15/01/2026
When a child is mid-meltdown, they’re not choosing chaos.
They’re in distress.
A meltdown isn’t “bad behaviour” — it’s a nervous system overload. And in that moment, your child doesn’t need a lecture, a consequence, or a power struggle.
They need safety.
They need you to be their calm when their brain can’t find it.
This is the bit that’s hardest for adults (because we’re human too): the words they shout in overwhelm aren’t the truth of who they are. They’re the spill-over of a brain that’s flooded.
So if you’re in the thick of it right now, here’s your reminder:
Less talking. Softer voice. Lower demands. Stay close enough to feel safe.
We don’t calm children down — we calm with them. 💜
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