holistic Psychologist. Her chapter on trauma bonds explores how emotional and physical activation can be mistaken for authentic connection and attraction when stress response has become our comfort zone through trauma or living in chaos. Whereas, the safety of authentic love and connection is unfamiliar.

06/04/2024

Do you ever get visits from the 'imposter monster'?!

Here's a great article about imposter syndrome we thought you might enjoy :)

"When you acknowledge your wins, regardless of size or importance, you are laying kryptonite at the feet of the imposter beast. When you pay equal if not more attention to things that go well, things that you enjoy, and things that you are good at, you weaken this pattern even more. It’s about shifting your perspective from what’s wrong and not enough about you to celebrating what is positive and good enough."

Do you dismiss a compliment, hide your true feelings, or attribute your successes to luck? Many adults with ADHD have trouble accepting positive feedback due to imposter syndrome.