18/10/2025
I love how Donna Ashworth reframes the impact of menopause. This post really resonates with me as a menopausal woman where all the symptoms were crippling and I felt like I had lost myself, this reframe of viewing the changes as a chance to lose all the layers placed on the various versions of myself at each chapter feels so positive, empowering and freeing.
If you are stuck in the debilitating menopause chapter, have a read of Donna's wise words and try this reframe to help manage your thinking. I hope it helps you.
I have this theory that the menopause is there to unpick us…
Not the real ‘us’ but the versions created by society and its superwoman expectations.
The versions created by the impact of decades of fertility hormones, childbirth, mothering, or the lack of all that.
A heart broken and rebuilt a million times over and a body completely exhausted by constantly reinventing itself to fit the mould of that particular chapter.
I think the menopause strips us bare.
Not to humiliate but to eventually FREE us.
And aren’t we so very lucky now that we have such control over HOW we rebuild.
These hormones that plague us so become ours to curate and administer.
And the biggest weapon of all is ours to brandish - SHARING.
No shame, fear or symptom can thrive in the light of our shared wisdom and experience.
The power is ours, what a thing.
And I’m not for a minute daring to say that any of this undoing is easy - but show me a phase of your life ruled by hormones that was easy, my love. We know what it is to battle, you and me.
I have this theory that the menopause is there to unpick the versions of ourselves we are far too brilliant and wise for now.
And we get to rebuild in the shape of something far more fitting…
the woman we were meant to be, all along.
Donna
(If you are stuck in the throes of menopause and cannot see a way out, please train your algorithms to follow these amazing women who will remind you we are here to thrive and not just survive…)
There are so many others but this following of the above will bring many more your way. Isn’t that just the joy of an algorithm.
Donna ###