Find your perfect partner

21/10/2024

There is nothing more beautiful, than when the universe sends you instant signs to say you are aligned.
It's like being loved and hugged, by a most potent energy.
When you take the time to connect to your higher self, make a practice of doing it each day.
The rewards are tenfold.

You experience peace within, and so it is without.
You no longer feel like you have to struggle to achieve your goals. You just put in the work and regularly see signs, that guide you.
Confusion becomes a thing of the past.
You develop trust in yourself once again, and decision-making becomes easier.
Fear disappears and in its place faith is restored.
Everything feels brighter and you have more clarity.
The need becomes a thing of the past and desires, turn into reality.

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Because disconnection means living a life that isn't half of the life you were designed for.

21/10/2024

Does fear of abandonment ruin your relationships?
Is the fear of loss, ruining your chances of love?

Then you might want to read this..
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The road back from abandonment.
The journey

Do you have abandonment issues?

Do you have fears that arise in you and roar in your chest, like a pride of lions, when you perceive that someone you love is going to leave?

I do, I did. I have…experienced this; for years.

I have lived with fear. It has become familiar like a best friend, but without the pros - the benefits - but with many lessons, that have the opportunity to become blessings.

A month ago my partner of almost five months was taking a pre-organised trip up the coast with some friends. Up until this point in our relationship, my fears of abandonment had been unseen. But I knew deep down, that they were just hovering, waiting to step out of the shadows and into the limelight, where they would once again do their fandango. Take centre stage and threaten to sabotage my love life.

Some say that you must heal fully before you enter into a relationship when you have a fear of being left. I disagree.

I believe if you have enough awareness, a relationship is the perfect place to air your issues. Bring them out into the open and let them breathe, be seen and heard.

I have heard the words "I am alright on my own" uttered too many times. And people are 'Alright on their own' of course they are.
Because there is no one to leave, potentially. No one to trigger those anxious thoughts and emotions. Just people, poddling along with their stuff that needs to be dealt with bubbling away like a witches cauldron of toxicity, waiting to spill over and poison the whole damn thing.

I was alright on my own too, and I am now. Because when my partner left for a few days with his friends. I didn't push down the terrors that my inner child was experiencing. I didn't entertain the thoughts of sitting back in my place, alone. As I have done in previous times.

No, instead I asked the little girl who was screaming with fear, what she needed from me. Instead of creating a scene and jumping on the stage of life, to make a drama unfold in my relationship.

And I told her also, that the answer to our peace, was not to be found in him, my love. Although he brings us a lot of it, in day-to-day life.

After a while, she replied with such clarity "I want to go to the woods, where we walk."
"Just you and I."
"I want you to take me there, and I want you to see how happy you can make me."
"I want you to do this and feel how powerful you are, in our life."
"How you can always feel good and loved."
"Always feel safe and stable. And enough."
So we did.
We jumped in the car and we went on a short journey to the woods.

Once there I felt my heart begin to lift and a spring return to my step as we begin to walk.
And then I saw her, me. As a child.
And I felt her hand in mine.
She skipped as we walked and it melted my heart, but at the same time, I felt strong. I felt good. I felt happy.

My mind and my body had returned to me and joined my soul once again. I no longer felt detached from my authenticity and higher self. There was no fear.

I felt like I had pushed aside a heavy boulder that had been lying on my chest. Restricting my breathing and making me sweat, with all the effort of carrying it.

I felt free, I felt like me.

At one point, as I gazed upon my younger self, a giggle rose inside me. And I found myself smiling at the happiness I was not only witnessing. But experiencing deep within.
I had let go, I had reconnected. And it felt wonderful. My focus was no longer directed to finding relief from the outside world. Because I had found it in me.

There's so much magic to be found in releasing what you are holding onto so tightly. So much healing in letting go. And sometimes a surprising turn of events, in taking your eyes off the goal and needing it.

Within 20 minutes of skipping in the forest with my mini-me, feeling the joy of being free from the trauma of my past. My partner called to say, he was coming home a day early.

And the strangeness of it all, was although I was happy to hear he was coming back. I no longer needed him to. Because the little girl within me, was quite contented and satisfied just being with me.

Change your energy, change your life - Nicola Farnhill

We are still together, him and me. But also her and me. We always will be. I will never leave her again. I promised her that and I always keep my promises.

We sometimes feel the fear, and the possibility of loss, of losing. But we no longer turn away from it. We just take a walk or sit silently. So she can remind me of what I can give her. Of what she needs…from me.

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After living with abandonment wounds for a lifetime, over 50 years. And helping others overcome theirs. I would love to tell people that trauma can be fully overcome, like the death of a loved one. But I believe if I did that I would be telling a lie. Instead, I would like to say, that it can be integrated, soothed, and managed, well.
That you can live alongside the pains of the past and learn to alchemize them into things that feel more like your destiny. Such as your purpose and reason for being.

Thank you for reading me today. For your kindness, when sharing my vulnerability. And walking alongside me and mini me, on our journey to share our findings.
With much love
Nic xx
www.connectedtoself.com
Begin your journey here by grabbing one of my courses- ---

The road back from abandonment.
The journey
Do you have abandonment issues?
Do you have fears that arise in you and roar in your chest, like a pride of lions, when you perceive that someone you love is going to leave?
I do, I did. I have…experienced this; for years.
I have lived with fear. It has become familiar like a best friend, but without the pros - the benefits - but with many lessons, that have the opportunity to become blessings.

A month ago my partner of almost five months was taking a pre-organised trip up the coast with some friends. Up until this point in our relationship, my fears of abandonment had been unseen. But I knew deep down, that they were just hovering, waiting to step out of the shadows and into the limelight, where they would once again do their fandango. Take centre stage and threaten to sabotage my love life.
Some say that you must heal fully before you enter into a relationship when you have a fear of being left. I disagree. I believe if you have enough awareness, a relationship is the perfect place to air your issues. Bring them out into the open and let them breathe, be seen and heard.
I have heard the words "I am alright on my own" uttered too many times. And people are 'Alright on their own' of course they are. Because there is no one to leave, potentially. No one to trigger those anxious thoughts and emotions. Just people, poddling along with their stuff that needs to be dealt with bubbling away like a witches cauldron of toxicity, waiting to spill over and poison the whole damn thing.
I was alright on my own too, and I am now. Because when my partner left for a few days with his friends. I didn't push down the terrors that my inner child was experiencing. I didn't entertain the thoughts of sitting back in my place, alone. As I have done in previous times.
No, instead I asked the little girl who was screaming with fear, what she needed from me. Instead of creating a scene and jumping on the stage of life, to make a drama unfold in my relationship.
And I told her also, that the answer to our peace, was not to be found in him, my love. Although he brings us a lot of it, in day-to-day life.
After a while, she replied with such clarity "I want to go to the woods, where we walk."
"Just you and I."
"I want you to take me there, and I want you to see how happy you can make me."
"I want you to do this and feel how powerful you are, in our life."
"How you can always feel good and loved."
"Always feel safe and stable. And enough."
So we did.
We jumped in the car and we went on a short journey to the woods.
Once there I felt my heart begin to lift and a spring return to my step as we begin to walk.
And then I saw her, me. As a child.
And I felt her hand in mine.
She skipped as we walked and it melted my heart, but at the same time, I felt strong. I felt good. I felt happy.
My mind and my body had returned to me and joined my soul once again. I no longer felt detached from my authenticity and higher self. There was no fear.
I felt like I had pushed aside a heavy boulder that had been lying on my chest. Restricting my breathing and making me sweat, with all the effort of carrying it.
I felt free, I felt like me.
At one point, as I gazed upon my younger self, a giggle rose inside me. And I found myself smiling at the happiness I was not only witnessing. But experiencing deep within.
I had let go, I had reconnected. And it felt wonderful. My focus was no longer directed to finding relief from the outside world. Because I had found it in me.
There's so much magic to be found in releasing what you are holding onto so tightly. So much healing in letting go. And sometimes a surprising turn of events, in taking your eyes off the goal and needing it.
Within 20 minutes of skipping in the forest with my mini-me, feeling the joy of being free from the trauma of my past. My partner called to say, he was coming home a day early.
And the strangeness of it all, was although I was happy to hear he was coming back. I no longer needed him to. Because the little girl within me, was quite contented and satisfied just being with me.
Change your energy, change your life - Nicola Farnhill
We are still together, him and me. But also her and me. We always will be. I will never leave her again. I promised her that and I always keep my promises.
We sometimes feel the fear, and the possibility of loss, of losing. But we no longer turn away from it. We just take a walk or sit silently. So she can remind me of what I can give her. Of what she needs…from me.

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After living with abandonment wounds for a lifetime, over 50 years. And helping others overcome theirs. I would love to tell people that trauma can be fully overcome, like the death of a loved one. But I believe if I did that I would be telling a lie. Instead, I would like to say, that it can be integrated, soothed, and managed, well.
That you can live alongside the pains of the past and learn to alchemize them into things that feel more like your destiny. Such as your purpose and reason for being.
Thank you for reading me today. For your kindness, when sharing my vulnerability. And walking alongside me and mini me, on our journey to share our findings.
With much love
Nic xx
www.connectedtoself.com
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19/09/2024

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07/06/2024

Don't Ever Stop Doing This to Achieve What the World Demands

How are you doing when it comes to maintaining your weirdness?

I am observing and categorizing consistently, even when I am not aware of it. Every conversation I have, every article I read. In every interaction I observe.
I blurt things out and go from one topic to another at a rate of knots.
It's just my kind of weird. I know it now, which is a comfort. I am not in the dark anymore when it comes to why I never fit in, why I couldn't ever conform.
So what about you?
In a world that is focused on self-improvement, personal development, and becoming the best version of yourself.
How are you doing when it comes to maintaining your weirdness?
Your little quirks, your little habits?
No one escapes it you know, being weird. It's just that some seemingly have it more than others.
I don't think our differences are encouraged enough.
We go to school, and we are put into boxes (This can be the start of the 'Noticing' for the really weird ones)
We have to behave a certain way, we have to look a certain way and we have to grow a certain way. And this is not just in school; this is all our lives.
Some want it, the being boxed up, with time out for good behaviour and holidays. They like it there. I tried for a long time to be one of them. Didn't work.
It only made things worse. I became weirder.
You see, it's not just my brain that doesn't like to follow the traditional path, oh no. It's my body, too. It moves in weird ways. Desires to experience different things and even wear different things.
And now I let it. And it feels better.
In groups of people, large or small. I behave in ways that aren't quite the same. I know it, but don't mind now.
"Suck it up, buttercup." I can't do anything else.
Well, I can, but I suffer. And I have done suffering.
So what about you? Do you have a lot of weirdness, gagging to get out? Are you still stuck in the effort of conformity? Or are you still healing and trying to work it all out?
Wherever you are. I say, "Embrace it."
The most talented, intelligent, gifted, and funniest people are weird. Have stuff going on and act a bit freaky at times. And I think it's amazing!
Ok, some of the world don't and that's ok. But don't ever put yourself in a box for them. Make yourself invisible and small. Quash down those words and hide those strange but enlightening thoughts. There's magic there!
That inspiration that lights up brains and rooms. That changes lives and liberates.
Don't you dare!
Because the world needs your weirdness. Your awkwardness and idiosyncrasies. And so do I. Because you're my tribe, you see. The people I sought for a lifetime.
You're the ones I meet, by chance. And have long conversations with in unexpected places. And I live for those moments.
So don't dull your weirdness down, or we will never find each other. And the rest of humanity will never get to see how you sparkle and bring wonder to the game.
Don't worry about those who look away or wear red faces. When you release your inhibitions, they are more than likely envious because they are hiding inside a whole container of boxes. And would love to dare, to jump out.
Be weird, show them what fun it is, to be yourself.
Because you can't be anything else comfortably.

01/06/2024

The Special Guidelines I Seek Out Daily to Secure My Faith

Because without faith, we have nothing.

Do you have a process that helps you to maintain your feelings around who you are and what you are capable of?
I do.
But I haven't always.

I lived for many, many years, faithless. I didn't believe in myself, I didn't believe in my abilities, and I didn't believe that anything was working outside of me and within me, to assist and guide me.

I was, to put it mildly. A loose cannon. A ball of energy ricocheting around in life, stopping briefly in different places and with different people. Looking for a home.
The sad thing is it took me over 30 years to find it. The crazy thing is, it was in me all the time.

What a joke…life is. Well not really, but it bloody well felt like one.

Coming out of my disconnected days was the most enlightening and profound time in my life and probably the most painful.

When you stop ricocheting around, all that painful and stuck energy from the past gets all pent up and makes you fidgety and you become irritable.

Your mind doesn't feel ready to let go of the bull it's been feeding you with.
And it's a freaking battle of monstrous proportions.
But battle you do, against yourself, the past, the pain, the safety of what you know. It's like being a washing machine, with short stops between the spin cycle.
Yuck.

And at times, you feel ill.

And then you start to have moments of nothing. Spaces where it feels ok to not do, be or have anything.
And it's heaven…literally.
When you can sit with yourself, peace envelopes you. And all of a sudden, you feel like you can breathe again.

(I am crying right now at the feeling.)
It's intense. Because you've chased this feeling for what feels like a lifetime. And then the realization comes that, you didn't need to. You just needed to let go, to let it in.

And then the moments, become hours and days and weeks, and in between the moments, you have triggers, but you are ok with it.
Little spells that bring back harsh memories, but you've got a little smart for it all now.
No matter what happens to test you, you are solid. "No way am I going back."
And you don't. And the past loses its grip.

And then all that's left to do is decide what you want to create in your life, and develop belief in yourself. And maintain the faith that you can have it and do it.

Here are 20 reminders that I love to keep my faith.

1.Be expectant, confident, and optimistic.
2.Keep your enthusiasm strong; never allow yourself to be discouraged or depressed.
3.Charge your mind with interest, enthusiasm, and ambition.
4.Keep your ambition and aspiration high, and cultivate patience and perseverance.
5.Keep your imagination centered in what you want and keep your faith moving forward toward it.
6.Keep your consciousness expanding, growing, and moving to higher levels.
7.Be positive in your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
8-Accentuate the positive in every situation. Never allow yourself to dwell upon misery, sickness operations, symptoms, reverses, misfortunes, or bad luck.
9.Never depreciate, criticise, minimise, or speak disparagingly of yourself. Never dwell upon your mistakes. Think always of yourself as growing, expanding and becoming more resourceful and dynamic.
10.Look for the good in everything and everybody. Refuse to recognize anything but the good.
11.Seek the best of everything and know that your mind will produce it.
Think in large terms. The more you expect, the more your faith will bring to you.
12.Convince your mind that what you seek is already here, that it is yours now.
13.Train your mind to think in terms of abundance, and never allow it to dwell upon lack or limitation in any form.
14.Stimulate your faculties and talents by increasing your demands upon them.
15.When you meet trouble of any kind, refuse to be worried or disturbed by it. Know that you are bigger than any adverse thing that happens to you and have the power to overcome it.
16.Meet every problem with the conviction that it is already solved. See it as an opportunity to prove God/source.
17.Face every difficulty with courage, strength, and fortitude; determine to turn it to good account.
18.Know that you have the power to adjust anything, change anything, correct anything, overcome anything, or subdue anything.
19.Act always with the truth, and never allow yourself to compromise evil. If the truth is to make you free, you must rely upon it. You must pass from belief to trust.
20.Believe the unbelievable. God/source goes all out for you when you go all out for God/source.

Giving thanks and love to Robert. A Russell. And his book 'God works through faith.'
The book that he wrote all these reminders in.
Keep the faith, always.

31/05/2024

Why Spiritual Practices Don't Always Work When Practiced Religiously

It's mostly trauma that leads us to awaken spiritually.
It's when we reach that point of becoming exhausted with ourselves. And desperate to feel different and have the desired results, show up in our lives that we change.

For some, it's falling into a seemingly endless pit of emptiness that propels them into seeking the answers that will bring them light.
For others, it can be a severe health issue, an accident, or the loss of someone close.

Whatever way we come to a point where we can no longer tolerate the pain.
Enough is enough, I will do anything. I will give up anything because nothing can be worse than this.

So we seek and find, in the form of Self-understanding and Spirituality.

A connection to source, God, Spirit. A deep bond, with a part of ourselves that we left behind and became disengaged from.
To the reconnection and array of practices, that are available. Meditation, mindfulness, prayer, visualization…the list goes on.
And they are all essential.

After a short period, they provide those who practice with that valuable connection and wholeness sought.

Of course, we must combine these practices with self-understanding, by studying how we work, and how the universe works. To bring back the awareness of who we are.
Spiritual beings have a human experience.

In my personal experience within my practices, following them in a certain way religiously does not always work. It seems that when I don't mix them up, I become flat and a little disconnected again.

My intention is always to move into a place of gratitude and joy.

Heartfelt action and intention, with my motivation coming from wanting to positively impact the collective consciousness.
So, I have to practice what I know and then add and sometimes omit things.

I have days when just walking the dog in the forest and writing down what I am grateful for is enough to make the connection.
Other times, I am in my spiritual element, when I am working or writing(This happens a lot.) And is probably because it's my purpose.

There are also moments when I must meditate for longer and re-affirm who I am.

There is no doubt that you must have a spiritual bag of practices if you wish to feel connected daily. If you wish to be in that place of joy and thankfulness. But also in your power and be creating at the highest level possible.

Environments I know, are particularly important, as are people. As is knowing yourself. Because if you know yourself, you know what is going to disconnect you and reconnect you.

For example, I am what I call a 'Green girl.' I love forests, their blend of textures, and their light and shade. I love their depth. It takes me to my depth when I am in them. I can breathe, and my soul feels peaceful.

You may be someone who loves the ocean, its expansiveness, and blue hues. Its powerful motion.

Or the fresh air and freedom that is offered by the mountains. And the way they stand majestically, solid in their immobility.

Nature has the power to assist in bringing together our human and spiritual selves, that's for sure.
So the question is, "How do you become and stay connected in other ways?"

"How do you balance living in the 3D with being a spiritual being?"

Here are some ideas you might like to try.

Meditation/Prayer - As you quieten the mind, you make space for the re-connection to your spiritual element to take place.
Nature - As you look around you and spend time in nature, you become one with it and are then reminded that we are all connected on the spiritual level.
Mindfulness - Taking time to slow down and be mindful of your words actions, and deeds. And what is going on around you.
Breathing - An action that takes us inward to our centre.
Community - Being with like-minded people and working towards a common goal or cause.
Creativity - Taking time to discover what you enjoy and then developing skills and knowledge in it. And indulging whenever possible.
Movement - Exercising and moving your body, shifts energy that may be stuck and causing resistance to a connection with your source.
Gratitude - Finding appreciation for all that you have and all that is activates your heart and soul.
Contribution - Giving to others without thought for compensation generates that soul energy.
Love - Creating love for self and others. With the knowing we are all one.

Bonus-- Faith - Developing a strong belief system in the collective consciousness. In Spirit/Source/ God…whatever you want to call it.
And trusting it to bring to you, all you need to live, learn, grow and love your life.
Thank you for reading me today, following, and subscribing.
Please let me know how you make your connection to your spiritual self, the more resources we have to share, the higher we rise as a collective.

With much love
Nic xx

29/05/2024

Here's how some members of society get the human need for 'Significance' tragically wrong.
And it's devastating.

Below is a list of the Psychology of Human Needs, which was adapted by Tony Robbins, from Abraham Maslow.
Certainty/safety- To provide and care for oneself

Uncertainty/variety- To be able to give oneself the opportunity for variety and growth.

Significance- To feel important to others and make an impact in a way.

Love and connection- To enjoy heartfelt relationships.

Growth- To expand mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Contribution- To contribute positively, without thought for compensation.

It is said, that if we meet all these needs at a 7 or above. 0 is at the lowest level, 10 of course, being the highest, that we are functioning well.
That is of course if we are positively meeting the needs.

For example, we can meet our needs for certainty/safety by providing for ourselves financially, mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. We can also meet our needs, negatively by staying small and not growing. Because if it is negative, we would still be certain of the outcome and safe in our comfort zone.

We could meet our needs for uncertainty/variety, by funding adventures and hobbies, or we could meet them negatively through using substances, such as drugs and alcohol, Creating great variety and uncertainty.

Love and connection could be met positively through, healthy relationships and emotional intelligence. Or negatively through toxic behaviours and manipulation.

And the needs of growth and contribution, of course, can never be met negatively. They either are, or they aren't.

So what of significance?

Well of course we can be significant to others through working as a team, being helpful, and sharing knowledge and wisdom. And being an asset and making a positive difference. But what of those who choose to become significant in a negative way?
Those that were led to believe in their younger years, that their needs held no importance. That they weren't shown love and valued as human beings.

Many of these types of people, you can find in prison. Having no idea how to love and receive love.

Having no concept of ever feeling important in the lives of those who were supposed to hold them like precious jewels. To nurture not only their health but also their hearts and their souls.

These people have found their significance, by taking things from others, be it money, possessions and often lives.

If someone you didn't know came up to you right now and put a gun to your head, they would become the most significant person in your life. Even though you didn't know them before.

They would become more significant than everyone you loved and cared for.
Because they would be holding your life in their hands.

And this is what can happen when someone is devalued. And made to feel like they are nothing.
They bypass what seems impossible to gain (Love and connection) because they have no concept of these elements and only offer them more pain and rejection. And instead, they choose an easier option.

To force others to see how significant they are. To control and gain a definite outcome. Even if in the long term, they end up being incarcerated and losing, in effect their own lives, through it.

Love is power, but when held at arm's length, we will often use brute force to feel it, falsely.
When someone acts in a way that creates a feeling of significance, we identify it as an action of love.

Even in our darkness, we seek the light of love, because as spiritual beings we have been programmed to know it is our only way of living as the source intended us to.

The only reason we go through hurtful experiences is so we will understand what we need to turn away from and look towards, to live our soul contract.
Pain is our teacher, we can either choose more of it or ignore it, and then it will finally cripple us.
Or we can release all fear of it. And choose love.

All the men and women that live in prisons today, were fearful of love, of what it felt like not to have it or lose it. They chose to become significant instead, through negative actions.

I wonder if they were to sit a while and consider the six humans needs, and how we can meet them, negatively or positively, whether they would be able to choose to have more courage than it takes, to take from, or hurt others and choose love instead?

And whether they will ever get the opportunity?

Consider today, how you meet your six human needs.
In positive ways?
Or negative?

Footnote- It is said that if we focus on the last two human needs of Growth and Contribution, all the other needs will be met at high levels.

28/05/2024

Improve the quality of your life tenfold, by mastering this one behaviour.

Ever give yourself a hard time, for not achieving something?
Ever beat yourself up for failing in your business, your relationship, your health, or finances?

Of course, you have, it's human nature, isn't it?

Hell no, it's not human nature, we just have a propensity for being unkind to ourselves.
It's a strange phenomenon considering, we don't like others doing it to us, And will condemn them for it.

It hurts when someone judges us. When someone makes us wrong. And tells us we should be doing it differently, or better.
Yet, we do it to ourselves.

Remember the time someone called you a name at school? And you cried and it hurt? And you hated them for it.
Well, you carried on doing that
making the hurtful words from someone who wasn't kind, right.

How crazy is that?
You could say it's a form of insanity and we are all guilty of it.
So how do we solve it?
This soul-destroying behaviour, that moves us further and further away from self-love and our dreams?

I honestly believe that the answer may lie in evaluating, without judgement.

Imagine, looking back over the last year and taking stock.
You could even write a list if you like. Noting, what you had wanted to happen and what didn't.
Without judgement.

Just little old you reflecting and observing on the past 12 months.
And then, instead of going down the narcissistic route of berating yourself and making yourself wrong (narcissism is in all of us BTW) you just take notice, without indulging in all the negative thoughts, words, and actions.
You don't name call and don't condemn. You don't chastise. And you certainly don't tell others.
You just observe without absorbing.

In behaving in this way, we allow ourselves the grace of being perfectly imperfect. Or being a work in progress, without condemnation of not being where we believed we ought to be.
Based on whose perception?

There is no one on this earth qualified to judge you for being uniquely you. No one.
So why do we?

Does it improve our game, when we pull ourselves down?

Does it make us function at a higher level?

Does it energize us, and create more enthusiasm?

No, it doesn't.

You may try to be motivated by failure, but that motivation will always be short-lived because it is only when we learn to be kind and loving towards ourselves, that we become consistent in doing for ourselves - Nicola Farnhill.

So, I implore you, to stop doing to yourself, that which only brings you down, and depletes you of your source energy.
Which is essential to creating a life of love, joy, happiness, and abundance.

Observe what happened.
Reflect on how it happened.
And accept it for what it is.
But never judge yourself negatively or absorb the energy of it.

The only place for judgement, in my opinion, is in a courtroom, because unfortunately we still live in a world that is evolving and there is a lot of healing and awakening that still needs to take place. And society needs rules for safety.

Outside of a courtroom, we have the opportunity to step away from the negative implications of judgement. To free ourselves and others of condemnation. And simply work on being the best version of ourselves, from a place of loving kindness and compassion, instead.