20/01/2026
Before having babies, I wanted to try and breastfeed for at least the first few weeks. later, I joked that "when my kid has enough teeth to chew a steak breastfeeding would be over"...
Then with my first child, 6 weeks turned into 6 months. We were proud of ourselves for getting past those tough first weeks and finding comfortable latches and the most beautiful bond...
A year past and the questions came: "when are you going to stop feeding that baby; he's big enough to eat now, he doesn't need it".
Some people comment because they care about the potential impact of how a prolonged day and night feeding commitment affects you and it comes from a good place...
Other people make you the butt of their jokes without a care for how it took pain and balls to go against the cultural norms of your "little village" and have the guts to put your baby's needs first.
So being the "feminist, stand for what you believe in" gal I am, my heart raised one finger to those struggling with their own embarrassment and remembered it was theirs, not mine.
I remembered the same people that ignorantly comment, are often those happy to be titillated (pun intended) by the cultural "norm" of page 3 or today's equivalent while sat next to his wife, children and mother-in-law at the breakfast table while pouring the bovine secretion from another species over his cereal cos he's been sold that's "normal" so of course has bought into it.
I learned, against my wounded heart to not feel the pang of hurt from the odd comment and kept listening to the needs of my baby who simply wasn't quite ready to end our breastfeeding journey - a baby that benefitted from my immunity through my breastmilk during Covid and beyond - and I was happy to continue feeding too, which is also super important as this isn't about self-sacrifice, it's about two people doing what's right for them both.
I have now fed my two children consecutively for 6.5 years with a 6 month gap during pregnancy. My body is now ready to end. My 3 year old daughter is not but I have to listen to my body while respecting the enormity of connection and comfort she finds in connecting into the mothership
- think Avatar plugging into the tree of life -
that will be replaced with just cuddles and love. I do this gently as it may feel like my daughter's first experience of loss.
I will respectfully wean her down, ensuring she knows mama still loves her and she will always have my cuddles, comfort and connection and we will celebrate the precious boobing journey we had.
Would I change my journey if I could? No. Breast or bottle: whatever feels right for you and your baby is absolutely the right thing to do and for all the well-meaning comments, feel free to cherry pick or give them back like an unwanted gift because you are your own best expert and no one has parented your child before.
All the loves xx