17/08/2023
Jill, 32, has found herself in a history of toxic relationships.
She’s drawn to men who challenge her, give mixed messages, and who can’t emotionally regulate. In her last relationship with Dan, she cried herself to sleep many nights. At the end of their relationship, she was having gut issues and dizziness.
He was bad for her health.
The breakup hit Jill hard. As unhealthy as they were together, she missed everything about him. She loved his charm and the feeling she had around him. But she chose herself.
After reading and learning all about emotional patterns, attachment, and generational trauma, Jill was gaining self awareness. Instead of shaming herself for always picking the wrong men, she started to have empathy for herself.
These men were a lot like her father. The dynamics in her relationships were all similar to the dynamics she witnessed between her parents. She always wondered why her mom stayed. Now, she understood.
Jill spends 6 months creating a sleep routine, walking every day, drinking plenty of water, and getting to know who she actually is from reading .
She’s healing.
Ready to date, she connects with Jordan. Jordan is calm, open, expressive, and in touch with his true nature. He lacks the false bravado she’s typically attracted to. He’s also direct and clear. His words align with his actions.
Jill is noticing she sees him as boring. Her body craves the excitement and feelings of fireworks. Educated and aware, she knows that is actually dysregulation from her nervous system. She gives Jordan a chance. She knows that her physical responses have led her wrong in the past.
A year later, her and Jordan are in a relationship. Jordan is caring, has integrity, and just being around him calms her down. Jill loves him deeply, and she still feels bored from time to time. Jealousy and explosive fights have turned into nights in, planting a guarded, and going hiking.
One night they’re sitting out back. They’re laughing and listening to music. Jordan looks at her and says “want me to turn on the grill for dinner?” Jill smiles.
She chose herself. She gave herself the peace she never knew and always wanted
