Relation og Retning

27/10/2023

04/04/2022

Getting older and wiser 💜

"After a while you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning
And company doesn’t mean security,
And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts
And presents aren’t promises,
And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes open
With the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child,
And you learn to build all your roads on today,
Because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans,
And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
After a while you learn
That even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure…
That you really are strong,
And you really do have worth.
And you learn and learn…
With every goodbye you learn."

Veronica Shoffstall, “After a While.”
Art by Cameron Grey

Earthmonk

29/03/2022

Tak for deling Claus🙏🏻

~The Importance of Being Held.

The average length of a hug between two people is 3 seconds. But the researchers have discovered something fantastic. When a hug lasts 20 seconds, there is a therapeutic effect on the body and mind. The reason is that a sincere embrace produces a hormone called "oxytocin", also known as the love hormone. This substance has many benefits in our physical and mental health, helps us, among other things, to relax, to feel safe and calm our fears and anxiety. This wonderful tranquilizer is offered free of charge every time we have a person in our arms, who cradled a child, who cherish a dog or a cat, that we are dancing with our partner, the closer we get to someone or simply hold the Shoulders of a friend.
A famous quote by psychotherapist Virginia Satir goes, “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” Whether those exact numbers have been scientifically proven remains to be seen, but there is a great deal of scientific evidence related to the importance of hugs and physical contact. Here are some reasons why we should hug:

1. STIMULATES OXYTOCIN
Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that acts on the limbic system, the brain’s emotional centre, promoting feelings of contentment, reducing anxiety and stress, and even making mammals monogamous. It is the hormone responsible for us all being here today. You see this little gem is released during childbirth, making our mothers forget about all of the excruciating pain they endured expelling us from their bodies and making them want to still love and spend time with us. New research from the University of California suggests that it has a similarly civilising effect on human males, making them more affectionate and better at forming relationships and social bonding. And it dramatically increased the libido and sexual performance of test subjects. When we hug someone, oxytocin is released into our bodies by our pituitary gland, lowering both our heart rates and our cortisol levels. Cortisol is the hormone responsible for stress, high blood pressure, and heart disease.

2. CULTIVATES PATIENCE
Connections are fostered when people take the time to appreciate and acknowledge one another. A hug is one of the easiest ways to show appreciation and acknowledgement of another person. The world is a busy, hustle-bustle place and we’re constantly rushing to the next task. By slowing down and taking a moment to offer sincere hugs throughout the day, we’re benefiting ourselves, others, and cultivating better patience within ourselves.

3. PREVENTS DISEASE
Affection also has a direct response on the reduction of stress which prevents many diseases. The Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine says it has carried out more than 100 studies into touch and found evidence of significant effects, including faster growth in premature babies, reduced pain, decreased autoimmune disease symptoms, lowered glucose levels in children with diabetes, and improved immune systems in people with cancer.

4. STIMULATES THYMUS GLAND
Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.

5. COMMUNICATION WITHOUT SAYING A WORD
Almost 70 percent of communication is nonverbal. The interpretation of body language can be based on a single gesture and hugging is an excellent method of expressing yourself nonverbally to another human being or animal. Not only can they feel the love and care in your embrace, but they can actually be receptive enough to pay it forward to others based on your initiative alone.

6. SELF-ESTEEM
Hugging boosts self-esteem, especially in children. The tactile sense is all-important in infants. A baby recognizes its parents initially by touch. From the time we’re born our family’s touch shows us that we’re loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.

7. STIMULATES DOPAMINE
Everything everyone does involves protecting and triggering dopamine flow. Low dopamine levels play a role in the neurodegenerative disease Parkinson’s as well as mood disorders such as depression. Dopamine is responsible for giving us that feel-good feeling, and it’s also responsible for motivation! Hugs stimulate brains to release dopamine, the pleasure hormone. Dopamine sensors are the areas that many stimulating drugs such as co***ne and methamphetamine target. The presence of a certain kinds of dopamine receptors are also associated with sensation-seeking.

8. STIMULATES SEROTONIN
Reaching out and hugging releases endorphins and serotonin into the blood vessels and the released endorphins and serotonin cause pleasure and negate pain and sadness and decrease the chances of getting heart problems, helps fight excess weight and prolongs life. Even the cuddling of pets has a soothing effect that reduces the stress levels. Hugging for an extended time lifts one’s serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness.

9. PARASYMPATHETIC BALANCE
Hugs balance out the nervous system. The skin contains a network of tiny, egg-shaped pressure centres called Pacinian corpuscles that can sense touch and which are in contact with the brain through the vagus nerve. The galvanic skin response of someone receiving and giving a hug shows a change in skin conductance. The effect in moisture and electricity in the skin suggests a more balanced state in the nervous system – parasympathetic.
Embrace, embrace with your heart.~

http://www.so-tango.com/.../thedanceofthesincerehugand9re...
art | Lucy Campbell

16/02/2022

THE WOUNDED HEALER 🤍
She's no stranger to loneliness ..
No stranger to grief
No stranger to loss
No stranger to hurt
No stranger to shame
And It is because
she is no stranger to suffering
That she can be the healing touch
To all that come to her in pain.
If you ask her,
“Do you have any regrets?"
"If you could change your past would you?"
She would answer..
"I've lived through some hard times,
but I wouldn't change one moment of it ..
I was broken
In order to open ..
The compassion that now
flows through my heart
Is the grace of Divine Mother..
Nothing that I have experienced
Has been in vain".
~ © Caroline de Lisser

16/01/2022

SUPERVISION HOS RELATION OG RETNING
Jeg er ved at lægge sidste hånd på en spændende neuroaffektiv supervisionsuddannelse hos Peter Kofoed. Og i naturlig forlængelse, begynder jeg at tilbyde supervision til psykoterapeuter 1:1 og til grupper.

NEUROAFFEKTIV TEORI I SUPERVISIONEN
Har man sagt neuroaffektiv teori, så må man også sige Susan Hart og Marianne Bentzen. Begge arbejder med den neuroaffektive udviklingspsykologi som forståelsesramme for, hvordan vi udvikles og hvordan vores personlighed dannes. Til forståelsesrammen hører de neuroaffektive kompasser, der belyser vores sansninger, følelser og refleksioner ud fra den treenige hjerne, og vores tilhørende evne (eller mangel på samme) til regulering og mentalisering.
Med teorien kan vi blive klogere på menneskers udvikling og adfærd. Gøre det ubevidste bevidst, både hos os selv og hos vores klienter, og derved hjælpe mennesker på vej.
Med den neuroaffektive udviklingsteori, og et i øvrigt bredt teoretisk baggrundstapet, vil jeg gerne tilbyde kommende supervisander et hjerteligt rum, hvor der er plads til at lære af udfordringer, fejl, fortrydelse, utilstrækkelighed, styrke, sårbarhed, mod, ressourcer og venlig nysgerrighed.

OM MIG
Jeg har selv benyttet mig af supervision i alle de år, jeg har arbejdet med klienter, og ser det som en vigtig del af mit virke som psykoterapeut, for at kunne tage vare på mine klienter, mig selv, udvikle mig fagligt og personligt. Gennem årene har jeg modtaget supervision hos en lang række af dygtige supervisers; Tess Thestrup, Dorthe Rendtorff, Brian Rønnow, Ameyo Barfred-Dixon, Karen Bro, Ursula Fürstenwald, John Hjarsø og Liv Dhanyo Thommesen.

I de 10 år jeg har arbejdet klienter har jeg især beskæftiget mig med selvudvikling, opvæksttraumer, barn af alkoholiker, svære relationer, spiseforstyrrelser, mindfulness, åndedræt, hjernen og nervesystemer, terapi til børn og unge samt parterapi. Jeg driver min egen psykoterapeutiske virksomhed full-time og lever af det.

CURRICULUM VITAE
• Født 1970.
• Læreruddannet på Frederiksberg
Seminarium, 1999.
• Master i Professionel
Kommunikation, MPK på RUC, 2009.
• Startet arbejde med træningsklienter,
2012.
• Certificeret psykoterapeut på ID
Academy, 2014.
• Udbyder af mindfulness til børn,
2015.
• Certificeret mindfulnessinstruktør på
ID Academy, 2016.
• Mindfulnessassistent på ID Academy,
2016.
• HeartMath mentor, 2017.
• Undervisningsassistent på
psykoterapeutuddannelsen på ID
Academy 2016, 2017 og 2018.
• Mindfulnessfacilitator QuietZone og
Matrikel 1, 2019-2020.
• Imago parterapeut, 2019.
• Forfatter til bogen "RO - Mindfulness
for børn og unge" 2019.
• Start på neuroaffektiv
supervisionsuddannelse, 2021.

RAMMEN FOR SUPERVISIONEN, 1:1 ELLER GRUPPESUPERVISION
Supervision 1:1:
- Dine ønsker
- Egne processer og tematikker
- Fagpersonlig udvikling
- Personlige reflektioner
- Tømme containeren
- Kende område og komplekser som vi
deler eller ikke deler med vores
klienter
- Styrkelse af selvagens
- Bevidstgørelse af egenomsorg

1:1 supervison aftales fra gang til gang. Pris 800 kr. pr. 1 time.

Gruppesupervision:
- Jeres ønsker
- Reflekterende team
- In-tuning
- Episodeanalyse
- Temaarbejde
- Styrken i forskelligheder
- Spejling
- Styrkelse af selvagens
- Bevidstgørelse af egenomsorg

Gruppesupervison vil foregå med samme 4-5 gruppemedlemmer, hvor man mødes 3-4 timer, 6-8 gange om året. Pris 700 kr. pr. gang, forudsat at der er 4-5 supervisander.
Supervisionen vil foregå i Willemoesgade på Østerbro (1:1 og gruppe) eller i Tisvildeleje (1:1).

Du er hjerteligt velkommen til at kontakte mig på telefon 4081 1913 eller kontakt@relationogretning.dk

Mange hjertelige hilsner
Lea Brund Rasmussen, psykoterapeut MPF

12/11/2021

Se her ♥️ Det her er godt 🥰

26/10/2021

Tack Anne-Li Thor Pestel♥️🙏🏻

“When pregnant, the cells of the baby migrate into the mothers bloodstream and then circle back into the baby, it’s called “fetal-maternal microchimerism”.⁠

For 41 weeks, the cells circulate and merge backwards and forwards, and after the baby is born, many of these cells stay in the mother’s body, leaving a permanent imprint in the mothers tissues, bones, brain, and skin, and often stay there for decades. Every single child a mother has afterwards will leave a similar imprint on her body, too.

Even if a pregnancy doesn't go to full term or if you have an abortion, these cells still migrate into your bloodstream.

Research has shown that if a mother's heart is injured, fetal cells will rush to the site of the injury and change into different types of cells that specialize in mending the heart.

The baby helps repair the mother, while the mother builds the baby.

How cool is that?

This is often why certain illnesses vanish while pregnant.

It’s incredible how mothers bodies protect the baby at all costs, and the baby protects & rebuilds the mother back - so that the baby can develop safely and survive.

Think about crazy cravings for a moment. What was the mother deficient in that the baby made them crave?

Studies have also shown cells from a fetus in a mothers brain 18 years after she gave birth. How amazing is that?”

If you’re a mom you know how you can intuitively feel your child even when they are not there….Well, now there is scientific proof that moms carry them for years and years even after they have given birth to them.

I find this to be so very beautiful.

27/09/2021

Godt nok træls og trist at så mange kommer i klemme. Og der findes rigtig mange kvalificerede og professionelle psykoterapeuter, der kunne hjælpe.

Unge venter i gennemsnit 14 uger på gratis psykologhjælp. Det kan gøre folk mere syge, siger flere fagfolk.