23/08/2025
Article written by Soledad Jewell
💔 With You, Without You: The Struggle of Letting Go
Have you ever been in a relationship where you feel you can live with your partner, yet at the same time you cannot live with them? A relationship where your heart whispers “with you or without you”—and you feel torn in two?
When Love Hurts More Than It Heals
Many people experience this painful cycle. You know deep inside that the person is not right for you, yet it feels almost impossible to let go. You stay, even while suffering emotionally—and for some, physically. You ask yourself again and again: “Why are we still together if the love is not the same?”
Walking away feels terrifying. The fear of being alone, or of stepping into the unknown, keeps you stuck. You hope things will get better, that the person will change. But deep down, you feel like you are standing before a huge wall you cannot climb. You can see the peace you deserve on the other side, but fear convinces you that leaving might be a mistake.
What Love Is Not
It is important to remember: true love is built on respect, kindness, honesty, and trust.
Love is not:
• Control or power
• Lying or cheating
• Disrespect or emotional games
When your partner treats you kindly one day and hurts you the next, it creates deep confusion. You begin to wonder if this is all you deserve. But the truth is—you deserve far more than inconsistency and pain.
Insecurity Is Not Always Jealousy
I often remind couples: there is no such thing as a “jealous man” or a “jealous woman” by nature. Insecurity often comes from a partner’s behavior. If you are in a relationship, love and respect must go both ways.
And here’s a question worth asking: if you truly love and care for your partner, why would you look at others in a way that causes pain? Some men and women may say, “I don’t mind,” but the deeper issue is this: why create a wound in the first place?
If you need something outside of the relationship, reflect on it privately—but never make your partner feel less than they deserve.
The Foundation of Real Love
At its core, a healthy relationship lifts you up, not tears you down. It is not about control or power—it is about partnership. Respect, honesty, and kindness are not optional; they are the foundation.
If you are in a relationship that confuses you, drains you, or makes you doubt your worth, remember this truth:
✨ Love should feel safe, consistent, and freeing—not like a battle you can never win.
