13/11/2025
Helping Children Who Struggle with School Anxiety
I’ve been working with so many children lately who are struggling with school phobia or worries about going to school. It’s something I’m seeing more and more, and it can be really tough for both children and parents.
Here are some gentle strategies that can make a real difference.
Listen and validate
Let your child know their feelings are okay. Instead of trying to fix it straight away, try saying, “I can see that feels really hard for you.”
Feeling heard helps calm the nervous system.
Keep routines consistent
Predictability creates safety. Try to keep mornings calm and steady, with breakfast, getting dressed, and leaving the house in the same order each day.
Use small steps
If school feels overwhelming, break it down. Start with visiting the playground, saying hello to a teacher, or staying for a short part of the day.
Success grows from small wins.
Build calm and confidence at home
Relaxation techniques, mindfulness, and gentle breathing before school can help children begin their day from a calm place.
Focus on connection, not correction
When children feel anxious, what they need most is connection, extra cuddles, positive attention, and reassurance that they are loved no matter what.
Encourage their voice
Talk about what feels difficult at school and what helps them feel safe. Creative tools like drawing, storytelling, or a “worry journal” can make it easier for children to express themselves.
Balance the conversations about school
It’s easy for after-school chats to focus on the negatives, like who said what or what went wrong.
Try to gently shift the focus towards the positives too.
Ask questions such as, “What made you smile today?”, “Who did you enjoy spending time with?”, “What kind thing did you or someone else do?”, “What are you proud of from today?”, or “What was the best thing you learned?”
This helps your child’s mind associate school with safety, connection, and positive experiences.
If your child struggles with school anxiety, hypnotherapy can help them feel calmer, more confident, and more in control.
If you would like to chat about how I can support your child, please get in touch.
