Accrington Counselling & Wellbeing Service

28/01/2026

As a holistic, trauma-focused psychotherapist, I help you heal old wounds through emotional regulation, nurturing mind, body, spirit, and heart.”

22/01/2026

Life was never meant to move in straight lines.
Like a river, it follows its own intelligence.

The twists are not mistakes.
The bends are not delays.
The collisions with rock are not punishments.

Each obstacle shapes depth, strength, and direction.
What feels like resistance is often refinement.
What feels like loss is often redirection.

You are not behind.
You are not broken.
You are not lost.

You are learning how to flow without forcing.
And as long as you keep moving with trust,
life will carry you somewhere wiser, deeper,
and more beautiful than the path you first imagined.🌿

20/01/2026

❤️❤️

True strength is not the absence of feeling.
It is the ability to not be ruled by every feeling.

Emotions rise and fall like weather.. real, but temporary.
If followed blindly, they can pull you away from what is healthy.
That is why the mind must be trained to observe, not obey.

Empathy is a gift, but without boundaries it becomes self-betrayal.
Compassion does not mean carrying what is not yours to carry.

Discipline is quiet wisdom.
It is choosing what nourishes you
even when the heart is loud and restless.

This is not hardness.
It is balance.
And balance is where peace lives.🌿

19/01/2026

Healing is not difficult because you are weak.
It is difficult because many parts of you are asking to be heard at once.

The inner child seeks safety and reassurance.
The inner teenager seeks fairness and to be understood.
The adult seeks rest, balance, and peace.

Each voice carries a truth shaped by survival.
None are wrong. None need to be silenced.

Healing happens when you stop fighting these parts
and start listening to them with patience.

You are not broken for feeling conflicted.
You are human.

Move slowly.
Offer yourself the gentleness you once needed.
Healing grows in compassion, not pressure.

18/01/2026

18/01/2026

DBT Skills. TIPP Skill

17/01/2026

Most people don’t realize that life doesn’t repeat because of fate — it repeats because of loops.

This image shows two very different cycles we can fall into, often without noticing.

At the center of both is INTENTION.
Not the intention we say we have — but the intention we act from when things get uncomfortable.

🔁 The Victim Loop

This is the loop of unconscious living.

Something happens. A situation triggers discomfort.

Instead of facing it, we:

Ignore what hurts

Deny our role

Blame circumstances or people

Rationalize our behavior

Resist change

Hide from truth

And then… the same situation shows up again.
Different face. Same lesson.

The Victim Loop feels safe because it protects the ego.
But safety comes at a cost: stagnation.

Nothing grows here. Nothing heals here.
Only stories do.

🔁 The Accountability Loop

This is the loop of conscious growth.

The same situation arises — but this time, we choose differently.

We:

Recognize what’s really happening

Own our response, not the story

Forgive ourselves and others

Self-examine without self-attack

Learn the lesson

Take action, even when it’s uncomfortable

This loop doesn’t feel easy.
But it feels free.

Because every pass through it makes you wiser, lighter, and stronger.

⚖️ The Truth Few Talk About

Both loops begin with the same situation.
The difference is choice.

You don’t escape the Victim Loop by blaming less people.
You escape it by telling yourself the truth.

And you don’t enter the Accountability Loop by being perfect.
You enter it by being honest.

🌱 A Gentle Reminder

Accountability is not punishment.
It’s self-respect.

Forgiveness is not weakness.
It’s clarity.

Growth doesn’t happen when life gets easier —
It happens when you get braver.

Ask yourself today:
Which loop am I feeding — and which one is feeding me?

Because the moment you change your loop,
your entire life trajectory shifts.

17/01/2026

This isn’t about hatred.
It’s about clarity.

Some people don’t harm you because you lacked love.
They harm you because that’s who they are at that stage of their awareness.

🌿 Wisdom is knowing the difference between compassion and self-destruction.
Compassion says: I understand your pain.
Wisdom says: I will not let your pain become mine.

💡 Be kind — but not naïve.
Kindness does not mean tolerating disrespect.
Empathy does not mean ignoring patterns.
Love does not require you to abandon self-respect.

🧠 Forgive — but don’t forget the lesson.
Forgiveness frees your heart.
Memory protects your future.

❤️ Love — but don’t bleed to prove it.
Anyone who demands your silence, dignity, or peace as proof of love
is asking you to betray yourself.

🌱 Growth is realizing that walking away is sometimes the most loving act —
not for them,
but for you.

✨ Be gentle.
Be wise.
Protect your peace.

01/01/2026