07/04/2026
Useful words shared here. For those considering direct cremation, we can do this here locally in Aberdeen with as much flexibility as you need.
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A few things to consider about direct cremations…
💫 Cost – it’s often chosen as the ‘cheaper option’ but it isn’t always. Compare, do your research and if using a specific company, understand how they operate, what they offer and what they don’t.
💫 You don’t have to use a big company – your local funeral director can often offer a simple, personal direct cremation too.
💫 if a big company, ask questions - Where will your person be cared for? Who is looking after them, where are they being kept, and how are they being treated?
💫 Will you know when it happens? Some companies don’t tell you the date or time of the cremation, is that something you’re comfortable with?
💫 No fuss doesn’t mean no logistics - There is still organisation and decision-making involved, it’s just different.
💫 You can still have a ceremony - A direct cremation doesn’t mean you can’t gather, honour, and remember, you can hold something before or afterwards, somewhere else.
💫 The impact of no ritual - Ceremony and ritual are deeply human and important in processing death, removing that can feel harder for some and more detrimental or challenging than the grief itself.
💫 The power of community - While we all grieve differently, having a moment for people to come together, pay their respects, and support one another can be incredibly powerful.
💫 Grief doesn’t disappear - Choosing no funeral doesn’t remove grief. It still needs space, time and expression.
💫 Is it about avoiding the experience? Sometimes ‘simple’ is actually about avoiding something difficult (trust me, it won’t work)
💫 If this is your wish, have the conversation - Your wishes matter but your people will be the ones left behind. They may still need a moment, a gathering, or a way to say goodbye.
💫 Express the difference clearly - Wanting a direct cremation is one thing but it’s different from saying ‘no funeral at all’. Be clear about what you do and don’t want. But also understand what they might need.
💫 Talk to the people who will carry it out - Whatever you decide, make sure those who will be organising things after you’re gone understand your wishes.
There’s no right or wrong, we just need to talk ❤️
