Golden Green Coaching

21/11/2025

We like to think we’re rational creatures, but we’re not.
We’re emotional creatures with really impressive spreadsheets.
Because every emotion has a physical shape long before it becomes a thought.
Anxiety lights up the chest.
Shame collapses the shoulders.
Anger floods the arms and face.
Sadness drains the limbs.
Happiness warms the torso.
Your body knows exactly what’s happening before your mind decides what story to tell about it.
And here’s where high achievers get stuck:
we become specialists in emotional override.
Not by choice, by training.
By performance.
By survival.
You didn’t regulate.
You suppressed.
Because suppression was:
✔ efficient
✔ rewarded
✔ professional
✔ familiar
That’s performed regulation, the practiced calm, the polished face, the “I’m fine” with a tightening jaw.
And it works. Until it doesn’t.
Until your body starts saying what your mouth refuses to:
“Something here needs attention.”
“Something here is too heavy.”
“Something here is costing more than it should.”
Grounded presence doesn’t begin in your thoughts.
It begins in your chest, your shoulders, your breath, in the places that tighten first and speak last.
If this hits you somewhere between your sternum and your stomach…
you’re exactly who I wrote Issue 4 of Ambition Without Exhaustion for (link in comments).
💬 Where does emotion show up in your body before you even realize what you’re feeling?
💾 Save this — your body remembers even when your calendar doesn’t.
🔁 Share this with someone who leads beautifully but feels everything before they speak it.

20/11/2025

Most high achievers don’t struggle because they’re out of touch.
They struggle because they’ve been too in touch, and trained to override it.
You’re not “overreactive”.
You’re not “too emotional” or “not emotional enough”
You’re not missing clarity.

You’ve simply spent years performing strength
instead of listening to the signals your body has been sending faithfully:
🫀 Signals about safety.
⚡ Signals about stress.
🌫️ Signals about overwhelm.
🌱 Signals about desire, connection, intuition.
High performance taught you to power through.
But your body hasn’t forgotten how to speak.
You just learned how to silence it.
Here’s the shift:
When you start listening again, you don’t become softer,
you become clearer.
Your body tells the truth before your mind finds the words.
Every time.
So here’s a quiet question to bring you back into yourself today:
💭 Where does stress show up in your body first, and what is it trying to tell you?
If this hits somewhere in your chest, jaw, or shoulders…
you’re not alone.
You’re simply ready for a different way of leading, from grounded presence, not performed regulation. 🌿
✨ Read Issue #4 of Ambition Without Exhaustion:
Leading From Grounded Presence (Not Performed Regulation)

💾 Save this for the next moment your body whispers before your mind catches up.
🔁 Share it with someone who leads beautifully but feels it in their body before their calendar.
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18/11/2025

Leadership built on reflex runs on adrenaline.
Leadership built on rhythm runs on alignment.
Reflex says, “If I stop, everything will fall apart.”
Rhythm says, “If I breathe, everything will find its place.”
It sounds beautiful, doesn’t it?
It rarely feels that way.
The final painting in this reel reminds me of a big grey scarf I used to wear ten years ago.
It was soft, heavy, almost like armor.
My hypnosis teacher looked at me once and said,
“It’s probably nice to hide behind that scarf.”
He was right. I was hiding.
I needed space. Not to escape, but to reclaim.
Space to reflect.
To feel.
To let the old version of me slowly dissolve while the new one took shape.
That transition, from reflex to rhythm, is never glamorous.
It’s confusing. It’s messy.
And yet, if you’ve started it, it means it was unavoidable.
Because the cost of not starting it is usually much higher.
The cost is your health, your joy, your relationships, your sense of self.
💫 From Issue #3 of Ambition Without Exhaustion:
“You’re not tired because you can’t keep up.
You’re tired because you’ve been carrying what isn’t yours.”
“Before responsibility can feel lighter,
your body needs to remember that light doesn’t mean unsafe.”
If you’re somewhere in that quiet middle —
not who you were, not yet who you’re becoming, take this as proof that pause is progress. 🌿

18/11/2025

High performers don’t just overwork.
They over-own.
They carry outcomes, emotions, and expectations that were never fully theirs to hold.
Our habitual reactions are based on our understanding of time and how we spend it.
For high achievers, time is usually an enemy.
We constantly try to outrun it by outworking it.
Peaceful time, however, feels like a friend.
If that sounds familiar, the eight mindset shifts in this carousel help turn over-responsibility into regulated leadership, the kind that sustains you and your results.
Leadership built on reflex runs on adrenaline.
Leadership built on rhythm runs on alignment.
Reflex says, “If I stop, everything will fall apart.”
Rhythm says, “If I breathe, everything will find its place.”
It sounds beautiful, doesn’t it?
It rarely feels that way.
If you’re somewhere in that quiet middle,
not who you were, not yet who you’re becoming,
take this as proof that pause is progress.

17/11/2025

You pause, but your mind keeps sprinting.
You breathe, but your chest still feels heavy.

You’ve stopped doing everything…
yet you can’t seem to stop being everything.

That’s the space I found myself in years ago,
somewhere between high-functioning and quietly falling apart.

And that’s when I learned:

𝙇𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙗𝙪𝙞𝙡𝙩 𝙤𝙣 𝙧𝙚𝙛𝙡𝙚𝙭 𝙧𝙪𝙣𝙨 𝙤𝙣 𝙖𝙙𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙚.
𝙇𝙚𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙝𝙞𝙥 𝙗𝙪𝙞𝙡𝙩 𝙤𝙣 𝙧𝙝𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙢 𝙧𝙪𝙣𝙨 𝙤𝙣 𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙣𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩.

Reflex says, “If I stop, everything will fall apart.”
Rhythm says, “If I breathe, everything will find its place.”

It sounds beautiful.
It rarely feels that way.

This painting reminds me of a soft grey scarf I used to wear almost every day during that transition — thick, heavy, comforting in its own way.

One day, my hypnosis teacher looked at me and said,
“It’s probably nice to hide behind that scarf.”

He was right.
I was hiding.
I needed space. Not to disappear, but to redefine.
Space to reflect.
To feel.
To let the old version of me quietly dissolve while the new one took shape.

That process — the shift from reflex to rhythm — isn’t graceful.
It’s slow. Messy.
A bit like molting your old skin in public.

But if you’ve reached this point, it means the change was never optional.
Because the cost of not changing — the burnout, the emptiness, the quiet resentment — is far too high to keep paying.

💫 From Issue #3 of Ambition Without Exhaustion:

“You’re not tired because you can’t keep up.
You’re tired because you’ve been carrying what isn’t yours.”

“Before responsibility can feel lighter,
your body needs to remember that light doesn’t mean unsafe.”

If you’re standing in that quiet space,
no longer who you were, not yet who you’re becoming, remember:
the pause isn’t punishment.

It’s your nervous system learning a new rhythm.
The world won’t fall apart when you rest.
But your alignment might just fall into place. 💾 Save this if you’re learning to lead without the rush.
🔁 Share it with someone who’s carrying too much, too quietly.

14/11/2025

This 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗱.
𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝘁𝗿𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲’𝘀 𝘀𝗼𝗹𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.

High achievers don’t struggle to care.
They struggle to stop caring about everything.

This weekend, maybe success looks like:

→ not replying right away
→ not fixing what no one asked you to fix
→ remembering that the world keeps turning — even when you rest

Because the strongest version of you
doesn’t carry it all.
She carries wisely.

This is the third in a 5-part series on unlearning the responsibility that was never yours to carry.

💭 What’s one small thing you’re not taking responsibility for this weekend?

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12/11/2025

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝗹.
𝗜𝘁 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀.

For years, you confused pressure with purpose.
Doing more felt safer than pausing.
And rest? It felt like giving up.

But what if the next version of you doesn't need more control — just more capacity?

This week's issue of 𝘼𝙢𝙗𝙞𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙒𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙀𝙭𝙝𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣 explores that awkward, liberating gap between the leader who over-functioned and the one learning to lead from peace.

→ 𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪'𝙫𝙚 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙬𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙙 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪'𝙧𝙚 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙤𝙣𝙚'𝙨 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪.

Read: 𝙍𝙚𝙙𝙚𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙍𝙚𝙨𝙥𝙤𝙣𝙨𝙞𝙗𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝗹. 𝗜𝘁 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗶...

05/11/2025

Spot on! Still, there should be something in between 🙂

Most people don’t run out of time—they run out of clarity. 💭
Think before you act, but act before you overthink. ⚡

03/11/2025

Somewhere along the way, emotional intelligence got confused with emotional labour,
and high achievers learned to hold everyone’s feelings except their own.

The critical distinction:

→ 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀.
You read the room. You notice what others feel. You stay calm in complexity.

→ 𝗘𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗹𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝗯𝘀𝗼𝗿𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
You manage the room. You soften the truth. You make peace at the expense of your presence.

💭 Where in your life are you using empathy to stay safe instead of connected?

💾 Save this post when you need permission to stop carrying what isn’t yours. 😽

03/11/2025

𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴.
𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗖𝗔𝗥𝗥𝗬𝗜𝗡𝗚.
Somewhere along the way, emotional intelligence got confused with emotional labour —
and high achievers learned to hold everyone’s feelings except their own.
The critical distinction:
→ Emotional intelligence is awareness.
You read the room. You notice what others feel. You stay calm in complexity.
→ Emotional labour is absorption.
You manage the room. You soften the truth. You make peace at the expense of your presence.
What over-carrying looks like daily:
1️⃣ You rewrite messages three times to sound “softer.”
2️⃣ You take on invisible work because you “sense” tension.
3️⃣ You keep the peace — even when it costs your clarity.
You call it professionalism.
Your body calls it over-adaptation.
The invisible weight:
→ You want to be helpful, not heavy.
→ You want to lead with empathy, not ego.
→ But beneath it all, you feel the quiet resentment of being unseen —..and you still don’t ask for help, because independence feels safer than being misunderstood.
Who you’ve become:
You’re the reliable one.
The steady one.
The one who “just knows” how to hold it all together.
You’re not resistant to support. You’re over-trained in self-containment.
It’s a protection pattern that once kept you safe… and now keeps you stuck.
Remember this:
Emotional intelligence is about awareness and choice. 🌱
Emotional labour is about responsibility without rest.
True leadership — and true kindness — begin when you can tell the difference.
💭 Where in your life are you using empathy to stay safe instead of connected?
💾 Save this post when you need permission to stop carrying what isn’t yours.