Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling

10/10/2025

Autism isn’t something to “fix” – it’s a different way of experiencing and moving through the world.

At Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling, I see so many autistic clients who have incredible strengths: creativity, honesty, deep focus, loyalty, and unique perspectives. But I also know the challenges: social exhaustion, sensory overwhelm, anxiety about being misunderstood, society's judgments, and much more.

If this resonates with you (or someone you love), please know:
✨ You’re not broken.
✨ You don’t have to mask to be valued.
✨ ABC can build your confidence.
✨ ABC can help you to love and accept yourself

October is a perfect time to slow down, check in with yourself, and give your nervous system the care it needs. 🌿

07/10/2025

“We can’t have love without grief — they come as a package deal. My new blog explores why that truth matters, and how we can honour both. 🌿

The article refers to the well-known five stages of grief denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Acceptance is about acknowledging the reality of the loss and most importantly not just a plain and simple acceptance of the loss.

07/10/2025

Change can feel uncertain, but it’s also where possibility lives. Here’s to new beginnings and continued growth — together. 💫

Have a look at my website: 🦢www.aberdeenbespokecounselling.co.uk
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Catherine@aberdeenbespokecounselling.co.uk 🦢
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03/10/2025

Looking for something insightful to listen to this month?
One of my go-to recommendations for clients exploring neurodiversity is the “Neurodivergent Moments” podcast with comedian Seán Imeson and psychologist Kathryn Huculak.

They share honest, funny, and thought-provoking conversations about living with ADHD and autism – from everyday struggles to celebrating strengths.

It’s a great reminder that neurodiversity is not only about challenges but also about creativity, resilience, and fresh ways of looking at the world.

👉 Have you listened to it yet? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

01/10/2025

Hello October!
The change in seasons can feel like a reset button – the air is fresher, routines shift, and we might find ourselves needing a little extra care.

Here are some gentle October ideas to support your wellbeing:
🍁 Try a mindful autumn walk – notice the colours, textures, and sounds around you.
☕ Swap one busy hour for a cosy hour with a book, blanket, or warm drink.
📔 Start a "gratitude in autumn" journal – write down 3 small things each day that make you smile.
🌙 Give yourself earlier nights – your body may be asking for more rest.

What’s one small thing you’d like to focus on this October? 🍂

30/09/2025

Some days it can be easy to get out of bed and think positively about ourselves but other days it can be darn right impossible. That's why affirmations can be a really simple but helpful way to work on keeping each day positive. Here is an example of an affirmation you might say to yourself today:
I am braver than I believe
I am stronger than I seem
I am smarter than I think

If you do however struggle with being positive about yourself, you are not alone in this and you can reach out for the help you deserve:
www.aberdeenbespokecounselling.co.uk/contact

28/09/2025

🥳✨ 5 Year Anniversary of Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling ✨🥳

Today marks 5 years since Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling began—and I just want to take a moment to say… thank you.

To my clients—past and present—you are the heart of why I do this work. Thank you for trusting me with your stories, your challenges, and your hopes. It has been a privilege to walk alongside you as you navigate your journeys.

To those who follow and support me on social media—your encouragement, shares, and kind words mean so much. You’ve helped create a little online community of care and understanding that I’m so proud of.

The last five years have brought their share of challenges (including navigating the ever-changing world of IT and technology—some days easier than others! 😅). But every obstacle has been a chance to grow and adapt.

One of the greatest joys of this journey has been the continued learning—new and ongoing training in the areas I’m most passionate about: supporting people through trauma, neurodiversity, narcissistic abuse, childhood emotional neglect and emotional wellbeing.

And through it all, one thing remains the same:
🥰 I still absolutely love helping people.
🥰 I hope to continue making a difference—one conversation at a time.

Here’s to the next chapter, to continued growth, and to holding space for those who need it. 💜

With gratitude,
Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling

26/09/2025

Self‑Awareness & Calm plan for the next 7 days!

1 day: “Check in with your body for 60 seconds—what sensation stands out today? A tense jaw will tell you more than your thoughts.”
2nd day: “Set an intention, not a goal. Example: ‘Today, I’ll listen to what my body needs’ rather than ‘I’ll finish everything.’”
3rd day: “Pause before responding today. Even a deep breath can give your nervous system a moment to choose safety—not stress.”
4th day: “Write down one feeling you notice each time you check your phone. Are you bored? Lonely? Tired?”
5th day: “Give yourself permission to say no—today’s ‘no’ is tomorrow’s respect for your boundaries.”
6th day: “Spend five minutes noticing your breath. Describe it as warm, cool, short, long… gentle curiosity can soothe a racing mind.”
7th: “Name one act of self‑compassion you offered yourself this week. Better yet, do it again today.”

23/09/2025

Sometimes in life we can feel stuck and unsure where we are going, what are goals are and even be questioning what we want for ourselves. Sitting down with a Counsellor/Psychotherapist and talking through each of the different areas of your life and deciding where you feel you are at and where you would like to go can be incredibly helpful.
The goal of this tool is to assess perceived satisfaction/dissatisfaction in the different
domains of life. This tool can help to gage a client’s sense of life fulfilment.
This exercise can be used to plan so that life becomes closer to the desired life: increasing the balance between the different life domains. And what “balance” looks like
is different for everyone!
If you want to start to take control of where you are going in life- please do visit my website - www.aberdeenbespokecounselling.co.uk

19/09/2025

🌿 Post 2 – Rebuilding After Emotional Burnout
✨ Feeling Exhausted From Always Being “The Strong One”?

You hold it all together for everyone else. You smile. You say “I’m fine.” But deep down? You’re running on empty.

💡 Here’s the truth:
You weren’t meant to carry it all alone.
You deserve care too.
It’s not selfish to put your needs first—it’s survival.

🌱 At Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling, I help people like you:
✔️ Release the weight of constant giving.
✔️ Set boundaries without guilt.
✔️ Start prioritising your own healing and energy.

🤍 You can rebuild your strength in a way that doesn’t cost you your peace.

16/09/2025

🌿 Post 1 – Narcissists & How Counselling Can Help
✨ Are You in a Relationship With a Narcissist?

Maybe you’re unsure.
Maybe you know, but feel stuck.
Maybe you’re still trying to protect your peace while deciding what’s next.

💡 At Aberdeen Bespoke Counselling, I can help you:
✔️ Recognise unhealthy patterns and gaslighting.
✔️ Strengthen your boundaries—even if you’re still in the relationship.
✔️ Create a safe, realistic plan if you choose to leave.
✔️ Heal from the emotional exhaustion and self-doubt narcissistic dynamics create.

🤍 Whether you’re unsure, staying, or planning to leave—you don’t have to figure it out alone. You deserve support that feels calm, confidential, and empowering.

12/09/2025

***TESTIMONIAL ON ABERDEEN BESPOKE COUNSELLING****

“It is has helped me to be less mentally chaotic and overwhelmed about the different aspects of my life. I’ve felt safer during the weeks knowing I can talk with you.”