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29/12/2025

Your relationship has traditions, even if you have never named them. 💙
Pizza night at the same spot. The way you always debrief in the car. That one phrase you say before walking out the door. Those little rituals are not just habits. They are Rituals of Connection, and they quietly shape who you are as a team.
In the Sound Relationship House, this is the top floor, Create Shared Meaning. It is where you build the stories, values, and traditions that make your relationship feel like “us,” not just “you and me,” from how you start your mornings to how you celebrate big milestones.
When you protect those traditions on purpose, you are not just being sentimental. You are choosing the story you want to live in together.
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23/10/2025

Sometimes we say "happy wife, happy life" when we're really just abandoning ourselves to avoid conflict.

But there's a difference between honoring your partner's happiness and erasing your own needs. One creates connection; the other creates resentment. A healthy marriage isn't about whose needs win—it's about building a life that genuinely honors both.

In this week's column, I help a reader who moved across the country for his wife without voicing what it would cost him. Now he's trapped between the life he left behind and the marriage he's trying to save.

And now he’s RESENTFUL + his wife won’t move back.

As I say in my column, this isn’t a question of geography as much as it’s a question of: What kind of marriage do we want to have when we each have differing needs?

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✉️ Got a dilemma you want help with? Email me! askthetherapist@nytimes.com

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19/08/2025

When you stop seeking validation from others, you open the door to your true self! How does self-compassion allow you to feel more authentic in your life?

06/06/2025

We wait until we’re running on fumes.
Burned out. Resentful. Barely holding it together.

But the real magic?
Is learning to pause before you’re depleted.
That halfway point—that’s your cue.

It sounds simple. But so many of us miss it.
Because somewhere along the way, we were taught to override the signals, push through the fatigue, and call it strength.

Our internal barometer for “too much” got rewired by culture, conditioning, and survival.

Awareness is the first step.
But the real shift?
Is taking action when your system says, rest now, not when everything crashes.

Your body knows. Start listening.

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11/04/2025

My best ideas have come to me while I'm in the gym, out walking, or in the shower.

I rarely have good ideas while I'm brainstorming, in an office, or a group setting.

For creativity and inspiration seek silence, solitude and a clear mind, not pressure, noise and collaboration.

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03/04/2025

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24/03/2025

Know the difference between the accountability loop and the victim loop...

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