Systemische Beratungspraxis Debra Burns-Merget

17/02/2026

Reminder: Your job pays you for your time, not your entire existence. Protect your peace. 🤝

14/02/2026

14/02/2026

14/02/2026

12/02/2026

12/02/2026

Yep, dem kann ich nur zustimmen 😉. Ich hatte männliche GF, die diesem Muster 100% entsprachen. Und alle schauen weg. So funktionieren die Strukturen.

True leadership isn't found in the echo of agreement; it’s forged in the fire of respectful, healthy debate. Insecure bosses surround themselves with "yes people" to protect a fragile ego, but this comfort comes at the cost of growth and innovation.

Great leaders surround themselves with people who challenge their thinking. They understand that a diverse set of perspectives is the only way to see the full picture. By welcoming dissent, you aren't showing weakness—you are demonstrating a profound commitment to excellence. Surround yourself with those who care enough to tell you the truth.

Leadership is about getting it right, not being right.

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10/02/2026

Conflict, on its own, is not what destabilizes relationships. Disagreements are a natural part of emotional closeness—an inevitable meeting point of different histories, needs, and interpretations.

What often carries more weight is the atmosphere that follows.

Silence, when it appears without context or reassurance, can take on meanings beyond quiet. It may be experienced as distance, as withholding, or as an unspoken consequence for raising a concern. Over time, that pattern can shape what feels safe to express and what feels better left unsaid.

In many relational dynamics, the absence of acknowledgment can feel louder than words. Not because silence is inherently harmful, but because of what it comes to represent within the shared emotional space.

By contrast, some partnerships develop rhythms of return after rupture. Moments where what happened is named, where responsibility is spoken aloud, and where the focus shifts from being right to restoring steadiness between two people.

Repair, in this sense, becomes less about resolution and more about re-establishing emotional safety.

Educational content only and does not establish a therapy relationship.

10/02/2026

01/02/2026

Children don’t need pressure to grow — they need safety.🤎

01/02/2026

It’s not the absence of mistakes, but the presence of emotional safety that shapes children.🩵

01/02/2026

Narzisstische Mütter und ihre Kinder
Das ist keine Liebe. Das ist Besitz.

Liebe als Machtmittel
Zuneigung wird zur Währung. Gehorsam kauft Sicherheit. Ungehorsam bringt Strafe.

Du Durftest Niemals Du Selbst Sein
Deine Identität wurde früh ausgelöscht. Du existierst, um ihr Ego zu regulieren — nicht, um eine eigene Person zu werden.

Deine Gefühle Waren eine Bedrohung
Jedes Gefühl, das ihrem Bild nicht diente, wurde verspottet, ignoriert oder zerstört.

Du Warst Besitz, Kein Kind
Grenzen wurden nicht überschritten — sie durften nie existieren.

Geschwister Wurden zu Waffen Gemacht
Einer wurde gelobt, um zu kontrollieren. Einer beschuldigt, um zu zerstören. Beide wurden missbraucht.

Schuld Ersetzte Liebe
Loyalität wurde eingefordert. Schweigen erzwungen. Selbstaufgabe war Pflicht.

Freiheit Galt als Verrat
Unabhängigkeit löste Strafe aus. Flucht provozierte Vergeltung.

Der Schaden Ist Absicht.
Die Verwirrung Ist Teil des Plans.
Das Trauma Ist Das Ziel.

30/01/2026