10/01/2026
Baby loss changes you.
This is something that has come up in the room a lot lately, both recent and historic losses.
Whether it’s infant loss, miscarriage, stillbirth, failed IVF, or years of trying that never lead to a baby in your arms.
Baby loss affects women and men.
It affects bodies, relationships, confidence, identity, and how safe or fair the world feels around you.
For me, this isn’t just professional.
My wife and I spent ten years in the world of IVF. Ten years of hope, injections, scans, phone calls, waiting, and results that broke our hearts time and time again. Ten years of building ourselves up, only to have the future we imagined taken away again and again.
We are incredibly grateful to now have our miracle, but that didn’t come without a lot of heartache. And the truth is, threads of that experience still exist.
That kind of loss doesn’t just disappear.
It buries itself into you. It changes how you see yourself and the world around you.
For many people, the grief isn’t only for a baby, but for the life you had already started to picture, or even began to live.
Names chosen. Milestones imagined. A family life planned in your head.
When that ends, it can genuinely feel like your world has ended too.
That isn’t dramatic. It’s honest.
What often makes it harder is when people try to normalise it:
“At least it was early.”
“You’re still young, you can try again.”
“Everything happens for a reason.”
“It’s just not your time.”
These words are usually meant kindly, but they can land like a dismissal. As if your pain needs to be softened so others feel more comfortable.
Loss needs space, not fixing.
It needs time, not timelines.
And it needs to be processed, not pushed down.
Grief after baby loss doesn’t always look like tears.
Sometimes it looks like numbness, anger, guilt, withdrawal, or a body that no longer feels like your own.
If this is part of your story, there is nothing wrong with how you’re feeling.
You are not weak. You are not broken. You are human.
And you don’t have to carry it on your own.
At Brave Journeys I work with women and men, in person and online, offering a safe space to talk about what’s often left unsaid.
You don’t need to justify your grief here.
If this resonates and you’re struggling, you’re welcome to reach out, or to share this with someone who may need reminded that their grief is real and justified.
Your loss matters to me, and I am here to listen if you need me.
Graham 💛
