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Solution focused hypnotherapy allows you to increase your well being in a short space of time. If yo

31/10/2025

If it is happiness we seek, real unfiltered contentment, then we need to connect.

😘Say the nice thing.
🙋Ask the second question
🧁Share the muffin

These human bridges may not seem like much, but they support us more than we know. Thes best bit is that they are available daily, free of charge, unlimited in supply. You just have to do it.

With kindness,
Angharad

29/10/2025

When talking about positive interaction and happiness it is important to clarify that we do not have to be relentlessly cheerful. No one likes that. It is about being human wth other humans.

Sometimes it might be "yeah, me too" or "wow that's tough". It is presence without the need to fix things. People want to be heard. It is the mental equiavlent of being handed a good cup of tea when you need it.

With kindness,
Angharad
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27/10/2025

Positive interaction is essential to our well being. In previous decades this would have been face to face, now the internet makes it easier to connect with 1000s more people yet somehow we can feel more disconnected.

We will always need in person connections, but digital connections has changed our interactions so we need to survey landscape and make it work for us. We can choose encouragement rather than criticism and create a community online.

A thumbs up or a like is nice, but a simple comment creates more connections. "thanks for your post, it helped me" is not a grand statement but it is a bit like opening a door rather than waving through a window. In a world of algorithms and platforms this style of intentional kindness is like throwing a pebble in a pond and the circles spread. Slowly, but they spread.

With kindness,
Angharad

24/10/2025

Biases in thinking are shortcuts. They get us to a destination quickly. But when we accept them without awareness we lose control of where we end up.

We want to be more aware of our assumptions and develop the ability to direct our bias when it is helpful. For example if we decide to focus on evidence that supports growth, kindness, creativity then our bias becomes a tool for good. We tilt our subconscious bias towards that which builds rather than retreats down.

Recognising our biases, treating them kindly allows us to keep the door open for revision and we may end up turning weakness into strength. It is like learning to sail with the wind rather than battling against it.

With kindness,
Angharad

22/10/2025

If we are negatively biased about ourselves we will consistently pick out evidence that fits this story and ignore the rest.

It is a bit like going to a buffet and only ever choosing dessert. So let's go deliberately hunting for evidence which challenges the negative viewpoint. That way we can feed the cognitive bias, but we consciously choose the menu.

With kindness,
Angharad

20/10/2025

Cognitive bias is a way of making life more efficient -the brain sees patterns, draws quick lines and fills in gaps according to our past belief and experience. It is generally a pretty helpful thing.

Trouble comes when it persists in the same routes despite new information, especially when these routes are lit by negative streetlamps. When we are feeling negative it helps to send the brain a new street map posting our autopilot towards kinder interpretations.

"I always mess this up" can be rerouted to "often I can get this wrong, but sometimes I can surprise myself"

It allows for new possibilities,
With kindness,
Angharad

18/10/2025

Fear is emotional, reactive, negative - it isn't nice, but it feels safe. It is no place from which to live life, so we want skills to manage it.

Breath out long and slow (it tells the brain danger has passed) and try to name what you are feeling, "I was having some anxious thoughts" or "I was catastrophising that situation". This labelling of the emotional whirlwind helps create distance. It is a bit like saying to a toddler in a tantrum "I can see that you are really upset right now" and suddenly everything calms down by 37%

With kindness,
Angharad

15/10/2025

Amygdala hijack is a phrase we often hear. There are many different techniques for calming it down, but always remember kindness.

Thoughts and feelings are not facts and the amygdala is a drama queen - not a reliable narrator. Before spiralling ask yourself, Is this really happening or is my brain being hysterical again? What other possible interpretations are there?

It is a part of your brain just doing it's thing. Finding a problem and keeping us alert to the problem - it means well, it just hasn't had an update in millennia.

With kindness,
Angharad

13/10/2025

We are such a capable species and yet often spend so much mental energy convincing ourselves that everything is so much worse than it actually is.

Our amygdala, deep in the subconscious, handles danger and fear. Just as the appendix is no longer required for digestion the amygdala is mainly superfluous for safety. It is a bit like the friend who thinks every creak in the house is an axe wielding murderer.

But it is still there and unlike the appendix it is still active. Being aware of this negative glitch means we can talk it down when needs be. "Thanks for your concern" you might be able to say to your brain, "but I am quite sure that email from the boss does not mean I am being fired today".

There are always other options.
With kindness,
Angharad

11/10/2025

Talking about how we control the filter of information into our brains makes me aware that I do need to say we cannot just say to our brain "Happy thoughts please" and expect it to comply. We do need some focus and repetition.

Life may be full of difficulties and we will not suddenly become inappropriately relentlessly cheerful. We sill still have to deal with whatever comes our way, but our filter can help us travel that road a lot more comfortably as we also notice the good things too.

Another analogy is to think of our filter (RAS) as our own mental search engine. We want to get into the default settings and set them to "custom joy-spotting mode".

With kindness,
Angharad

08/10/2025

This week it is all about our brain's filter (recticualr activating system or RAS). It is a brain function that quietly affects everything and gets credit for nothing.

It is our internal bouncer, deciding what information is allowed into the conscious club and what is excluded. If we want a better conscious lived experience we want to spend some time actively creating a better guest list.

Our filter only follows orders, it does not create them. If we say "I am always unhappy and overwhelmed" it will flood you with examples to back up this sentiment. If we say I am coping with some really difficult situations and handling the challenges with surprising grace" we will get examples to back up that train of thought.

Sometimes it really is all about changing the filter.
With kindness
Angharad

06/10/2025

Our brains have a fabulous device for filtering information (the reticular activating system, RAS). We are bombarded with millions of bits of information every minute, but can hold onto I think about 40. We need this filter - It lets in what we think is important and chucks out the rest. It is both fantastically useful and unhelpful.

If we are feeling that we are being judged then the filter will allow through information which could confirm this fear, and block out all the things which contradict it. So the eye roll (about something else entirely) is seen as a damming indictment on our character while the leaning in with rapt attention to every word is ignored.

We can consciously send our brain memos to get that filter working in a more helpful direction. I want to notice good things, people are kind, I am learning, I work hard, I try my best, I am capable and etc. It is interesting to see what pops up.

With kindness,
Angharad

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