Psicóloga Clínica Daniela Sarras Hadweh

13/05/2022

I wrote this a couple years ago on Mother’s Day. Sharing it again because it’s still true.
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There are so many kinds of mother. The mothers you cherish and celebrate. The mothers who were never really there. The mothers who broke you. Who built you. The mothers who cheered you on. Who chipped away at you until you were dust. The mothers who reveled in your astonishing intelligence and grace and power. Who saw only their own light. The mothers who died painfully young. The mothers who lived so long you felt yourself disintegrating with them. Petal by wilted petal. The mothers who shined. Who dimmed. Who did their best. Who disappointed. Who redeemed themselves. Who accepted your redemption. Who zigged and zagged. The mothers who were a beacon. The mothers you never knew. The mothers who sewed themselves into the quilt you became. The mothers who couldn’t bear to tell the truth. The mothers who were brave. The mothers who didn’t know who they were without you. Who never saw you no matter how wildly you waved. The mothers who grieved you. Who believed in you. The mothers you call. The mothers you no longer speak to. The mothers you take for granted. Or treasure. The dead mothers. The mothers you have to search for and carry. The mothers you find in people who are not your mother. The mothers like a limb. The mothers like a mirror. The mothers like a flame. The mothers you wish. The mothers you love. The mothers you ache. The mothers you echo. The mothers you wanted to be. The mothers you became. I am thinking of you. I am holding you all.
💖💖💖

28/04/2022

27/04/2022

We co-dependent and people-pleasing types often stuff uncomfortable feelings (so we can continue to be loving, kind, and reasonable).

We’re kinda afraid of our own feelings, to be honest!

After all, walking on eggshells (and not rocking the boat!) requires keeping OTHERS comfortable…

And if we feel *our* feelings, we might mess that up.

So we get really good at pushing down our emotions in order to keep others comfortable.

That becomes the name of the game:

Keep *everyone else* comfortable.

Except for ourselves.

(Not that we really notice that. Cause we’re not feeling our feelings).

We stuff. We numb. We deny. We repress.

Aaaaaand we wonder why we struggle with setting boundaries.

❤️

Molly

PS. Contrary to what we’ve thought, our emotions are rich and beautiful things. Far from scary, they can be powerful and organic boundary-setting guides. ✨

In my opinion, we can’t do deep boundaries work without them.

Thankfully, discovering how to work with our emotions can be a lot of fun (and a gift that keeps on giving)! 🥰

Yep. Change is possible. Just because we’ve behaved in ways that are codependent or people-pleasing doesn’t mean we have to stay that way.

Check out my free intro class to learn more:
Http://boundaried.com 🦋

19/04/2022

Very interesting view on pain/suffering. The connection between memory and pain to understand the "pain as an emotion felt by a part of the body".

14/04/2022

How to manage your anxiety. New Day Podcast.

13/04/2022

Turning toward what's hard and scary and vulnerable is not a default choice (at least it's not mine). But over the years I've learned that the energy I spend trying to avoid my fear is best spent walking right toward it with an open and willing heart. Easy? Heck no. Does it get easier? Not always. Worth it? So far it's been worth it every single time.

This image is our free download on brenebrown.com for January. We change it every month so you have today and tomorrow to grab it. Just scroll to the bottom of the home page.

11/04/2022

11/04/2022

Be mindful and intentional about how you behave at work. What kinds of experiences are challenging for you? What can you learn from these moments?

Over-involvement can lead to damaged professional relationships, heightened anxiety and stress, and an overall lack of balance in your life. Letting go doesn't equate to slacking off.

06/04/2022

Si el comienzo del año está siendo muy pesado, si la ansiedad o el estrés han vuelto a tu rutina, quizás es momento de pedir ayuda.

Contactanos para atención de salud mental:

22/03/2022

Hola a tod@s
Me pareció urgente incorporar al tema de la visibilidad de las emociones, algo tan importante como lo es la recarga mental, emocional y física que tenemos con las labores de crianza. Las mujeres tienden a hacer múltiples tareas sin parar y se nos ha dicho que así debe ser, como si nuestro tiempo tuviese un valor diferente comparado con el de nuestras parejas, que parece deberíamos resguardar.

Les dejo este episodio del Podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking (puedes activar los subtítulos) "Who Cares? Fair Play at Home"

Velo, compartelo y habla sobre el desbalance que tenemos como sociedad en relación a los cuidados de los hij@s y la vida familiar.

Deja por acá tus comentarios l@s leo!
https://youtu.be/XozoXEIfF3Q

We’re in the midst of many crises right now, and one of them has to do with care. Women are leaving the workforce in staggering numbers, buckling under the p...

20/03/2022

En tiempos donde la incertidumbre es la norma. Necesitamos de todas las herramientas emocionales que nos ayuden a enfrentar los cambios y desafíos que cada día se nos presentan. La capacidad de reconocer, nombrar y concientizar nuestras emociones, integrandolas es fundamental. La integración de nuestras partes más incómodas o más difíciles, es un trabajo complejo, pero cada día tiene más visibilidad.

Les dejo esta recomendación para adultos y niños.. y si quieren acompañar a sus hijos a verla mejor. La Película Turning Red de Pixar, muestra precisamente la lucha que muchas veces tenemos con las diferentes partes de nuestro mundo interno y cómo eso está muy ligado a nuestra historia de vínculos afectivos (familia).

Les dejo un abrazo.

02/03/2022

Que respondemos cuando nos preguntan ¿cómo estás? probablemente: Bien, gracias. Una respuesta adecuada, pero que muchas veces no representa lo que realmente sentimos.
Por esto, es muy importante reconocer y dar espacio a las emociones en todo su espectro, tanto a aquellas que llamamos "positivas" como a las que llamamos "negativas" . Esto puede hacer una gran diferencia en nuestro crecimiento personal.

Para seguir la reflexión les dejo el genial trabajo de Nora McInerny y su Podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking Terrible, Thanks for Asking. Aqui va una entrevista con la también genialisima Susan David.

https://youtu.be/-QUTBF8AtYg

Good vibes only? Not on this podcast. And not when psychologist Susan David is in the room. For years, Susan has been leading the conversation about the valu...

25/02/2022

25/02/2022