02/11/2025
Resilience
‘Muy de moda’, very hip and happening, this word.
I use it too, quite regularly: in my posts, in my conversations with clients, to myself.
I am a true believer that having the skills to overcome adversity is key to my .
🏄♀️ helps one riding storms and waves.
It creates acceptance most of situations are temporary, just like the seasons.
It has taught me almost nothing is permanent, personal or all pervasive.
It created awareness I have an important role in my suffering or wellbeing and I get to choose which role I prefer to play.
At the same time, I’m a bit tired to hear this word and the associated phrases too. Not everyone has the same ability to overcome hardship. We are all different, aren’t we.
Some of us:
- have not been taught these tools.
- have experienced traumatic events without the help to process these experiences.
- have witnessed traumatising incidents.
- have a rusty resiliency skill set.
For them -this was me too- these words, so easily used, can be hurtful. Especially when one feels really low and don’t know how to get up again.
They might get the feeling that they are a loser because they struggle doing it on their own.
👉 Let me tell you this: ‘I needed help to overcome certain experiences’.
I applaud anyone, including myself, for being vulnerable enough to acknowledge help is needed.
👩🎨 As Alain de Botton said: “A good half of the art of living is resilience”.
To be where and who I am now, to be in control and enjoying life, even the storms, I couldn’t have done it without others.
So, if you are struggling with , , , and don’t know where to start…
…Read those well-meant instagram posts, reach out to friends, trusted family members, and/or seek professional help. With this you’ll increase your resilience threshold and you’ll master the art of living!