Fine Haven Counselling

11/06/2025

13/05/2025

This made me cry. So true. 😢❤️

13/05/2025

Just little old me delivering a training session on Active Listening last week. 👂

05/05/2025

Just one week to go until Mental Health Awareness Week and this year we’re highlighting that mental health is connected to everything. That means any way you choose to spread the word this Mental Health Awareness Week will make a difference. Mental health is part of everyone, that’s why we’re so determined that no mind gets left behind.

29/04/2025

There were times my kids would walk in the door after school in a horrible mood... they had a crummy day, they bombed a test, they had a fight with their friend, or sometimes, for no reason at all, life just got the best of them.

At first, I made it my mission in life to "pull them out of it." After all, I was the "fixer" in the family. I'd pound them with questions, "Are you okay?" "What happened today?" "Did you have a fight with your friend?" "Why are you so quiet?"

Until one day, my middle daughter said, "Mom... I know you want to help, but I just need time to work through this myself... can you just let me be?"

Wow... what a bombshell that was.

Although my intentions were good, I was actually robbing my kids of the ability to learn to self-regulate their emotions, to work through life's ups and downs on their own, and to find their way back and put life in perspective.

We're moms and dads... we're SO used to fixing everything. But our kids' moods don't need fixing.

What our kids need is understanding, empathy, a listening ear if they're accepting, a big hug (again, if they're accepting), and a big bowl of ice cream or their favorite snack. Let's give them the freedom to learn a powerful skill they'll carry with them through life... self-regulation. 💜

Inspired by a great IG account: .holistic.psychologist on IG

01/04/2025

Parents, please read, especially if you have sons.

30/03/2025

Have a lovely Sunday 💐

13/11/2024

What a fantastic idea.. please share with anyone you feel may benefit.

09/11/2024

13 years ago today I graduated as a Counsellor, after studying for 5 years (part time). Wow what a journey it has been. I have met the most incredible clients (supported well over 500 individuals with all sorts of difficulties) and I am feeling very proud. I love my job, even though it’s really tough at times. I also start a new adventure in January, at a local school, on top of my private work, so exciting times ahead. 🩷