Beratung Dr. Lilia

10/05/2023

When is it time to seek couples therapy?

I love my partner but we are having different opinions about many things in life. Conflict is a given! The question is just how do I and my partner handle conflict?

Let me give you an example: You are having an argument with your partner and he/she gets mad and leaves the room without talking to you for some time. You are left stunned, maybe shocked, and also frustrated and angry. Maybe you even try to follow your partner to talk it out, which ends in further escalation. So what do you do?

How you handle the conflict and the follow-up talk will determine, if you are in a healthy or unhealthy relationship. Conflict resolution is a learned skill! Your life and relationship will improve with this skill:
1. Staying emotionally regulated
2. Staying emotionally connected with the partner
3. Stop blaming or defending and instead
4. Use “I-statements” and talk about emotions
5. Learn to listen to your partner’s point of view
6. Go into time-out and choose follow-up talk wisely
7. Know when to seek counseling

Do you want to learn how to manage conflict and joint resolution conflict skills?
Work with me – Heterosexual and LGBTQ+ couples are welcome!
Beratung/ Counseling Dr. Lilia

28/04/2023

C. S. Lewis (writer of Chronicles of Narnia) once said: “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.”
We all have dreams and goals, big or small.

If you have achieved your goal, for instance finding a dream job or a partner, then sometimes our mind starts spinning and we are thinking about “is this enough” without appreciating and cherishing what we already have.

If you have not reached your goal(s) and you are comparing yourself to others, you may start feeling sad, and frustrated. This is a vicious circle.

BUT, if you compare yourself to where you started and you are already looking for jobs or you are dating, then you have made progress!

Think about the journey and allow yourself to feel brave, joy and satisfaction to be on track… FOCUS on the GAIN instead of the GAP when pursuing your dreams!

Do you need help in figuring out your dream?
Let me assist you on your journey of growth & contact Counseling/ Beratung Dr. Lilia

C.S. Lewis (writer of Chronicles of Narnia) once said: “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” We all have dreams and goals, big or small. If you have ACHIEVED your goal, for instance finding a dream job or a partner, then sometimes our mind starts spinning and we ar...

18/04/2023

How can you emotionally connect with yourself and your partner?

Emotional connection in a relationship is a deep feeling of attachment, respect, and care for your partner. But you must first establish an emotional bond with yourself (!) before you can do the same with another person.

When you are connected to yourself and respectful about your own boundaries then you have the ability to recognize and articulate your own feelings, goals and needs.

In a happy relationship you can foster emotional connection by:
1. checking in with the partner once a week
=> ask each other what made you happy or disappointed this week

2. Creating a safe space for your partner to "air" and vent out their concerns
=> do not judge or defend or be negative

3. Knowing and accepting each other’s flaws

4. Truly respecting each other by NOT focusing on “fixing” the partner

If you need help with the above then please let me know if I can be of any assistance.
Contact me: Counseling /Beratung Dr. Lilia

How can you emotionally connect with yourself and your partner? Emotional connection in a relationship is a deep feeling of attachment, respect, and care for your partner. But you must first establish an emotional bond with yourself (!) before you can do the same with another person. When you are co...

20/03/2023

Single, LGBTQ+ or in a relationship - are you happy?

Happiness is characterized by feelings of joy, (life) satisfaction, contentment and fulfillment. Happiness is a feeling that everyone wants to have… but it’s not as easy as it seems.

The key to finding happiness in yourself or in your relationship is not trying to find it at all… instead, try living your life more mindfully and with less judgment.

Happiness is a choice, not a result!

You can learn to be more happy and more optimistic by talking to a psychologist applying positive psychology and emotion-focused therapy (EFT). I help singles, LGBTQ+ and couples to:

+ improve your relationship with yourself or your partner
+ foster emotional connection

+ identify negative patterns that you are trapped in
+ learn to create new and more positive patterns

+ learn how to balance your emotions
+ nourish your mind with positive thoughts

Are you ready to embrace change, which is the key to happiness, with the help of a psychologist?
Consider Counseling / Beratung Dr. Lilia

Single, LGBTQ+ or in a relationship - are you happy? Happiness is characterized by feelings of joy, (life) satisfaction, contentment and fulfillment. Happiness is a feeling that everyone wants to have… but it’s not as easy as it seems. The key to finding happiness in yourself or in your relation...

13/03/2023

Do you feel limited by your own insecurities or fears?

Sigmund Freud once said: “Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength”.

Are you ready to tackle your limiting beliefs and mindset setbacks?
Do you want to feel free of the pressures you put on yourself?

Coaching and psychological counseling can help you to:
 set specific and achievable goals
 make decisions that move you forward
 become stronger, happier and more confident when making choices

Work with me!
Counseling/ Beratung Dr. Lilia

Do you feel limited by your own insecurities or fears? Sigmund Freud once said: “Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength”. Are you ready to tackle your limiting beliefs and mindset setbacks? Do you want to feel free of the pressures you put on yourself? Coaching and psychological cou...

07/03/2023

Is your partner not listening to you?

Successful relationships are all about healthy communication and listening to each other. However, it's not uncommon for couples to experience periods when talking to each other becomes a challenge and listening is absent. When one or both of you are not responsive, you may have a problem.

As a couple you are a team. In couples counseling you can learn how to:
- soothe each other
- meet each other’s needs
- understand and break free of negative habits
- have your partner’s back even during disagreement

Mignon McLaughlin (US journalist, author) once said that “a successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person”.

Do you want to improve your communication with your partner?
Drop me a line – Counseling / Beratung Dr. Lilia

Is you partner not listening to you? Successful relationships are all about healthy communication and listening to each other. However, it's not uncommon for couples to experience periods when talking to each other becomes a challenge and listening is absent. When one or both of you are not responsi...

27/02/2023

LGBTQ+ coaching in Zurich or online

One of my greatest joys is to work with LGBTQ+ clients. I want you to feel empowered, happy and more connected. As a psychologist, I will listen to you, ask questions and challenge you so that you can live your life as an adventure in the best possible way.

- Do you struggle with your negative emotions?
- Do you have a complicated decision in front of you?
- Do you want to increase your well-being and self-love?
- Do you want to discuss your relationship or work-life balance?

Do you want to figure out what you need in your life, establish firm (new) boundaries, and what really gets you excited to start the day?

Let's find out together. Visit Beratung / Counseling Dr. Lilia

13/02/2023

Is it hard to say no in your relationship?
Do you think that your partner is not listening to you?

In relationships we often feel responsible for our partner and the outcome. Therefore, we put our partner first and back down from what’s important to us. It is difficult to say “no”.

Over time this causes resentment and anger. You feel that your partner is not listening to you.

In couples therapy you will learn to:

- change and decrease your negative communication
- increase your love language and appreciation
- set clear, healthy and positive boundaries
- expand your me-time and us-time

Rita Rudner (US Comedian) once said: "I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life."

Relationships can be hard. Reclaim the joy in yours!
Drop me a line.

05/02/2023

Are you looking for Life Coaching with a psychologist in Zurich or online?

02/02/2023

Cozy, warm and safe private practice room of Counseling Dr. Lilia
Go to: Beratung Dr. Lilia

30/01/2023

Grow yourself!
Why not with the help of a psychologist in Zurich or online.

Oscar Wilde said: "Be yourself, everyone else is already taken".

In my role as a psychologist, I observe how my clients gain clarity and confidence in every session. It is my job to ask questions and the right question can help you grow so that you can personalize the solution.

As a psychologist, I support who you are. It’s important to put you – uniquely you – at the center of coaching. Together we will:

1. make a plan to achieve professional and personal self-growth
2. discover new paths to achieve what you are aiming for
3. work through your negative emotions and beliefs
4. increase your self-esteem & self-acceptance
5. increase your resilience & overall well-being
6. expand your comfort zone

We are humans, with lots of achievements, biases and we all want more. We want to grow.
Let’s connect and work together: Beratung/ Counseling Dr. Lilia

Grow yourself! Why not with the help of a psychologist in Zurich or online. Oscar Wilde said: "Be yourself, everyone else is already taken". In my role as a psychologist, I observe how my clients gain clarity and confidence in every session. It is my job to ask questions and the right question can h...