26/08/2025
Read this and thank me later
When you marry your type, staying together becomes easy. Let me tell you a story that changed the way I see “bad behavior” in relationships or marriage.
What you call bad character might be someone else’s love language.
That red flag you’re running from, another person sees it as a green light.
When two greêdy people meet, there’s no c❍nflict… only reflection.
They don’t judge each other cos they recognize themselves in each other.
I once met a couple who were h△rsh with their words… loud, blûnt, and sometimes very ❍ffensive.
From the outside, it looked t❍xic to me. But guess what? Their marriage is one of the most stable I’ve seen.
I asked the wife once, “How do you both talk like that and still stay close?”
She laughed and said, “That’s just how we are in our house.”
That moment was all I needed to confirm something: even if they handed me their daughter with a full dowry and a free house, I’d still never say “Yes, I do.”
Cos I know myself.
And I know what living in that kind of environment would feel like, it will feel like t❍rture, not connection.
Like mother, like daughter, like father, like son. I don't expect an apple to fall far from the tree.
At the core, it’s about alignment.
Meeting someone whose energy, mindset, and values click with yours. Without that, what seems like a fl△w isn’t really a fl△w… it’s just a MISMATCH.
Compatibility doesn’t mean perfection.
No one has only good traits. We’re all a mix… kind and crûel, soft and hard.
When you meet someone, look at the whole picture. Then make your choice: take them as they are, or walk away and keep searching.
Cos at the end of the day, one man’s p❍ison might be another man’s koki beans.
The right person isn’t the one without fl△ws… it’s the one whose fl△ws you can live with, and whose energy feels like home.
One of the main reasons why Mama Atalaku and Epie Aimglobal is a power couple is cos they see themselves in each other and they understand that marriage is a covenant… not a contract.
If this post blesses you and you’d like to keep drinking from my cup of wisdom, go ahead and 𝐟𝐨𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐦𝐞.
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I remain your noble relationship coach and marriage therapist Courage Sorbe aka Wisdom Bank. 𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞, 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐧 𝐌𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫.
