Demetris Nicolaides - Psychologist, MSc

12/03/2024

In a relationship, practicing accountability means both partners commit to their self-improvement rather than expecting the other to resolve their issues or do the hard work for them.

It's a partnership where each person supports the other's growth but also stands responsible for their own journey.

This balance creates a collaborative environment, steering clear of dependency and encouraging a shared journey towards growth. 🤝🫂 💚🌱
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19/02/2024

Understanding someone’s behavior shouldn’t come at the expense of understanding its impact on you.

Empathy and understanding towards a friend or partner’s background, such as having a judgmental or neglectful parent, can explain their disrespectful behavior, but it doesn’t lessen the hurtful effects on you.

Recognizing this is crucial as it allows you to set necessary boundaries and enforce consequences to protect your well-being.

This is not only beneficial for you but also for them, even if they don’t recognize it as such.
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15/12/2023

Look beyond how cute someone is and ask yourself if this is someone you want to tether yourself to and build a life with.

Remember this: we cannot change people, but we have a choice regarding who we invite into our life.

What else would you add to this list?
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21/04/2023

It hits different when you realize your own worth.

You stop begging people to stay or taking it personally when connections end.

You stop fighting to keep people interested or convince them of anything.

Its growth and maturity and a sign of self worth when you stop fighting for what doesn’t want to stay.

Don’t hold on too tight and attach to things outside of yourself and your control.

Life is about change and letting go.

09/02/2023

Don’t let this discourage you. Be mindful of your upbringing and conditioning and any self-defeating beliefs or automatic sabotaging tactics that you may have towards your self and your relationship.

It takes great effort to train our brain to choose the unfamiliar until it becomes naturally attractive.

You are capable and deserving of healthy relationships. 💜

08/12/2022

Are you familiar with any of the above self-sabotage examples? Do you know where your self-sabotage tendencies come from and what triggers them?

This is what Matilda has to say about self-sabotage:

“i am my own worst enemy 🤠 i think awareness is the first step in changing a habit, so i wrote down some of my self sabotage behaviors. i am noticing my triggers for these behaviors as well, for example; i procrastinate more when i’m surrounded by clutter, or when i’m not prepared for my daily tasks. after identifying a trigger, i think of a way i can solve it. so the day before i’m doing something important, i will clean my work space, and write lists of what i need to do, then break it down into even smaller steps, so i don’t sit there overwhelmed. a big step in overcoming self sabotage is to try to speak more kindly to yourself. a lot of my self sabotage comes from impostor syndrome, and feeling like i don’t deserve to do well, so i have to always remind myself that i do, even when it feels like i’m lying to myself. i’m trying to be compassionate to myself as i would to a friend.”

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Please note: Social media is not a place for therapy. All content shared here simplifies information around mental health and psychology to promote mental health awareness and be understood by as many of us as possible. Remember that no post includes exhaustive information, and this content must not be interpreted as an intervention. It’s also important to consider that despite our similarities, we are all different with unique experiences. Therefore, various insights or recommendations may resonate differently depending on your story.

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25/11/2022

It’s true that we are different, but it’s also true that we are all much more alike and similar than we think.

At our core, we all want the same thing: To be loved for who we (actually) are. To have the freedom to be on our own journey without someone trying to control us.

Most of us have to re-learn what love is. We’ve had conditional, transactional love that only comes when we are “good.” Or when we achieve. Or when we do something someone wants us to do.

Mature love is a safe space to grow, evolve, and return back to our genuine inner self.

Mature love comes when we are awakened. When we face our struggles and put in active effort to heal from our past and create a new authentic, mindful and meaningful future.

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Please note: Social media is not a place for therapy. All content shared here simplifies information around mental health and psychology to promote mental health awareness and be understood by as many of us as possible. Remember that no post includes exhaustive information, and this content must not be interpreted as an intervention. It’s also important to consider that despite our similarities, we are all different with unique experiences. Therefore, various insights or recommendations may resonate differently depending on your story.

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21/11/2022

A way we can effectively deal with passive-aggressive behavior is to stop ignoring indirect aggressive verbal or non-verbal messages/hints and instead choose to directly point out anything that the other person tries to communicate with us indirectly. Try to avoid the ego urge to respond in the same passive-aggressive manner. This will only feed and reward such behavior and type of communication.
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02/11/2022

Mental Wellness IS NOT a linear process, meaning that it is totally normal to have dips throughout a lifetime despite the work you have done toward healing. If things are getting bad again, this does not mean all of the work you have done is for nothing. Every time we endure and work through mental health struggles, we add more to our "toolbox". How do you know if it's getting unhealthy again?
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NOTE: Social media is not a place for therapy. Everything shared here is to be looked at as more of a guide and not an intervention. Every person is different, and different tools or insights may resonate differently depending on your situation.

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31/10/2022

In the same way we think of others and are influenced by them without necessarily letting all of them know about it, we also influence them, but many times we have no clue! Isn’t that mysterious and amazing at the same time? Remember that next time you feel you are a ghost 👻💜

Can you come up with other ways we impact others in any way without even realizing it?
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19/10/2022

Nothing wrong with “you’re pretty” as long as we don’t just stay there - on the surface.

There are so many meaningful compliments that we can use as an opportunity to create deep, loving connections and truly see people - beyond their physical appearance.

Anything else you would like to add as an example to the above?

Let’s spread some love today to all those in our lives that have helped us heal and grow along the way 🌱💜
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05/10/2022

29/09/2022

Show me your self-awareness and inner growth, and then we can have as much fun as you want! 😉
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01/09/2022

What do you wish you learned in school? 🤔

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25/08/2022

You decide what's worth sharing and what's not. Also, you choose when you want to share.

Privacy is a personal boundary.


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16/08/2022

The aim of gaslighting is to make the other person think they are crazy, paranoid, overreacting, or oversensitive. By doing this, the gaslighter ensures that this person will be unable to engage in a genuine disagreement with them on any matter. Gaslighting might not be intentional and may be a defense mechanism, but it is usually dangerous for those experiencing it.
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Gaslighting is a term that originated from a 1938 play “Gaslight” where a woman’s husband slowly manipulates her into believing she is going crazy. The term was then picked up in the 1960s to describe an individual’s efforts to manipulate someone’s perception of reality and lead them to doubt their memory and perception. It starts with small, barely noticeable offenses, but these add up. Eventually, the person experiencing the gaslighting may form low self-worth and is left unable to make decisions without doubting themselves.

It is important to recognize when we experience gaslighting so that we can respond in a way that is self-empowering 💪💜🙅
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Reference: Turning Up the Lights on Gaslighting; Kate Abramson; 2014

14/08/2022

Sometimes uncovering our self-worth and true authentic self requires us to fail at meeting certain expectations that parents or other people have of us - and we need to be brave to do that! 💪🙌
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