12/12/2025
Yesterday I sat in a local police department asking a hard question:
What do I do if a police officer is in immediate crisis while in therapy with me?
The short answer:
I follow the same safety steps I would with any other client. Safety has to come first.
The complexity:
If I take those steps…
Will this officer lose their job? Their livelihood?
Will their family face years of fallout?
This is the impossible position so many in law enforcement are in:
Be STRONG. Be DILIGENT. SAFETY FIRST.
But don’t be vulnerable enough to ask for help.
Don’t prioritize your own mental health.
Don’t let anyone know you’re struggling.
I’ve seen it over and over again:
Miracle workers who just want to serve their communities, suffering in silence.
And it breaks my heart.
Have you ever been so low that you knew you needed help, but didn’t feel like you had anywhere safe to turn?
I have.
For years I showed up to work, pouring my soul into helping others, all while knowing in the back of my mind:
“I probably need just as much help.”
As professional helpers, we tell ourselves we “shouldn’t” need support.
We “should” know the answers.
✨ Stop SHOULDING on yourself. ✨
Most professional helpers enter their field to heal or make sense of their own pain. We don’t become immune to real life because we have a license, a badge, or a title. We still have nervous systems. We still get overwhelmed. We still get brought to our knees.
If you are a professional helper—therapist, officer, nurse, advocate, first responder, educator—who also happens to need help:
I see you.
There is nothing “wrong” with you.
You are a human being who deserves care.
Support is available, and life on the other side of survival mode can be so, so beautiful. 💛
Sending healing thoughts to our law enforcement, our community, and all the helpers who quietly hold everyone else together.