16/06/2024
Your help drives me crazy!
It's not even perceived as that. It's more "you never listen to me!" (not interested, don't appreciate, don't love me...)
It's a simple pattern that I read about sime years ago and it rang so true, and I observed it very often, it happens in many couples.
(I say she and he, pronouns are interchangeable.)
Let's begin:
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There once was a woman, I call her Patricia who has been married to Ron 4 years ago.
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Patricia has been working on her passion project the whole day today. But something wasn't right. She couldn't find out what it is. She feels frustrated and a bit sad.
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She shares this with Ron.
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He hears: "She has a problem and is frustrated. I need to find a way to help." So he listenes intensively until he finds a problem. Now he finds a way to help. "You could look at some other people with your passion and find out what they did. Then you can find a similar solution to your problem.
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Patricia feels p... off now.
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Why? He tried to help her, didn't he?
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She would have liked to ponder. To share. To be listened to. Then she would have felt appreciated. Loved. After some more time of sharing she might have surrendered to this emotion and then relaxed.
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Now she feels tense and interrupted. She couldn't find her own way, but needed to talk about his solution instead of her emotions.
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Does this sound familiar to you? You hear your woman sharing her problem with you, and when you offer your wise advice she gets angry?
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Whenever you share something with your man, he never listens to you, never takes you serious, never gives you space.
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Once you have discovered this pattern, you can explain it and even smile about it.
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Today my partner and I broke out laughing after we uncovered this pattern.
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Emotions are gifts. They can change rapidly if we allow them to be. If we fight them they persist and can even make us sick.
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Have you ever observed the pattern I observed here?
