13/08/2025
WHY MANY CHRISTIAN MARRIAGES ARE SEXUALLY BORING
1. Many grew up thinking s*x is a sin and so they struggle to shift their mindset about s*x in marriage
2. No flirting
3. Thinking that the goal of s*x is largely for procreation. Yet it is a celebration of love to be enjoyed
4. The false belief that one cannot be saved and s*xy
5. Fixation on one s*xual position. No creativity
6. Judgement from spouse when one expresses their naughty side
7. Many engaged in po*******hy and ma********on before getting married so that they don’t sleep around only for that habit to interfere with their s*x life in marriage
8. The false belief that to enjoy s*x is evil as if s*x belongs to the world. No! S*x is a gift from God
9. Overspiritualization of life. Yet God cares about every aspect of our life; emotional, financial, professional, physical, social and even s*xual - not just spiritual
10. Boring attires in bed in the name of being saved
11. Poor body image disguised as humility yet it is actually low self-esteem. Low self-esteem negatively affects s*xual life
12. Boredom where life revolves around work - church - home instead of also going out on dates
13. Superstitions such as s*x is only Godly when it happens on the marriage bed, so the couple doesn't get to create new experiences in other locations
14. Seeing s*x as a taboo topic so no talking about s*xual fantasies
15. Expectations for faithfulness whilst making faithfulness boring. Faithfulness shouldn't be a struggle. When s*x-life in marriage is fun, it reduces the power of temptations
16. Rigidity in s*x, making s*x as a duty or obligation instead of a playful activity for two married people blessed by God
17. Judgement on your spouse's past, affecting how you view him/her
© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde