02/05/2026
Jupp.
DON’T BE A SPIRITUAL ZOMBIE!
I’ve met a lot of spiritual people over the years. Spiritual teachers. Students. Seekers.
They seem very calm. Very “present.”
And yet… something important feels missing.
It’s like they’ve lost their aliveness, their edge. Their humour. Their awkwardness. Their spontaneity. Their passion.
All the rough edges have been smoothed out.
It’s like they have no personality.
No individuality.
Instead there’s just a kind of careful, polite, slightly absent neutrality.
They call it peace. They call it enlightenment.
They call it “non-judgemental deep listening.”
They call it “no self”.
I don’t buy it.
Somewhere along the way, spirituality gets deeply misunderstood.
We hear the ego is false. The persona is a mask. Judgements are wrong. Opinions are unspiritual. Nothing is good or bad.
Just rest in awareness. Just listen. Just receive. Just be. Just live in the stillness.
Beautiful ideas, of course. Life changing, some of them.
But taken too literally, they can start to drain the life out of you. This is the shadow side of spirituality.
People begin to edit themselves. Smooth themselves out. Hide anything that feels too much, too sharp, too human, too raw, too bold, too imperfect.
And slowly, something vital disappears.
Their humour. Their awkwardness. Their honesty. And most of all, their vulnerability.
What’s left can look very “peaceful”.
But it often feels frozen. Numb. Deadening.
I’ve met too many “spiritual zombies.” Hell, I used to be one of them!
Soft voice. Careful words. No opinions.
No risk.
No real contact.
No life.
The most deeply alive, grounded, genuinely happy people I know are full of personality. They laugh, they mess up, they have opinions, they show their vulnerability, they feel things fully.
They haven’t disappeared. They’ve come alive.
Yes, parts of the personality fall away. The fake, the defensive, the performative, the unconscious, the inauthentic, the blindly conditioned.
But not all of it. That’s the crucial part.
Not all of it. A healthy, alive personality remains.
You’re not here to erase yourself in the name of spirituality.
You’re here to be real. To be human. To be a little messy, a little awkward, a little wild, a little untamed.
A little fu***ng weird.
So keep your humour. Keep your edge. Keep your vulnerability. Keep your passion.
Don’t let your spirituality turn you into the walking dead.
Let it open you.
Let it actually bring you back to life.
- Jeff Foster