Psychotherapie Nadine Rutow

06/08/2025

What do you think?

ADHD, like other traits, is a problem in some contexts and not in others.

21/07/2025

06/07/2025

Tan importante que se hable más de esta transformación!

La nutricionista y experta en fertilidad Andrea Carucci lleva años tratando el climaterio en consulta. Ahora aúna toda esa experiencia en SOS Menopausia a la vista

30/06/2025

„Wir sind ein gutes Team, aber wir sind kein Paar mehr“ – so fasste ein befreundeter Vater unserer Kolumnistin mal seinen Beziehungsstatus zusammen. Denn ein Baby braucht Liebe, Fürsorge und hat seinen ganz eigenen Rhythmus. Gleichzeitig soll der Haushalt weiterlaufen. Da bleiben Gespräche, Zärtlichkeit oder gemeinsame Zeit auf dem Sofa oft auf der Strecke. Denn vieles von dem, was die Beziehung früher ausgemacht hat, wird von der Sorgearbeit verdrängt.

Das kann sehr belastend für die Partnerschaft sein, mit der Folge, dass man sich nach dem Auszug der Kinder nichts Verbindendes mehr hat. Dieses Phänomen ist auch als Empty-Nest-Syndrom bekannt. Gerade deshalb ist es wichtig, sich auch während der intensiven Zeit als Eltern bewusst Räume für die Partnerschaft zu schaffen. Etwas, das als Paar verbindet, unabhängig von den Kindern.

Wie sie und ihr Partner es dennoch schaffen, ihre Paarbeziehung zu pflegen, erzählt sie in dieser Folge der Mommy-Kolumne: https://www.jetzt.de/mommy-kolumne/mommy-kolumne-wie-eltern-ein-paar-bleiben

29/06/2025

🔥❤️‍🩹 La rabia también puede ser un acto de amor ❤️‍🩹🔥

Junio arde rojo: en los hospitales que resisten, en las estaciones donde laten abrazos, en las calles que aún recuerdan. Porque la memoria no se queda quieta, es un cuerpo que camina, que se indigna, que cuida.

Sentir rabia, tristeza o miedo no está mal. Lo mágico es transformar: en lucha sin odio, en grito sin violencia, en abrazo firme que no suelta.

🌹 Que nos arda la bronca, pero que no nos borren el amor.

Ilustración por @00.03a_ 🙌

25/06/2025

Both partners need to work together here. Often people misinterpret this post to mean only the anxious partner needs to be flexible by taking a break. The avoidant partner needs to be accommodating to the anxious partner’s need to know when they will come back to it. I recently read an appropriate time frame is 5 min to 24 hours, but of course this isn’t written in stone.

The ultimate goal is for the anxious partner is to naturally begin to better tolerate lack of immediate resolution and for the avoidant partner to naturally begin to tolerate hanging in with conflict even when it’s uncomfortable. These are both movements toward security.


Positive comments are welcome; genuine questions are welcome (I love answering your questions when I have time 3); negative/demoralizing comments deleted; comments which show a misinterpretation of post and confuse the real issue, or which are intended to initiate a debate with me or other commenters, are deleted. Thank you for understanding ❤️

25/06/2025

In therapy, people often ask: What should I do?
But sometimes the better question is: What do I already know that I’m afraid to admit to myself?

We say we’re confused, but often we’re clear—we just don’t like the answer.
Because clarity brings responsibility. Once we know, we can’t un-know.

That’s why agency isn’t just about action. It’s about honesty. And the truth is, the moment we stop waiting for someone to rescue us or decide for us, something shifts.

Change rarely arrives in a dramatic moment.
It starts when we stop pretending we don’t already know what we need to do.

Friendly reminder from Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

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04/06/2025

“By keeping this secret, your mom tried to protect you but ended up hurting you.”

On podcast, sisters Sandra and Kim discover a family secret that their parents held for sixty years. We help them to process the news and communicate with their mother, who still feels shame and resistance around sharing the truth.

So many people relate to this episode—either as a parent trying to protect a child or as an adult child wanting (and deserving) the truth.

We have so much compassion for both dilemmas, and hope as you listen, you’ll gain empathy for what each person here has been going through given the context in which decisions were made, an era in which medical doctors seemed to “know best.”

Fortunately, our culture is evolving.

Family secrets create many layers of pain but ultimately, releasing them leads to emotional freedom.

Listen to today’s new episode➡️ bit.ly/3v4iOXf

17/04/2025

Immer wieder wichtig zu lesen, dass Depressionen sichtbar gemacht werden:

14/04/2025

Gut, dass das Thema immer mehr Aufmerksamkeit bekommt,schade, dass z.B. die besonderen Aspekte von ADHS bei Frauen nicht erwähnt werden.

ADHS und Autismus sind mehr als Modethemen auf TikTok und Instagram. Die Erkenntnis wächst, dass jedes menschliche Gehirn anders arbeitet. Darin liegt ein großes Potenzial für alle. Von Roland Schenke.

23/03/2025

02/03/2025

A therapist's POV on yesterday's WH "meeting" 👇

This is such a common dynamic in families and couples, and I felt for Zelensky the deep compassion I feel for that person in the therapy room who really wants to make things work, but is surrounded by people who make that impossible.

Therapists can’t help people who don’t realize they’re the problem and have no interest in trying to be human or relational – qualities that matter even in high stakes negotiations. Diplomacy— both personally and professionally – requires people highly skilled at the relational elements.

Yesterday left me feeling as exactly as I do after a couple or family like this comes into my office for a first session—and I know what the outcome will be.