Psychotherapist Raminta Sakinyte

14/01/2026

Why is it so hard to ask for help?

A couple of months ago, I was hosting a workshop on this topic and I wanted to share the highlights from it.

Asking for help is difficult for so many people.
Not because we don’t need support—but because we often choose to struggle alone rather than reach out, reveal vulnerability, or admit that we could use someone to talk to.
Ironically, this doesn’t make us stronger.
It often leaves us more isolated and more vulnerable.

So why is it so hard to reach out?
There are many reasons. Here are a few I see often:

• Early experiences and attachment patterns.
Our relationship with help begins in childhood. If our needs were ignored, dismissed, or met with shame, we may have learned—consciously or unconsciously—that asking leads to rejection or disappointment. As adults, even a small request for support can activate old feelings of vulnerability and unmet needs.

• Beliefs about weakness and self-reliance.
Many of us carry beliefs that asking for help means we are weak, incapable, or a burden. These beliefs are often shaped by cultural and social norms that value independence and self-sufficiency, sometimes at the cost of connection and well-being.

• Fear of vulnerability.
Reaching out can feel awkward, exposing, and out of control—especially if we’re not used to it. Letting someone see us struggle can feel riskier than staying silent.

Why asking for help actually matters

• Reaching out doesn’t make you weak—it does the opposite.
• It reduces isolation. Carrying everything alone can create a quiet loneliness, even when we appear strong on the outside.
• It supports emotional regulation. Our nervous system settles through safe connection. From a neurobiological perspective, asking for help is not weakness—it’s wisdom.
• It builds resilience. Resilience doesn’t come from doing everything alone; it comes from knowing when and how to lean on others.
• It softens internalized shame. Each time we ask for help and are met with understanding, we learn that it is safe to lean—and that we are not too much.

How to start asking for help
• Start small—one manageable request
• Don’t overthink it; just reach out
• Remind yourself that asking builds trust and strengthens relationships
• Your openness may even give others permission to do the same
If you are feeling overwhelmed, confused, anxious, or depressed, you are always welcome to reach out to me.

Reach out if you want to start therapy. I am seeing clients in Copenhagen and online :)

15/12/2025

December is often portrayed as a month filled with joy, Christmas spirit, and coziness. Yet for many, this time of year also brings up more complex feelings — loneliness, pressure, expectations, stress, and emotional overwhelm. These experiences are real, but rarely spoken about.

Tomorrow, I am hosting a workshop to explore some of those complex feelings that arrive while waiting for Christmas. Together, we’ll prepare to meet Christmas with more self-acceptance, compassion, and inner peace.

Join us for an insightful workshop where we will:
Explore the mixed emotions that arise during the holiday season
Engage in meaningful discussions in a supportive, judgment-free space
Practise how to hold space for ourselves with compassion

To learn more and sign up: https://lnkd.in/e7zwea3Z

Looking forward to seeing you all! 💚🤗

27/11/2025

Kviečiu į psichoterapiją, Kopenhagoje (Nordvest) ir internetu.

Jeigu pastaruoju metu jauti nerimą, įtampą, vidinį chaosą, patiri sunkumų santykiuose ar šeimoje, arba tiesiog gyvenimo našta atrodo per didelė — kreipkis.
Nereikia visko nešti vienam. Rasime sprendimus kartu!

Truputi apie mane. Mano terapinio darbo pagrindas – autentiškas, saugus ir nevertinantis ryšys. Jis leidžia žmogui atsiverti pokyčiams, gyjimui ir vidiniam augimui.
Esu baigusi psichologiją Vilniaus universitete, ir Gestalt psichoterapijos studojas Danijos institute GIS.
Kontaktai: raminta.therapy@gmail.com
tlf. 52 75 20 14

17/10/2025

Asking for Help: Why It’s So Difficult — and Why It Matters

We all need help sometimes, yet so often we choose to bite our lips and push through instead of reaching out.

We have difficult feelings at times, sadness, confusion, or self-doubt, you name it — but rather than seeking support, we often hide and wait for the feelings to “pass”.

- Why is it so hard for many of us to ask for help?
- And why is it such an important skill to practise?

On Tuesday, 21st at 17:00, I am hosting a workshop to explore those questions.

Join us for an insightful and interactive workshop where we will:
🍁Explore the emotional and psychological reasons behind our struggle to reach out
🍁Engage in meaningful discussions in a supportive, judgment-free space
🍁Learn why asking for help is not weakness, but an act of connection and self-care

This workshop is open to everyone — whether you find it hard to ask for help yourself, or simply wish to understand this human challenge more deeply.

16/05/2025

Psichoterapija Kopenhagoje ir internetu.
Jei patiri nerimą, baimes, turi per daug minčių, jautiesi pasimetęs/usi, sunkumai santykiuose ar tiesiog jauties, kad kartais gyvenimas per sudėtingas😩🤔😓
Nekentėk vienas/a. Susisiek! ❤

30/04/2025

Inferiority Complex: What It Is and How to Cope

A few weeks ago, I hosted a workshop on inferiority complex at DepressionsForeningen. The topic resonated deeply with many participants, so I’m sharing the key takeaways here—maybe they’ll resonate with you too.

👇 First, the basics:
Feeling inferior is something we all experience from time to time. And often, it’s not a bad thing—it can even push us to grow, learn, and evolve.

But when the sense of inadequacy becomes overwhelming—when it freezes us, leads to depression, or stops us from living fully—it may be a sign of an inferiority complex.

🚩 Common signs of an inferiority complex:
- Constant self-criticism
- Avoiding challenges due to fear of failure
- Seeking external approval to feel "enough"
- Overreacting to feedback or criticism
- Social withdrawal
- Perfectionism
- Jealousy or comparison with others

💡 How to cope:
🌟 Focus on yourself – Your story, your path, your strengths.
🚫 Stop comparing to others—it rarely serves you. Compare yourself to your past self.
🎯 Set smaller goals – Small wins help build confidence.
🎉 Be your own cheerleader – Acknowledge your progress.
🤷‍♀️ If you make a mistake, ask: So what?
🌈 If you’re doubting your next step, ask: What’s the best that could happen?
✅ Struggling with perfectionism? Remind yourself: Done is better than perfect.

🤝 You’re not alone.
If feelings of inferiority are strong or persistent, don’t keep it all inside.

Talk to someone you trust—or reach out to a therapist. It’s okay to ask for help ❤️

22/04/2025

Hi everyone 💛
I’m a clinical psychotherapist with some new availability in my schedule, and I’m currently welcoming new clients.
If you’ve been thinking about starting therapy—or returning to it—I’d love to connect.
I work with adults navigating anxiety, depression, self-esteem, loneliness, or life transitions—those seeking more clarity and a deeper sense of self.
My style is warm, collaborative, and grounded in presence. I aim to create a space where you feel truly seen and supported—no pressure to have it all figured out. Sessions are embodied, present-focused, and guided by curiosity.
If you're curious or have questions, feel free to message me.
I offer a free intro call to see if it feels like a good fit.
We all deserve support. You don’t have to do this alone 💛

PM or text me via 52752014 📱

Gestalt psychotherapist to guide you on your paths of self-discovery, personal growth and healing.

07/04/2025

On the 15th of April, I will be hosting a workshop on Inferiority Complex in Cafe Blom.

Comparing yourself with others – and the ensuing questioning of your intrinsic worth – is a sentiment that resonates across many walks of life.

Many people, regardless of their background or life stage – whether embarking on a new career, pursuing further education, or embracing a different life path – grapple with feelings of self-doubt.

Join us for an insightful and interactive workshop 🌱

Comparing yourself with others – and the ensuing questioning of your intrinsic worth – is a sentiment that resonates across many walks of life. Many people, regardless of their background or life stage – whether embarking on a new career, pursuing further education, or embracing a different li...

24/06/2024

Tomorrow I am hosting a workshop on loneliness and connection. Come learn more about the subject and how to help yourself and others who struggle with the pain of loneliness 🫶

https://depressionsforeningen.dk/event/loneliness-connection/?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTAAAR0KUL1xvZV4tsXr0mRQGKJYNQD3VFDNSGrMggqQFDmL8X23ZBsUyFdZgsI_aem_jtF1ert8mEAIz8n89aFFgw

People across all age groups and regions of the world are increasingly affected by loneliness and social isolation, which are not only detrimental to our mental health and societies, but also have a significant impact on our physical health. What should you do when you realize that loneliness has be...

28/05/2024

Join us this Tuesday, May 28th at 17:00 – 19:30.

I will be hosting a workshop on Making Mistakes and Moving On.

Making mistakes is an important part of growing up and learning to live in this world; it is human, and we all do it. Yet, as adults, making mistakes becomes less welcomed. We have higher expectations for ourselves, and there might be some from others too. What happens to us when we make mistakes? Why we tend to dwell on them, even long after they’ve occurred? How do we move on? Let’s explore together the psychology of making mistakes and discover effective strategies for moving on.

To sign up, press here: https://depressionsforeningen.us12.list-manage.com/track/click?u=b840ed69c37fbf0bfce93880f&id=5756cb2fb1&e=58cafde681

30/04/2024

Intensive Personal Development weekend in May 24-26th.

Are you curious about your personal development? Curious about your own pattern and how you interact with other people? Might there be opportunities in your life that you passed by because of holding back?