Human Design Psychology

23/08/2025

I am a Casanova

You and I both know the word “Casanova” doesn’t usually mean devotion. It’s a word people whisper with a smirk — seduction, conquest, fleeting romance.

When I first came across it as a description of my energy, I laughed. Because that’s not me.

For me, being a Casanova has never meant conquest. It means devotion — the kind that dissolves distance until only trust and closeness remain.

You and I both hate the kind of love that’s shallow, fleeting, transactional. We crave something deeper.

That’s what this energy is about. It’s devotion. It’s the pull toward intimacy, the instinct to dissolve walls between two people until only trust remains.

And there is only one person I want that intimacy with:
- my wife.

I am her Casanova.

But here’s the thing:
- this gift doesn’t stop at my marriage.

You and I both know the most meaningful work happens when barriers fall. When we’re not performing for each other, but when we’re open enough to be real.

That’s the same space I create with my clients as a trainer — an environment where trust is stronger than fear, where honesty replaces pretense, and where true growth can happen.

In the language of Human Design, this comes from my Personality Earth — the grounding theme of who I am. Mine is Gate 59.5: the gift of dissolving barriers, of turning attraction into devotion, and of creating intimacy that leads to transformation.

So yes, I am a Casanova.

Not because I seduce.

But because I help people step closer — to themselves, to others, to the truth of who they really are.

14/08/2025

“The most dangerous thing you do in life…”
That’s how I start some of my talks.
People always lean in.

“…is let the wrong person into your space.”

I don’t mean that metaphorically. I mean it literally — in your home, in your work, in your head.

One of my clients just landed a new role.
The offer itself? Good.
But the real win?
She knew — deep in her bones — that the person she'd be working with was safe. Not just “nice.” Not just “professional.”
But safe.
That primal-level signal: I can be myself here.
That’s empowerment. Not just landing the job. But entering a space that won’t drain her soul to keep it.

Let’s Talk Human Design

Human Design explains this kind of safety in a way therapy often can’t.
Therapy starts with your story. Your skills. Your scars. It unpacks the past to build a new pattern.
That’s valuable.
But Human Design? It starts somewhere else entirely — with your architecture.

Each HD chart holds 9 centers — energy hubs. Think of them like power grids. Some people have a single, flowing circuit. Others have two (or more) islands.
Those islands matter.

- If your chart is a single definition, everything’s internally connected. You know what’s you. You feel whole — alone or not, like me.
- If you’re a split definition (like 41% of people), your inner flow needs a bridge. Someone else connects your internal “islands.” And when someone does?
It can feel like finally coming home.

But here’s the trap…
Split definitions often cling to that connection. Even if it’s toxic. Even if it’s wrong. Because the bridge feels too good to burn.

Meanwhile, single definitions walk away. No bridge needed. If the space is wrong, they just… leave: "I quit."

So why does this matter?
Because when you enter a job, a relationship, a collaboration — you’re running your internal wiring through someone else’s.

It doesn’t check for compatibility.
It just runs the program.
And if that program’s wrong for you? It can hijack your patterns for years.
That’s the cost of building bridges you were never meant to cross.

Want help decoding your own internal map before you make your next big move?

Let’s talk.

09/06/2025

What if a simple, honest “no” could transform your workplace?

The Power of Pausing

It was nearly 5:30 PM. The deadline was tight, and my IT manager asked if I could stay late. Instinctively, I felt the pressure to say “yes.” (My 29 Gate)

But instead, I paused and checked in with myself.

Was I really able to give more, or was I just reacting to stress?

I replied honestly: “I’m sorry, I can’t stay late tonight. I have a personal commitment.”

Nothing dramatic happened. In fact, something positive followed.

The Ripple Effect

A new colleague soon did the same—she politely declined overtime, stating her boundaries. Silence followed, but nothing negative happened. The next day, another teammate followed her example.

A week later, our manager said:
“I appreciate that you’re clearer about your boundaries. It helps us, too.”

Setting boundaries isn’t about being difficult. It’s about honesty and respect. When one person models this, it gives others permission to do the same.

Respond, Don’t React

In Human Design Psychology, we see the Emotional Center as the place where we process feelings and set limits. When we pause and respond, instead of reacting, we create space for real respect—both for ourselves and others.

But not everyone experiences emotions the same way at work:

• Defined Emotional Center
You have a consistent emotional rhythm. Taking time to respond helps you avoid impulsive decisions driven by temporary feelings. Your challenge is to stay true to your needs, even when others push for quick answers.
• Undefined Emotional Center
You’re naturally attuned to others’ emotions. This can make you more likely to avoid confrontation or hold back your truth to keep the peace—agreeing to things you don’t want, or staying silent to avoid tension.

Over time, this can lead to frustration or burnout.

Healthy boundaries fix this. They’re not about conflict—they’re about clarity. When you honor your limits, you stop the cycle of people-pleasing and create sp

05/06/2025

The “Slowest” Colleague and the Power of the Root Center: Real Productivity Lessons

The slowest colleague on my team was earning more than twice as much as me.
I watched him for weeks to understand why.
Day 1: He arrives at 9:30. I’ve been there since 8:00. “Lazy,” I thought.
Day 2: He takes 20-minute breaks every two hours. I eat at my desk. “Unprofessional.”
Day 3: He leaves at 5:00 PM sharp. I stay until 6:30 PM. “Not dedicated.”
Day 4: He declines a meeting “because it’s not a priority.” I attend them all. “Not a team player.”
Day 7: I realized something shocking.

He finished everything he set out to do. I left half my tasks for “tomorrow.”
He worked two hours without interruption. I got distracted 15 times an hour.
He said “no” to what wasn’t important. I said “yes” to everything.

What did I learn from this experiment?
He wasn’t slow. He was strategic.
He wasn’t lazy. He was efficient.
He wasn’t unprofessional. He understood that productivity isn’t about being busy for 10 hours a day.

But beyond that, I started to see something deeper:
How the Human Design Root Center operates in the background.

The Root Center: The Invisible Pressure Driving Us
In Human Design, the Root Center is one of the two pressure centers.
It’s the source of our drive to start things, our impulse to act, but also of our stress.
Some people have a defined Root Center, feeling a constant, stable pressure that they can manage and channel.

Others, with an undefined Root Center, feel pressure as something external, unpredictable, making them rush to finish tasks, respond to outside stress, always “on the run.”

With my undefined Root Center, I always felt under pressure:
To arrive early
To do as much as possible
To respond to every request
To get tasks off my plate as quickly as possible

My colleague, likely with a defined Root Center, wasn’t affected by this external pressure. He managed his energy, chose his own pace, and said “no” without guilt. For him, speed was a choice, not an obligation. For me, speed was a reaction to stress.

3 Lessons from the Root Center (and from the “slow” colleague):

Busy doesn’t mean productive
You can be very busy doing unimportant things just to relieve pressure. Real productivity means consciously choosing what deserves your energy.
Energy matters more than time

Two hours of focused work, with managed pressure, is better than eight hours of multitasking and constant stress. The Root Center shows us that energy comes in waves—it’s not constant, and it can’t be forced.

Saying “no” is a superpower
Every “yes” to something unimportant is a “no” to something essential for you. If you have an undefined Root, learn not to let others’ pressure push you. If you have a defined Root, honor your own rhythm.

Conclusion
Now I understand my colleague.
He earned more because he delivered results, not because he looked busy.
He had a healthy relationship with pressure and his energy—and that’s the key to authentic productivity.

03/06/2025

When was the last time you truly listened to what your body was telling you?

I’m at the age where catching up with old friends sounds less like “How’s work?” and more like, “How are you, really?”
The answers are sobering:
“I’m doing therapy. I have prostate cancer.” or
“I have colon cancer, but I’m going to be fine—I caught it early.”

These conversations are a wake-up call. They remind us that our bodies are always communicating, sometimes in whispers, sometimes in shouts. The real question is: are we paying attention?

One story from my community captures this perfectly:

“Our body speaks to us, and when we ignore it, it speaks even louder. Two pregnancies back-to-back, a new business (just a year ago), and in the meantime, a tragedy—the loss of my father. I didn’t know how to take time to process it all. I kept telling myself, ‘I have to push through, handle everything,’ and today I find myself at the doctor’s office, on the verge of prediabetes and with pancreatic inflammation. The truth is, your body tells you what you don’t want or don’t know how to see.”

This is more than a cautionary tale—it’s a call to action. We need to move beyond the “power through” mentality and start honoring the wisdom within.

From Rigid Plans to Authentic Listening

“Before I turned 42, I used to make six-month plans.
Now, I listen to my body every morning.
If I feel weak, I don’t force myself.
If I have clarity, I use it. (I am emotional.)
If I get tired, I don’t punish myself.
I’ve discovered that my rhythm isn’t constant. It’s full of ups and downs. And it’s healthier to learn how I function than to force myself to function. Productivity isn’t a straight line. It’s a conversation with yourself. And now, I’m really listening.”

This shift—from rigid planning to daily self-awareness—highlights a crucial truth: we each have a unique rhythm. There is no one-size-fits-all formula for productivity or well-being. The healthiest thing we can do is to honor our individuality.

Why Uniqueness Matters: The Human Design Perspective

At Human Design Psychology, we believe that every person is truly unique. Our approach is not about fitting you into a box or making you follow someone else’s path.
Instead, it’s about helping you discover and nurture your own way of being, working, and contributing to the world.

Why do I share these stories and ideas?
Because I want to nurture uniqueness and individuality.

How Can You Start Honoring Your Uniqueness?

Accept Your Natural Rhythm:
Not everyone is built for constant output. It’s normal to have cycles of energy and rest.

Redefine Productivity:
Productivity isn’t about always doing more. It’s about working in a way that’s sustainable and true to you.

Embrace Your Individual Path:
Don’t compare yourself to others. Your journey is your own, and your contribution is valuable because it’s unique.

If you’re ready to discover and embrace your uniqueness:
Let’s grow together—authentically, sustainably, and uniquely.

23/05/2025

Have you ever wondered if it’s too late to reinvent yourself?

Here’s why Human Design says your best chapter might be just beginning.

Have you ever found yourself asking, “Is it too late for me?”—whether in your career, relationships, or personal growth? In Human Design, this question often emerges from deep patterns and fears, especially those rooted in our past experiences. But the wisdom of the chart shows us that it is never too late to shift, grow, and realize our potential.

Gate 44: The Gate of Alertness (Spleen Center)

One of the most powerful gates to explore in relation to this question is Gate 44, located in the Spleen Center. This gate is all about pattern recognition—the instinctive awareness of how the past influences the present and the future. People with Gate 44 have a natural talent for recognizing recurring themes and using that knowledge to create successful strategies moving forward.

But here’s the catch: the shadow of Gate 44 is the fear of repeating the past. This can manifest as a sense of being stuck, or the belief that “it’s too late” because old cycles might just play out again. This fear is primal, rooted in survival instincts, and can keep us locked in old stories.

“Gate 44 ‘Intuitive Potential’ is about understanding that no matter the past, there’s always an opportunity to break through the patterns and achieve your potential.”

The Spleen Center: Instinct, Presence, and Survival
The Spleen Center governs our intuition, health, and sense of safety in the present moment. When we’re caught in the fear of past patterns, we disconnect from the Spleen’s wisdom, which is always guiding us to what is healthy and safe right now—not yesterday, not tomorrow, but today.

Affirmation for Gate 44:
“I have a deep understanding of what is needed and safe in the present moment.”
Breaking the Cycle: It’s Never Too Late
Gate 44 teaches us that while our past informs us, it does not define our future. The opportunity for transformation is always present, but it requires letting go of the fear that history will simply repeat itself. By tuning into the Spleen’s intuitive wisdom, we can recognize when a pattern is ready to be broken and when a new path is possible.
Practical Steps:
• Notice when you feel the fear of “too late” arise. Is it based on past disappointments or failures?
• Use the wisdom of Gate 44 to observe patterns—without judgment or attachment.
• Anchor yourself in the present moment. Ask: What feels healthy, safe, and right for me now?
• Affirm your ability to break cycles and embrace new opportunities, regardless of age or circumstance.

Final Thought

Your Human Design chart is a map of potential, not a prison of the past. Gate 44 reminds us that it is never too late to change direction, break old cycles, and step into a new possibility.

The wisdom of the Spleen Center is always available—trust it, and let it guide you forward.
You are not too late. You are right on time for your next breakthrough.

08/05/2025

Why You Feel Stuck at Work — It’s About Pressure, Not Willpower

Ever feel like no matter how hard you try, work just keeps getting heavier?

- Deadlines stack.
- Meetings run long.
- Inbox floods.

You stay late, wake early, hustle harder.
But somehow… you’re still behind.

👉 You think it’s a willpower problem. It’s not.
It’s a pressure problem — and it’s baked into how most workplaces operate.

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🎬 Let’s talk about The Devil Wears Prada.

Remember Andy the assistant? Or Andrea?

She wasn’t lazy. She was a high-achieving, ambitious young professional who landed a job “a million girls would kill for.”

But soon, she was drowning.

📎 Emails at midnight.
📎 Coffee orders at dawn.
📎 Micro-reactions from a boss who never needed to yell to terrify.

Andy wasn’t failing because she didn’t care.
She was collapsing under invisible pressure — to perform, to guess right, to be faster, smarter, perfect.

It wasn’t the work. It was the weight.

That’s what Human Design reveals.
Not how you should perform — but how you’re built to process pressure, and what happens when you ignore that.

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The Hidden Pressure Inside You

In Human Design, there are two internal pressure centers:

💡 The Head Center — creates pressure to figure things out.
⚡ The Root Center — creates pressure to get things done.

If either of these is undefined or over-conditioned, you may:
• Say yes when you mean no
• Take action too fast — just to escape discomfort
• Overthink decisions until you’re paralyzed
• Chase deadlines that never belonged to you in the first place

Sound familiar?

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🛑 This Isn’t About Discipline — It’s About Design

This isn’t a mindset issue.
It’s not about willpower or better time management.

It’s about how pressure moves through your system, and how to stop letting it run the show.

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💡 Here’s What to Do

If your career feels heavier than it should…
If your mind won’t stop spinning even when the laptop’s closed…
If your drive feels more like a trap than a gift…

👉 It’s time to decode how you operate under pressure.

🎯 My upcoming Human Design Psychology & Audit workshop will show you:
• How your unique energy system responds to pressure
• Why traditional productivity advice often works against you
• How to create alignment instead of exhaustion

🧭 Stop reacting. Start realigning.
Because you’re not lazy.
You’re just not built to carry pressure that doesn’t belong to you.

📩 [You are invited to join my Workshop. | Should I Reserve Your Spot? ]

02/04/2025

Letting Go of Fear? A Bad Idea.

Face It Only —When the Time Is Right

And "The majority of the corrections have been completed."

Once a colleague of mine told me a story about her boss that she had in a big pharmaceutical company from Canton Zug.

He moved like fire.

He was sharp, fast-talking, and always three steps ahead. A true builder. Obsessed with growth—for the company, the team, and himself.

I enjoyed the story.

He used to say, “If you're afraid of something, attack it. Fear is just weakness leaving the body.”

And for a while, it worked. His energy was magnetic. He inspired bold moves, quick pivots, and fearless ambition.

Until the day it didn’t.

I watched him push through a major product launch he privately had doubts about. He ignored the subtle discomfort, the signs that maybe the timing was off. He chose speed over sensitivity. Growth over gut. My colleague tried to worn him.

The project flopped. Hard.

Not because the idea was wrong, but because the moment was.

The world loves to preach “let go of fear.”

But what if that’s not only unhelpful—but dangerous?

Because fear isn’t always the enemy.

Sometimes, fear is data. Data.

Subtle, instinctive, intelligent data.

We don’t talk about this enough in business. We romanticize bravery and demonize hesitation. We act like real leaders “push through.” But the smartest leaders I’ve worked with? They don’t push all the time. They listen mostly.

They know when fear is just noise.

They know when it’s trying to protect something important.

And they know when it fades—not because they fought it, but because the timing finally aligned.

The best decisions often come from a quiet place.

Not the mind. Not the ego.

But that fast, subtle instinct that says: “Now.”

I’ve learned that courage isn’t about being fearless. It’s about respecting the fear enough to let it pass naturally—and then acting when it no longer has power over you.

So no—you don’t need to “renounce” fear. You need to build a relationship with it.

Let it speak.

Let it inform.

Let it go—when it’s ready.

Because fear is not a block.

It’s a signal.

And timing?

Timing... is everything.

Do you confront your fears only if it's necessary?

Or you trust your intuition also in business? Do you trust the signals of your body also at work?

Let me know what is your experience here.

"So letting go of Fear?"

"Face it only when the time is right."

02/04/2025

The Inner Compass: How to Make Aligned Decisions Without Overthinking It

Short Story – The Power of the Pause

Diana stood at the edge of a big decision. A job offer had just landed in her inbox—big salary, bigger title, and the kind of prestige people dream about.

Her head was screaming, “Say yes!” Her friends were popping champagne in anticipation.

But something deep inside her said, “Wait.”

So, she gave it a night. Then another. And another.

By the fourth day, something shifted. She realized the role didn’t actually feel right. It looked good on paper—but her body, her emotions, her core, her values? They weren’t on board.

So, she said NO.

And just six weeks later, a better opportunity came along—one that matched not just her goals, but her gut.

That quiet pause? That was her inner compass at work.

🧭 Everyone Has an Inner Compass. Most Just Don’t Know How to Use It.

Most of us are taught to make decisions with our mind—pros, cons, logic, speed. But that approach can be exhausting, confusing, and often wrong.

The truth? There’s a built-in decision-making system inside you, one that’s been quietly guiding you all along. It’s not the mind. It’s not what your friends think. It’s not what “makes sense.”

It’s that consistent, personal signal that always shows up—when you actually listen.

Depending on how you’re wired, that signal works a little differently for everyone. Here are the three most common ways people experience it:

🌊 1. The Emotional Wave – You Need Time

About half of people are emotionally wired when it comes to decisions. That means your clarity doesn’t come in the moment—it comes after the wave.

You might feel one way in the morning and completely different by dinner. And that’s normal. For you, the secret to confident choices is giving yourself time to feel things out.

Quick tip: Never say yes or no immediately. Wait until you feel calm, steady, and clear.

🔥 2. The Gut Feeling – Instant “Yes” or “No”

Some people are naturally tuned into their gut instintcts. These are the folks who just know—in their body—whether something is right or wrong.

They feel it as a “yes” that lights them up or a “no” that pulls their energy down. It’s not emotional; it’s visceral.

If this is you, overthinking is your enemy. Your gut already knows.

Quick tip: Practice listening to your body. Notice how it reacts before your mind kicks in.

🌿 3. The Quiet Instinct – Fast but Subtle

Otherss have a sharp, instinctive knowing that shows up in the moment—but softly. It’s a whisper, not a shout.

These people often pick up on vibes, warnings, or green lights before anyone else does. But the catch is: it only speaks once. If they don’t listen the first time, the moment passes.

Quick tip: Trust that quiet, split-second sense of “this feels right” or “this feels off.” It’s more accurate than you think.

💡 A Final Note: The Mind is Smart, But It’s Not the Bosss

Even if your mind is sharp, analytical, and full of great ideas—it’s not the place to make final decisions.

Your mind is a great advisor, but a terrible decider.

Instead, learn to trust that deeper part of you—the one that’s always there, always consistent, and always leading you toward what’s right for you.

Ready to reconnect with your inner compass?

Start by slowing down.

Tune in.

And remember: the answers don’t come from outside—they rise from within.

Do you want to respond? And let me know if you want to find out how your inner compass is functioning?

04/01/2022

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22/07/2021

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The things I do that you think are "crazy" are just me being a teen and going through normal stuff. Here are 7 things I want you to know.

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