Essenzen Psykoterapi v/Lene Bak

31/07/2025

Life ✨️❤️🌿

“Life is amazing. And then it's awful. And then it's amazing again. And in between the amazing and awful it's ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That's just living heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it's breathtakingly beautiful."
L.R. Knost

Armand Tavernier - Winter in the Flemish Ardennes, 1899 - 1991.

19/07/2025

Omgiv dig med mennesker, der anerkender din værdi og dit talent ✨️💞

🎻✨ He played for 45 minutes in a Washington D.C. metro station...

Only six people stopped to listen.
Only one applauded.
A few tossed some coins. He earned just $32.

No one knew that the man behind the baseball cap was Joshua Bell—one of the world’s greatest violinists.
He was playing a $3.5 million Stradivarius violin, built in 1713, performing one of the most complex pieces ever written for solo violin: Bach’s Chaconnе.

Just two days earlier, Bell played a sold-out concert at a Boston theater where tickets went for over $100.

This wasn’t a prank.
It was a social experiment.

And it revealed something deeply human:

🕰️ In the wrong context, even greatness goes unnoticed.
🌱 Sometimes it’s not about your talent, but about the room you're in.
🧭 And often, the only thing standing between obscurity and recognition is being in the right place.

Let this be your reminder:
You are not ordinary just because others fail to see your brilliance.
Step into spaces that reflect your worth.
Be where your light is seen.

Because even the most exquisite melody means little to those rushing by with closed hearts.

17/07/2025

❤️ Gør det nu!

"If you didn’t do it at forty, then do it at sixty. The only thing that matters—is that you do it!"

My grandmother, who lived to be 97, always told me that life only gets better with time. And now? I finally understand what she meant.

Age is a funny thing. We live in a world obsessed with timelines—marry by this age, succeed by that age, retire by another. Miss a milestone? Society tells you the moment is gone forever.

But here’s the truth: that’s a lie.

If your twenties were full of doubts, make your forties wild.
If your forties were consumed by responsibilities, dance through your sixties.
If you didn’t burn brightly back then—ignite now.

There’s no deadline on joy. No expiration date on reinvention. No too-late for dreams.

So wear the bold colors. Book the ticket. Learn the language. Start over.

Because late? Is always better than never.

✨
— Tilda Swinton

12/07/2025

Smart forælder❣️💪

Alex Schulman skriver om sin barndom i håb om, at den bliver bedre. »Mit ærinde er at forstå,« siger han.

»Jeg ved, at mine børn en dag vil se på mig med vrede og sorg. Og så vil jeg – i modsætning til mine forældre – holde min kæft og lytte.«

Læs interviewet her: https://www.weekendavisen.dk/boeger/ud-af-jordkaelderen

Artiklen blev udgivet første gang 19. november 2023.

21/06/2025

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I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that—I don’t mind people being happy—but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness.

It’s a really odd thing that we’re now seeing people saying “write down three things that made you happy today before you go to sleep” and “cheer up” and “happiness is our birthright” and so on.

We’re kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position. It’s rubbish.

Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are.

Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they don’t teach us much.

Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say, “Quick! Move on! Cheer up!” I’d like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word “happiness” and to replace it with the word “wholeness.”

Ask yourself, “Is this contributing to my wholeness?” and if you’re having a bad day, it is.
~Hugh Mackay~

Photo: The Mysterious Flame of Anima 6" by Danko Merin, created in 2017.

Archaeology for the Woman's Soul

30/05/2025

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23/05/2025

Noget af det familieopstilling kan, er at vise vej til generationelle traumer. Det vil sige traumer, der lever på tværs af generationer i et familiesystem. Ofte har vi ingen anelse om traumernes eksistens og alligevel påvirker de vores liv big time. Typisk mere end vi aner.

Transgenerational Trauma: How mothers’ untreated pain passes into the care of their daughters.

Trauma runs through generations until someone is strong enough to handle all this pain and heal it. We carry our mothers and their pains on our backs, just like they carried their mothers and their unhealed pains, just like our daughters, if we don't stop doing our work, they carry us on our back and our pains.

Pain and trauma pass on like a transgenerational jump: a wounded and suffering mother, traumatized, unconnected and unable to connect to the child. A child without a mother present, connected, will be a child who absorbs all the pain and transmits it.

A lot of us are "strong" women. A strong woman had to become this way because she went through a lot of pain. Often, strong means full of defensive mechanisms, which are those that disconnect us from ourselves and those around us.
~Gloria Talmaciu~

Photo: Image on Pinterest.
If anyone knows the artist, please let me know to add it here. Thank you. 🙏

Archaeology for the Woman's Soul

09/05/2025

Kom og vær med til famillieopstilling i centrum af Roskilde 😊👇

06/05/2025

Så går det løs: Kursus i familieopstilling i centrum af Roskilde den 6. + 7. juni 2025.

Har du en relation, der er gået i hårdknude? Måske en drænende relation til din chef eller til en kollega?

Eller er det forholdet til din bror, din søster eller en af dine forældre, der kan få dig helt op i det røde felt og måske suger al din energi?

Et tema kan også være et mål eller en drøm, som du skubber foran dig og aldrig rigtig får taget mod til at gå efter.

Familieopstilling kan nænsomt give nye indsigter om fastgroede vaner og mønstre. Kom og oplev, hvad opstilling kan gøre for dig.

I en opstilling kan du både få rollen som fokusperson, hvor du arbejder med et selvvalgt tema og som repræsentant, hvor du medvirker i en anden deltagers opstilling. Kursusdeltagere giver udtryk for at begge dele er spændende og givende.

Hvornår: Fredag den 6. juni kl. 15 - 20 samt lørdag den 7. juni kl. 10 - 15.

Hvor: I Algade 28a, 2 tv.

Der vil blive serveret vand, te, kaffe og snacks.

Du er velkommen til at medbringe en klemme til frokost. Der er desuden cafeer og madsteder lige nede på gaden og Superbrugsen ligger 200 m nede ad Algade.

Transport: Lokalet ligger 300 m fra Roskilde station og 350 m fra p-huset på Sortbrødre Plads.

Tilmelding: Mail lene@essenzen.dk & mobil 60296963. Eller du kan bruge 'opkaldsknappen' nedenfor.

Introduktionspris: Kr. 1.500,- i alt for to dages kursus.

Til dig, der ikke kender mig:
Jeg er psykoterapeut MPF & supervisor og oprindeligt uddannet cand.ling.merc. i sprog og kulturforståelse. Desuden har jeg et ekstra sidefag i psykologi og har 16 års undervisererfaring fra handelsgymnasiet i sprog og psykologi. Essenzen er min private praksis, hvor jeg har arbejdet på fuld tid siden 2016. Her tager jeg imod private klienter og supervisander. I en lang årrække har jeg sideløbende haft virksomhedsaftaler og ydet psykoterapi og supervision til medarbejdere. En del af mit virke er endvidere at lave egne kurser og at undervise kommende psykoterapeutstuderende.
Jeg har klinikker i Roskilde og Valby.
Du kan læse mere om min erfaring og min tilgang på: www.essenzen.dk

01/05/2025

Er i fuld gang med at planlægge kursus i familieopstilling.

Er du interesseret, så holde øje med mine opslag - eller giv mig et praj 👇
så sender jeg dig direkte besked 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦👨‍👩‍👧👩‍👩‍👦

10/04/2025

🔥💛🧡❤️

You and I are the Phoenix. Our lives ask us to die and to be reborn every time we confront change – change within ourselves and change in the world. When we descend all the way down to the bottom of a loss, and dwell patiently, with an open heart, in the darkness and pain, we can bring back up with us the sweetness of life and the exhilaration of inner growth.
When there is nothing left to lose, we find the true self – the self that is whole, the self that is enough, the self that no longer looks to others for definition, or completion, or anything but companionship on the journey.

~ Elizabeth Lesser, Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow
🎨 by Unknown Artist
Rivers in the Ocean

26/03/2025

A matter of attunement ❤️