Grief and Living After Loss

Grief and Living After Loss Grief and emotional wellbeing holistic therapist.

Empowering people to heal in their grief, reconnect to their self & build resilliance, confidence and purpose after loss

I miss my Dad!The whole point of being an expert in grief and death and learning how to live with it, is about learning ...
30/11/2025

I miss my Dad!

The whole point of being an expert in grief and death and learning how to live with it, is about learning how to feel it deeply alongside living deeply.

As I think about him, I go to clear out a draw and find the order of service for my Dad and my brother.
This time of yr (the last 3 months!) always feels like a whopper,

Sept:
My birthday 20th
(complicated to explain how birthdays change when you shared them with your hubby. And I am a massive birthday person!)
Husband’s birthday 29th
Oct:
17th husbands death date
Nov:
Big Court case month around husbands death, all sh*tty
22nd father in laws death date
Funeral month for husband
Dec:
1st Dads death date
7th brothers death date
28th Dad’s birthday
Jan
Funeral month for Dad and brother

All of these days have very vivid memories that feel complicated to share in an fb post. The last quarter of every year and start of the next year is always full of mixed emotions, a roller coaster of life events and birthdays and Christmas and new year. So much pain and love.

There is no real point in this post, just a memory in time, moments and sharing, cause that is what grief is, memories and love and a life once lived in joy and happiness that still comes with us. A life where we keep our loved ones alive whilst we learn to live fully and deeply within the heartache and love.

My Dad comes through, always; through Elvis songs every time my sister and I walk into a restaurant/cafe, in every spiritual reading I have, through the kick up the bum in my head to post more about my business, when I try and mow the lawn in the appalling fashion that I do (no one will ever have his lawn mowing skills!) in the photos of him and my mum dancing, in the memories of him listening and not uttering a word of disappointment even though he probably should have, in his silent pain in a world he tried so hard to love each and every day, in his smile for the simple things and his loyalty in a world he found hard.
The biggest heart but not always socially acceptable, I relate!
Love is complicated and messy, wonderful and powerful.
I miss you and love you and would give anything for you to mow my law and give you a ham sandwich and beer for your efforts ###

Grief journaling promotes self-discoveryJournaling fosters a deeper connection with yourself. It encourages self-reflect...
20/11/2025

Grief journaling promotes self-discovery

Journaling fosters a deeper connection with yourself.
It encourages self-reflection and self-compassion during a time when you need it most. 💕

Thought of the day…
14/11/2025

Thought of the day…

13/11/2025

Who are you after loss?

Loss and trauma can strip away who we are, we can feel disconnected from ourselves and our life.

My life coaching program is here to guide you back to yourself and help you take action to move from surviving to thriving after loss.

When feeling your feelings is hard, try journaling and see if it is easier. Maybe it won’t, but you won’t loose anything...
12/11/2025

When feeling your feelings is hard, try journaling and see if it is easier. Maybe it won’t, but you won’t loose anything from trying, you will however, gain some more self awareness for trying.

Take the small steps, look after yourself and invest your time and energy in yourself. You are worth it 🧡

Feeling your feelings can be hard and painful. But your feelings need to move through you and shift and change. Feeling ...
11/11/2025

Feeling your feelings can be hard and painful. But your feelings need to move through you and shift and change. Feeling them and acknowledging them helps them to keep moving and not get stuck in your body. Feeling and acknowledging them stops emotions to get stuck in your body and cause dis-ease. It might feel scary to feel but it is how our bodies work and what they need to do.

Take the small steps, look after yourself and invest your time and energy in yourself.

You are worth it 🧡 and I am here to help

Rediscovering JoyThrough the pain of grief, we often rediscover the small joys in life. Whether it’s a beautiful sunset ...
11/11/2025

Rediscovering Joy

Through the pain of grief, we often rediscover the small joys in life. Whether it’s a beautiful sunset or a warm cup of tea, these moments remind us that joy can coexist with sorrow. Cherish those little things! ☕🌅

Take the small steps, look after yourself and invest your time and energy in yourself. You are worth it 🧡
10/11/2025

Take the small steps, look after yourself and invest your time and energy in yourself. You are worth it 🧡

Grief journaling helps you to connect with othersSharing your journal entries can foster connection with others who are ...
10/11/2025

Grief journaling helps you to connect with others

Sharing your journal entries can foster connection with others who are grieving.
Your words may resonate and create a sense of community. 🌍

Doing the grief work consists of small steps. Things that can sometimes seem pointless and too small to matter, bigger t...
08/11/2025

Doing the grief work consists of small steps.

Things that can sometimes seem pointless and too small to matter, bigger tasks that can feel exhausting and everything in between.

Grief takes so much energy, so adding things to do can feel like a massive no way! I have been there, felt that and sometimes still can!

Working on ourselves, even the small steps, investing time and energy into ourselves can be tough when we have low energy, feel sad, exhausted, broken hearted and are full of pain.

Working on yourself and taking the time for you may feel hard, but it is also very worth it. Worth it to stop surviving and start living. Worth it to create a life you can feel happiness again without guilt and honour your loved ones. Worth it for your memories to become a comfort not just painful. Worth it to build your resilience and be a healthy guide to others around you, including children, showing how to grieve in a healthy way. Worth it to increase your emotional well-being and intelligence, have better self awareness and react to any triggers. Worth it because you are worth it, you thriving keeps your loved ones memory alive. Worth it because you have things to do, maybe other people to help, goals to achieve, maybe in the memory and name of your loved ones.

Making time can also feel an issue, but what is the alternative? Ignoring how you feel, pretending your life isn’t what it is and holding on to the pain or working through it so your pain of love lost becomes your voice of love that wants to be heard and expressed. We don’t stop grieving and the pain can come back again and again. BUT, the pain can change, transform and shift so you can breathe freely between your grief, you can live and thrive in it and around it, you can genuinely smile and mean it.

Take the small steps, look after yourself and invest your time and energy in yourself. You are worth it 🧡

Finding Strength in VulnerabilityGrief teaches us the power of vulnerability. By allowing ourselves to feel, we open the...
07/11/2025

Finding Strength in Vulnerability

Grief teaches us the power of vulnerability. By allowing ourselves to feel, we open the door to healing and discover a strength we didn't know we had. Embrace your feelings; they are part of your journey. 💪✨

Gratitude can be very hard, especially in grief, but it changes your mind set and builds resilience. So, with that in mi...
06/11/2025

Gratitude can be very hard, especially in grief, but it changes your mind set and builds resilience.

So, with that in mind, can you find some gratitude for the smallest of things today?

Gratitude for having a toothbrush, gratitude for your bed to hide from the world in, gratitude for a front door to keep the world out and the warm in, gratitude for your glass of water or your phone… gratitude for no rain, or for your hair brush and nail clippers.

We have so much “stuff” that half the time we don’t notice it. Can you use it to give your body and mind a break from sadness and pain and look for the random things you can feel grateful for.

Comment below the most random thing you are grateful for 🧡

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I am a widowed mother to my gorgeous boy Oliver and my two furbabies, Kester and Jax. Oliver has a rare life long kidney disease that I manage with food and medicine. It hasn’t been easy, but he has a ‘normal’ life with not too many disruptions. I have suffered with anxiety and depression since my husband died as well weight issues and stress. Anxiety and overwhelm were a continuous problem for me and something I had to manage for years and became a problem again when my father died in 2019.

I have learnt so much because of the tough times in my life and am grateful that I have been able to find the help I needed to manage my grief and change my life so I can have a fun filled life with lots of possibilities and opportunities, and to help others.

I run my Life and Grief Transformational Coaching Practise in Kent, but have clients from all over as I work online as well as face to face.

I support people to heal from the pain of grief. I run a programme to teach people the tools to recover from grief and focus on the memories instead. I then support my clients to figure out what is next and discover what they truly want in their life. Work out what is holding people back and use habit change and mindset to move people forward towards their wants and goals.