The Calm Place

02/10/2025

Absolutely love using this space to offer in-person therapy to my clients.

A Room for Every Healing JourneyThe rooms here are not simply walls and chairs; they are spaces with purpose.-Room to work.-Room to connect.-Room to bring comfort.-Room to share guidance.-Room to provide privacy.-Room to have your own space.This is the philosophy at the heart of Your Healing Rooms ....

27/09/2025

Ohhhh I’m soooo ready for this!!!!!

I have a HUGE announcement!!!!! 🥳

I'm so excited to share the cover of my latest book entitled 'Why Does Everybody Hate Me?'

Its all about Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), something I truly believe to be the hardest part of ADHD.

Why did I write this book?

RSD hurts like hell.

If you don’t tell someone with ADHD that you explicitly like them, they will assume that you tolerate them.

If you don’t explicitly invite an ADHD person to a social event, they will assume you don’t actually want them there, if you say, ‘come if you want’, they will think that their presence at that social event is a nuisance to you, and they probably think that you hate them as well.

If you ask an ADHD person for a quick chat, they will assume you want a quick chat so you can fire them or break up with them.

People with ADHD experience something called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, it causes intense pain and is triggered by real or perceived rejection, and it happens because ADHD people were criticised 20,000 more times than your average child.

“Why are you being weird, it’s not that loud in here”
“You’re embarrassing yourself”
“Why are you being lazy?”
“Stop biting your nails!”
“Why are you crying?!
“You’ve let me down!”
“You’re really rude”
“Stop being weird!”
“Stop fidgeting”
“Calm down”
“Be normal!”
“Stop it!”

And it means that as as adult, they read positive comments as neutral, in fact they don’t believe positivity, it bounces off them, they read neutral comments like ‘come to the party if you like’, as negative and when they experience actual negative comments, well, let’s just say you don’t want to be around for that. Instant rage, sadness and crippling shame. It’s brutal.

This book will explain why it happens, why you feel so much shame and what you can do to manage it.

But ultimately it will remind you that you're not crazy, you're not 'too sensitive' and you're not broken. You're different, and you have always been enough.

You can pre-order it now 👉 https://linktr.ee/adhdchatter?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=ad967be7-683b-42a2-843a-69983ec7f0d2

23/09/2025

This. For anyone who needs clarification.

08/08/2025

When in the middle of a CFS flare, pacing + craft keeps me sane whilst I rest. And let’s be clear, rest is not fun. Resting means I can’t do anything, even the most simplest of tasks. Scrapbooking is so great because I can easily pick it up for 10mins, put it down and shut my eyes, pick it up again, etc. It’s visual journaling when my foggy brain can’t find words. And it’s soooo grounding. And pretty!

07/08/2025

A useful resource which I will be recommending to clients and using myself!

Huge announcement!

I’ve been quietly working on something massive behind the scenes.

‘Making ADHD Make Sense’ is a guided journal, for use daily, regularly, (or when you remember!)

It uses prompts and exercises to help you feel your way towards a place of understanding and self-acceptance. It gives practical takeaways as well as psychological insights, based not only on my lived experience, but also on the expertise of the very many clinicians and experts I have interviewed.

Designed to encourage ongoing writing and reflection on your strengths as well as your struggles, this beautifully designed journal will sit alongside you at every step of the journey to remind you that you are not broken, simply different and you were always enough.

I truly believe this will change your life!

Pre-order now 👉 https://linktr.ee/adhdchatter?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=b074619c-a542-4f9c-94a6-0751f2c3ce6d

17/07/2025

Absolutely thrilled to be able to offer in-person sessions in the beautiful space offered by Your Healing Rooms in Abergavenny. And not only that, I am now pleased to be able to offer a service called Single Session Counselling which could be a good option in certain circumstances, including where time or cost is an issue. I’ll be posting more info here and on my website soon but in the meantime, get in touch if you’d like to find out more.

14/07/2025

As you probably know by now, I use ‘creative methods’ to relax my mind and I absolutely, completely, shamelessly LOVE the juxtaposition of sweary cross-stitch 😎

09/07/2025

Ever tried something like this? It could be just what you need!

I am very excited to announce I will be hosting a number of small group therapeutic baking workshops over the summer holidays in Newport 👩‍🍳

I would love to see some of you in these sessions! Do get in touch if you have any queries😊

28/06/2025

For those who want to know what AuAdhd can feel like- welcome to our world 😎

27/06/2025

When you know it’s time - it’s time. Mandatory self care day today. Breakfast in bed, walk on the Blorenge (took advantage of randomly high energy levels as so often CFS says ‘no’🤣), good healthy lunch and a bit of Killing Eve. Later, will visit a craft shop to get some sewing supplies so I can spend some time mindfully engaging my creative brain to help me process the week. And being a pluralistic therapist I know that what I need today may be very different to what I need on other occasions - the important thing is to listen to myself and meet my needs in the right way for me at the time.

How are you looking after yourself today? What do you need in this moment? You are worthy of having those needs met, even in the times when you don’t feel it.

Take care, wonderful humans and have a great day x

16/06/2025

Yes yes yes 🙌