The Feminist Therapist

The Feminist Therapist My name is Chloe, I'm an accredited Psychotherapist, Coach & Reiki Master healer. And this what I desire for you. It's your birthright

I have 8+ years of training in psychology, self development and spiritual healing behind me. For a big portion of my life as a woman I was stuck in survival and trauma, going from one therapist to another, one life crisis to another. After going through a Kundalini Awakening I discovered trauma healing which so far have helped me heal cptsd, anxiety disorder & paranoia, body dysmorphia, an eating

disorder, depression, s*x addiction & toxic relationship addiction. This enabled me to manifest a new life for myself filled with love, partnership, unconditional love and most importantly FREEDOM to be ME without all my mental health issues holding me back. No matter how stuck you feel, there is a way out towards happiness and free self expression. Towards the courage of setting your boundaries and cutting off toxic relationships.

Why do we fall for manipulators, abusers and toxic partners ? ☠️💔Because we come from a place of lack and need instead o...
14/03/2025

Why do we fall for manipulators, abusers and toxic partners ? ☠️💔

Because we come from a place of lack and need instead of a place of DESIRE.

That's why once enmeshed with them, the perspective of ending things with them feels like DYING. Our attachment is so strong that letting go of it feels like our life is being threatened.

And there is a psychological explanation to it, let me explain to you :

This is especially true when dealing with abusers and toxic partners

We seek to meet our childhood unmet needs outside of ourselves.

When we don't process our childhood trauma what ends up happening when we become adults, is that part of us still is seeking for the parent we never had in partners.

Someone to validate us, give us attention or else we lacked in childhood.

This is not something that we necessarily do actively but it's a deep subconscious need that remains there to the least

So when we are faced with love bombing and those needs being met on purpose in order to manipulate us consciously or unconsciously, we fall for it and get completely hooked like an addiction.

All of a sudden we feel whole again and not in pain. Yet this is all an illusion.

Our survival brain takes over, shuts down our critical thinking and no matter how wise or intelligent we are, on an emotional level we can't walk away from that feeling of wholeness we sought for our entire childhood as those primary needs who were never met are finally being met, our survival is not threatened anymore. At least that's how we feel.

That child within us who grew up CRAVING for love finally got all her needs met.

That's why often it takes some time to realize we are being love bombed, that we are actually in a toxic relationship and that the feelings we feel are just the result of love bombing not genuine love.

This is why I'm so passionate about helping women process their childhood trauma as this will literally completely change the trajectory of your life and decisions you make.

Why do I know this ? Because I was there, spent 6 years in an abusive relationship and then kept attracting manipulators, avoidant partners and abusers.

Even after years of self development work on myself. And it's when I finally processed my childhood trauma that I was able to actually not fall for love bombing anymore and free myself from craving a partner which ended up with me meeting the love of my life 🤵🏽‍♂️👰🏻‍♀️💞

Always center your life around YOU first 🥇 As women we have been conditioned to feel we are being selfish when we make o...
03/03/2025

Always center your life around YOU first 🥇

As women we have been conditioned to feel we are being selfish when we make our life evolve around us first and at all times.

We are taught our purpose is to serve and nurture everyone around us even if that means sacrificing parts of ourselves when this is absolutely false.

Nurturing our loved ones shouldn't mean sacrificing ourselves, parts of or all of our needs or desires.

Yes having children means often putting things that we enjoy on hold at first but doesn't mean it needs to be completely forgotten quite the contrary it's a just a pause and to be good mothers we NEED to be a whole nurtured and fulfilled human being

Putting things on hold for the sake of being good mothers isn't meant to turn into a forever sacrifice unlike patriarchy wants us to believe.

Women were always meant to be the leaders of society not in a dominating way like men have tried to do all this time but in a natural way.

Being centered, complete, nourished and full is our natural state of being.

Being focused first and foremost on our soul calling is our natural state of being

Pausing, putting certain things aside for our children if needed and then finding our way back to ourselves, our expression and passions is the natural way.

Motherhood and partnership are only a fraction of our experience as women. We are meant for so much more than being a spouse and/or mother. Those are absolutely not our purpose.

Some of us just like with motherhood don't even desire partnership not because we are selfish but because those are not experiences we desire to have.

Those are only experiences that we choose to have not our identity. Motherhood or partnership aren't meant to define us.

As beautiful as those experiences are you are still so much more than that.

And you are meant to be the main character of your life.

That's not being selfish it means honoring the divine within you.

No love equates the love you have for yourself.






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Sometimes it feels like we have amnesia !

27/01/2025

this is my controversial belief

27/01/2025

We are the ones that trap ourselves and choose them.

Emotional Sovereignty: Your Superpower 💪🏼✨In a world where we are everyday exposed to being manipulated and drained, emo...
15/12/2024

Emotional Sovereignty: Your Superpower 💪🏼✨

In a world where we are everyday exposed to being manipulated and drained, emotional sovereignty is the quiet strength we all need. It’s the ability to take full ownership of your emotions, processing them and not letting anyone, anything drain your life force ⚕️

What does it mean?

🌿 Self-Awareness: Welcoming your emotions and their message

🌊 Emotional Freedom: Releasing emotional charge, trauma, conditioning, triggers.

🔑 Inner Power: Choosing how to mindfully respond as much as possible.

Why is it important?
When you’re emotionally sovereign, you stop giving your power away. You’re no longer at the mercy of people's opinion, bad intentions, evil eye, a critical comment, or external validation. You become the creator of your peace, your joy, and your life.

How to cultivate it?
1️⃣ Practice mindfulness —observe, don’t absorb
2️⃣ Set boundaries—protect your energy as a priority
3️⃣ Process triggers and trauma — learn this in my online course ABUNDANTIA if you don't know how to do it yet.

✨ Remember: Your emotions are valid and beautiful, it's just about knowing how to let them pass through you and process them. You are the calm in the chaos, the steady anchor in the storm.

Become an alchemist. Protect your energy and alchemise what is not aligned. That's emotional sovereignty.



Did you grow up with people criticizing you and/or abusing/neglecting you ?I did too. And for a long time I took people'...
08/12/2024

Did you grow up with people criticizing you and/or abusing/neglecting you ?

I did too.

And for a long time I took people's projections as true especially as a child because of course we absorb everything in our immediate environment especially our main caregivers, siblings and parents.

So I shrank in front people's jaleousy, bullying, disrespect and abuse.

I tried to make people like me. But no matter how much I shrunk myself, I still existed in the world, and couldn't change that.

The truth was I wasn't bad, too this or too that, people where just insecure and sick.

People who can only make you feel bad about yourself when in their presence or from afar are always people who are highly insecure and sick to the point they can't stand in your presence and sometimes can't even stand your existence.
And that's why they try to tear you down, because they don't feel they can get on your level.

It's a way to cope with their perception of themselves, pain and their reality.

And the best thing you can do with people like that is to let them go/break up with them. As it serves no one to tolerate toxic behaviors.

Your happiness is more important than people who envy you even if that means sacrificing help, companionship, what they represent, the status they give you or the role they play in your life.

It's always better to be alone than surrounded by people who envy and despise you trust me, I tried. At one point, the pain of suppressing yourself becomes too big and as much as you'd like people to be different, you have to accept them for who they are.

Remember that you owe nothing to anyone. True love is not a transaction it's selfless. You don't give to receive in return. And it's not your fault if people can't love you properly or in your ENTIRETY.

Being SEEN and ADORED for who you truly are is your birthright.

And even if at the start of your life the ones who were supposed to set that example of love for you didn't, it doesn't take away the fact that that's how you are supposed to be loved : UNCONDITIONALLY

You are NOT too much, too this or too that. You are you, PERFECT just the way you are. The right people will love and appreciate you for that.

A woman that is given the space to be her authentic self, reveals herself. I want to tell you a story Goddess,I was in a...
02/12/2024

A woman that is given the space to be her authentic self, reveals herself.

I want to tell you a story Goddess,

I was in a relationship once where the guy was extremely reliable on a day to day basis, who had some level of power too. I felt "safe". He had his "s**t together", money, career, car.

But when it came to the emotional and s*xual intimacy, he didn't have the time or the emotional capacity. He was just cold and mechanical.

So I was s*xually and emotionally unsatisfied. We had s*x but it wasn't satisfying to me, and emotionally the connexion was weak.

He wasn't tuned in with me, and was always in his bubble and self centered, working.

I tried to explain to him logically what I needed s*xually and emotionally, slower, connexion etc... but in vain.

How to teach something that is supposed to be intuitive and common sense right ?

This created issues between us, to the point I told him that I wasn't happy and that I will seek my needs elsewhere.

Which he agreed to partially but had too much control issues (played mind games, secretive, cheating, used a love spell on me).

So I decided to end the relationship and walk away. It wasn't easy, it was definitely a heartbreak.

When I met my husband, I realized in my previous relationships why I never really committed : I didn't have the space to be myself. I wasn't fully loved. The emotional and physical intimacy was so weak.

And the guys would be angry with me and start acting like my enemies, when they were the ones who were too self centered and insecure to actually get to know me.

It was easy to commit, be vulnerable, authentic emotionally and s*xually with my husband because he wants me to be myself, he can handle it. He's not insecure.

He doesn't have as much power or money. But he's emotionally and s*xually reliable.

And that's exactly why it was so easy to commit to him : Intimacy is at the core of our relationship thus we grow together. And that's what a relationship should be not a substitute for a dad unlike many of us hetero and bi women unconsciously seek for. Who feels threatened by our presence, always playing mind games and making us feel undesired.

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