Kærlighed og Nærvær

12/11/2025

Nice talk

06/11/2025

🙏

10/10/2025

06/10/2025

🙏

28/09/2025

🙏

28/09/2025

Esther Perel

04/05/2025

15/04/2025

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30/03/2025

Måske meget rart at læse

En række ældre studier har spredt en myte om, at op mod 30 procent af fædre slet ikke er ophavsmænd til deres børn. Nu nægter den fejlagtige påstand at dø.

26/02/2025

På vej til supervision på Tobias-Skolen i dag lyttede jeg til Anne Sophie Jørgensens nye bog: Køn, Kraft og ligeværd. Jeg kunne helt gratis finde den på e-reolen.

Det er en stærkt anbefalelsesværdig bog (jeg er halv-vejs) og en vigtig kommentar til vores tid, til parforhold og seksualitet.

03/09/2024

01/07/2024

“I don’t know if I’ve learned anything yet! I did learn how to have a happy home, but I consider myself fortunate in that regard because I could’ve rolled right by it. Everybody has a superficial side and a deep side, but this culture doesn’t place much value on depth — we don’t have shamans or soothsayers, and depth isn’t encouraged or understood. Surrounded by this shallow, glossy society we develop a shallow side, too, and we become attracted to fluff. That’s reflected in the fact that this culture sets up an addiction to romance based on insecurity — the uncertainty of whether or not you’re truly united with the object of your obsession is the rush people get hooked on. I’ve seen this pattern so much in myself and my friends and some people never get off that line.
But along with developing my superficial side, I always nurtured a deeper longing, so even when I was falling into the trap of that other kind of love, I was hip to what I was doing. I recently read an article in Esquire magazine called ‘The End of Sex,’ that said something that struck me as very true. It said: “If you want endless repetition, see a lot of different people. If you want infinite variety, stay with one.” What happens when you date is you run all your best moves and tell all your best stories — and in a way, that routine is a method for falling in love with yourself over and over.
You can’t do that with a longtime mate because he knows all that old material. With a long relationship, things die then are rekindled, and that shared process of rebirth deepens the love. It’s hard work, though, and a lot of people run at the first sign of trouble. You’re with this person, and suddenly you look like an as***le to them or they look like an as***le to you — it’s unpleasant, but if you can get through it you get closer and you learn a way of loving that’s different from the neurotic love enshrined in movies. It’s warmer and has more padding to it.”

― Joni Mitchell