Jon Shore

25/05/2023

*I mentioned that I’m depressed to a friend and she said the world doesn’t owe me anything as her response. What should I do?*

I suggest to many of my clients that they make a chart of people in their lives like this or I provide it to them and work with them to fill it out….
People who are very close, who you absolutely trust, who are honest with you, who care about you, who do what they say they are going to do, who support you - are those in the first two inner circles. Those who you are also deeply connected with are in the very center of the diagram.
Then you place people who are superficial friends, occasional friends, business friends, acquaintances, people you meet casually, social media ‘friends’, etc. in the various circles outside the center circle according to how close they are to you. The chart should be filled in with a pencil so that you can move people around.
Be discerning. Learn to discern what a real friend is and the difference between types of friendship and acquaintanceships.
Learn who you can share everything with, (a true friend), and who you must be less open with.
It is usually a good idea to only share the state of your mental health with close friends.
Someone who would respond with, “the world doesn’t owe you anything” is not a true friend. Place them in one of the outer circles for now.
One of the greatest life lessons you can learn is what true friendship is. She is helping you learn this lesson.

17/05/2023

What is the first step to self-healing from depression?

The first step in self-healing from depression is to honestly and courageously examine the depression.

Listen to what it is telling you. Pay close attention to what it makes you feel. Objectively observe depression and get to know every nuance and aspect of it. Of course, the best way to overcome depression is to work with a qualified psychotherapist but if that is not possible then this is the first step.

I have written extensively about how to overcome depression at my blog noted in my credential. You are most welcome to read more there and to work with the self-care tools I have posted.

03/05/2023

If my depression is the result of chemical imbalances in my brain, is just cognitive method an acceptable means of treatment?

Depression is almost never a result of low or high serotonin levels. This was a theory that was espoused and promoted for many years but has now been proven to be incorrect. There is no causal relationship between serotonin levels and depression.

Talk therapy is considered the best treatment method for depression. CBT is one of the therapies that can be effective for depression for certain patients. There are other therapeutic methodologies that are also effective for treating and overcoming depression. You might need to try a number of different strategies before finding the one that is right for you. Sometimes a combination of therapeutic methods works best. Work with a therapist who is well versed in various methodologies and who is flexible, creative and willing to work with your unique situation and history.

There is no magic pill that cures depression but with the right therapy you can overcome depression and put it in your rearview mirror forever.

27/03/2023

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We are all families in here

25/03/2023

I have been suffering from major depression disorder due to which my cognition is impaired. What is a spiritual solution?*

I have been working with clients/patients with depression successfully for over 40 years using a mix of traditional psychotherapy and spiritual psychotherapy. The spiritual aspect of the therapy is non-religious and can be adapted to any belief system or lack of one.
To describe the entire process here would take too long but I did write a book about it and posted the book at my blog noted in my credential. You can read it there and also read all the articles I have posted about a spiritual approach to overcoming depression. I have also posted many self-care tools at the blog for anyone to use who wishes to.
I hope this is helpful for you

20/03/2023

Why do most people think that depression is out of choice and that you can choose to "be just happy"?*

The people who believe that depression is a choice and that you can just choose to be happy have never experienced clinical depression so they have no clue what they are saying.
Back in the 1980s I spent 3 years in clinical depression. I remember it very well. If I could have chosen to be out of that darkness and just be happy I would have done it. When people told me to just come out of it or that I would hit bottom and then start my way up it just made the depression worse. I knew there was no bottom to the dark bottomless pit of pain.
Even if the people who say this to you have good intentions it is not helpful.
Depression is like living in a dark cloud or endless tunnel or pain with no light at the end. It is a complex disorder that requires psychotherapy, support and lifestyle changes to overcome. It also takes commitment. Ignore the people who tell you that it is a choice and to just be happy. Seek out and work with a good therapist who can guide you out of that darkness and help you overcome the depression once and for all. It will be a lot of work on your part but it will be well worth it.
I have posted many articles and self-care tools for overcoming depression at my blog noted in my credential. Feel free to make use of all the materials there.
🙏🙏🙏

16/03/2023

Do people still see therapists when they already know what's gotten them depressed in the first place? You know what’s gotten you depressed but can’t change it.

Knowing what caused the depression is only the first step. There is a great deal of work to do between there and having overcome the depression completely.
If you know what caused the depression you are experiencing and know how to deal with it and then you deal with it effectively and overcome the depression then you would not need a psychotherapist.
If you do not know how to effectively overcome the depression then a good therapist is someone you might want to consider working with.
You may not know what changes are necessary and effective or what strategies, tools and lifestyle changes should be adopted but a good therapist will.
Overcoming depression can be a great deal of work and it can take some time but learning and practicing the tools and lifestyle changes required to overcome depression will serve you for the rest of your life in more ways that you can count. I have posted many articles and tools for dealing with depression at my blog noted in my credential. Feel free to make use of them if you wish.
Give it a chance.

16/03/2023

How long does it take to recover from severe depression?

For some people it can take a few months. For some a few years, for some it can take many years and for some it remains their constant companion forever.
After depression is overcome it can take weeks, months or a year to completely recover.
With proper psychotherapy the duration of depression and recovery can usually be shortened significantly.
When I went through very severe clinical depression in the 1980’s it lasted for 3 long, dark years. Recovery after the depression ended took about a year. Even during the recovery period I did not work as a therapist because I wanted to be absolutely certain that my mind was clear before I began counseling others again. I also wanted to take the time necessary to develop the tools I needed to help others in depression overcome it.
There are many factors that influence the duration and severity of depression. It is very helpful if you work with a good psychotherapist to overcome this darkness and pain.

21/02/2023

Would you be able to help me with some advice on my depression?

Yes, contact a real mental health professional like a psychotherapist or a psychologist. You can also read articles at websites with information about depression and how to treat it. You can even read materials at my blog noted in my credential.

It is important to be very careful asking questions like this on Quora. Questions like this can attract some people who do not have your best interests at heart. For instance, one answer you have already received is from a scammer posting AI ChatGpt answers to questions, which is considered plagiarism and could even be dangerous. You could also get answers or invitations from people who might abuse you.

It is good to reach out to those who can help you. Just be discerning.

20/02/2023

Does doing nothing or the bare minimum actually help cure depression?

If you are referring to situational depression then usually the depression ends when the situation changes. This sort of depression can last from a few hours to a few weeks. If you are referring to clinical depression that lasts more than a few weeks then the answer is no. Doing nothing or the bare minimum will not cure depression and it will, likely, only get worse.

Clinical depression is like a never ending tunnel of darkness and pain with no light at the end. It can have multiple causes that must be addressed therapeutically and with total commitment. The bare minimum will never suffice. The depression will tell you to do nothing and that nothing will help. It tells you that it is forever and is your only real friend. It is lying to you.

Depression is a complex illness and requires a great deal of work to overcome, but it certainly can be done and you can do it.

If you are able, work with a good therapist with experience helping people with depression. If you are not able to afford this or do not have insurance that will pay for a therapist then see about a free clinic or work with self-care tools available at some websites. Only work with qualified professionals if you do decide to work with a therapist. I have posted many articles and tools at my blog noted in my credential. Use as many as you wish. But you must do everything you can to overcome the depression. Do not let it destroy your life.

19/02/2023

How can I be mentally strong?

Don't be afraid to spend time alone
Don't live in the past
Don't expect immediate results
Don't give up after the first failure
Don't be afraid to take calculated risks.
Don't let others influence your emotions.
Don't be jealous of the success of others
Don't waste time feeling sorry for yourself
Don't waste energy on things you can't control.

03/02/2023

Do you agree that being rich takes away depression?

Instead of giving you my opinion which doesn’t mean a thing because I am not rich I would encourage you to listen to this video and hear it from the horses mouth so to speak.

Make especially sure you listen right to the very end. If what the Dalai Lama says doesn’t convince you, nothing will.

Celebrities on being rich and how it is not making them happy but sometimes even depressed and sad. MGK, Billie Eilish, Halsey, Jim Carrey, Brad Pitt, Angeli...